Calling daughter husband's Ex's name?

Noooo, never would I be happy to call my child my exes name. Actually I think it’s really weird that your DH is happy to name his child by the same name as someone he was with for a few years (and even possibly slept with!” Sorry, nope nope nope

Hell would freeze over before I named my baby after my DH’s ex girlfriend, but I am not a chill person. He suggested we name our son the name of someone I dated in school and even that gave me a bit of an ick, couldn’t handle it actually being a significant ex.

I don't see the issue. She was a moment in time in your husband's past.
As you say it's a common name. Many other people will have it. You don't need to ask her permission to use it you are not naming your child after her and she doesn't own the name.

If it's the only name you both like use it
Your husband'a family will soon just come to associate it with your child not his ex girlfriend .

I don't think I would. Just after having a baby is quite an emotionally difficult time and I wouldn't want anything that could make that worse. I'd keep name hunting. If it's quite a timeless name then maybe there are others in a similar vein? Can you name change and start another thread and ask for names with a similar vibe or sound to Charlotte (or whatever the name is)?

Why do people have to be so uptight about ex relationships? Of course it’s fine. Why would anyone care? Surely everyone who is aware of it is an adult and can mentally cope with the idea that there is an ex partner in the world who you guys have an amicable but very faint connection with, and the child is not being named after her

I cant decide about this one. On balance, it feels like too close a connection.

Very weird.
Nope, just nope.
You dont say what your husband thinks?
Are you seriously happy for you and your husband to remember his ex everytime he says your daughters name?

It isn’t unlike people might think that her husband chose the name after his ex. I would.

Weird. Quite strange that it doesn’t bother you. It would really bother me.

No too weird
there’s plenty of timeless lovely names out there to choose from

Asking her permission is mental. But tbh using her name is too.

Not weird as not an unusual name.

My cousin named her baby same as a school bully of mine (cousin didn't know). Initially I thought 'rubbish name' as I associated it with school bully. Now years later I think it is a lovely name as I associate it with my 2nd cousin. Associations change very quickly.

Your dad went out with a girl called Cadburyegg?

Very odd to even thinking of ‘asking her permission’ I really think you need to have a look at other names.

No way, there's a name I always really liked, but is the name of husbands ex so there's no way I would use it (and we've all had dinner together, so no bad feelings!). But it would have been bizarre to use the name

I have the same name as one of my dad’s exes. My mum didn’t know at the time, otherwise she would never have agreed to it. I still feel weirded out and annoyed by the whole thing. Don’t do it, it’s weird.

You can call your baby any name you want to, in no way is it strange a name is for everyone not just one particular person, so rest assured your baby may have the same name as someone you know, but your baby will be its own person growing up , so dont even give it a second thought, enjoy the rest of your pregnancy & a very big good luck for when your new precious bundle arrives

The fact you are asking MN shows you have doubts, so don’t do it. There are thousands of suggestions online for baby names, narrow them down to a few then decide. Good luck x

I would under no circumstances name someone after an ex. That just seems bizarre and wrong. No name could be that worth having.

Also you associate names with people so the fact your husband likes the name of his ex is giving …

I’m sorry but NO.

There are thousands of beautiful names. Avoid your husband’s ex partner’s name. It will make people on his side uncomfortable. It can’t be that nice!!

You might not think it odd, but all his friends & family certainly will.

Also just imagine the ex seeing Facebook post from him showing off Baby "Emma", she will then be straight in his DM's asking if this is because he still has feelings for her. Next thing you husband & ex are having an affair. 😉

We had this situation as well OP - except it was an old, much briefer ex of mine. The association didn't bother me at all - and DH couldn't have cared less - but we ultimately didn't go for it as it would have raised a few eyebrows in my friendship circle, and I just didn't want that.

I still sometimes wish we'd done it though, it's a great name! But in the end a name is with them all their life, so if it raises eyebrows or causes even a bit of a ruffle maybe it's best not?

I wouldn't fancy it personally but it's completely up to you. I definitely wouldn't be asking her permission though, you're not actually naming your child after her because that would be seriously weird 😂

You don’t have to ask permission but there will be people wondering if you know it’s ex’s name and/ot think that your h is hung up on her. Is there a similar name or shortening you can use like Katie for Kitty?