Would you personally use a name everyone hates?

I have very nearly called my child Israel. I do not regret changing my mind once he was born.

Just tell us the name, if it's Amber, Lola, Ruby then they are fine. Not everyone is going to like the name you choose, that's just a fact. If you choose a classic name some will say it's a boring, dull choice.

Really? Not Charlie and Lola?

Is it along the lines of Ruby/Sapphire? Because I wouldn’t personally associate this sort of name with stripper names! Also remember that your children’s generation will have entirely different associations when they’re older to what adults today do. There are way more outlandish names coming into fruition now so by the time Gen Z/Alpha are older the goalposts will have completely changed and when they’re 30 I can’t imagine they’d be too bothered about what people in their 60s, 70s and 80s think of their name. I, nor anyone I know, have ever heard of my name before and I love having an unusual name that I never hear! I’d much prefer to have a unique name

It’s really hard to comment without knowing the name. I doubt it’s a name ‘everyone’ hates as there are so many differing opinions and tastes out there. If it’s not ridiculous then use it. But like I said, it’s pretty pointless to ask for opinions on a name without stating the name 🙈

If it’s similar to Emerald, then I wonder if it’s Ruby - which is a perfectly normal name. I have a wonderful niece called Ruby, and she has a best friend with the same name. If it’s Amber, I love that name! I tend to prefer more traditional girls names, but Amber was on my list for if DS2 was a girl.

My mother’s opinion would be the one I definitely didn’t listen to. She has appalling judgement 😂

I was really nervous about the non-traditional name we really like - I’ve secretly told four people now what it is and they’ve actually really liked it. Whether our little one turns out to suit that name, we won’t know until she gets here.

I do think the important thing is that you like it and you teach her to like it. I had a non-traditional name for my time and loved it as a kid (it’s more mainstream now).

And stripper names change. Wait until they’re all Khaleesi’s and Nevaeh’s and no-one will bat an eyelid at your daughter’s name 😂

(edited a typo)

I think you’re asking the wrong people (irl, not here). It takes some nerve to say to a pregnant woman's face that you think the name they’re considering is awful and I think suggests a certain lack of imagination and social skills. I doubt very much “everyone” hates it.

I would say definitely don’t choose a boring common name, but choose a name you and your partner both like and means something to you, that you like the meaning of and you like the way it would sound with their surname. And don’t discuss your options with these people again!

I have a name that is usually taken the piss out of. Stripper, common, thick etc. I have spent my whole life being embarrassed by it and trying to prove that I'm not like my name. I am a typical overachiever. When I reached the pinnacle of my career,think professor, Dr, judge etc, someone said " isn't it hilarious having someone with your name at that level,doesn't sound right at all"
Please don't do that to your child,it's grossly unfair.

I wouldn’t. The negative reactions are coming from a desire to protect your DD from the repercussions of your name choice in future. A stripper name will bias people against her unfortunately. Can’t you use it as a middle name?

There’s a journalist called Topaz Amoore.
I’ve always thought it was a great name.
It’s all about pairing with your surname, IMO.

My mother’s opinion would be the one I’d listen to.

What is it? I’ll be honest.

I wouldn't be settled on a name at 20 weeks and tell everyone. I'd wait until born and have a few possibilities and choose then.

Ruby is quite mainstream, so is it Sapphire? (Could be Topaz, but that’s actually quite quirky-chic - it’s the name of a character in Dodie Smith’s 1930s-set I Capture the Castle.)

I do actually know a small Sapphire. She’s known as Saffy so everyone presumes her name is Saffron unless they see it in a formal context. It quite suits her and it isn’t actually too “stripper”.

I assume it’s Crystal in which case I do think it’s too stripper sorry

Emerald?

I would much prefer to be called a boring, safe name than something that other people hate!

You could use the unusual name as her middle name and maybe it could be your pet name for her at home?

I agree. My use of 'universally' was misleading. I was using it in the context of the OP saying "everyone" she has mentioned it to has had a very negative response. That would make me rethink. The whole world? Nah. As I said, Im fully aware my name choice is not universally liked (or disliked).

You might have to just say the name (you’re still anonymous!) to get proper help from this thread. Having people feedback directly on honest thoughts on a name is better than having people in your real life potentially upset you.

If it is something like Crystal or Britney from what you’ve said, I can see why people may have opinions but don’t think it is super crazy?

I disagree that Tiffany is a stripper name. I think of Eastenders or Terry Pratchett. And Roxie I think of Chicago. So everyone can have different associations with names. It’s hard for us to say unless you tell us the name!

This is why you don’t discuss the name before the baby is born.

Call the baby what you want.

I wouldn't give a child a name if i knew others would think it is a stripper name.
I would choose an unusual name I really loved , which I thought they'd love too and wouldn't cause grief growing up.

I think the Dr and Professor thing is a bit daft, unless we’re saying only middle class children go on to study medicine. I went to school with someone called Dean who studied medicine.

My name is unusual though and while it’s nice not to be a Claire or Rebecca or Sarah it is a headache. I can’t just blend in, and sometimes I’ve wanted to blend in.