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Tkoko · 2025-06-22T09:17:08+00:00

I am struggling to understand if I can give to my son the same name as my brother did to his? Although there are so many names I just love the name Evan that my nephew has. Although we live in different countries I still don’t feel like I have a right to do it. What do you think?

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Zebralie · 23/06/2025 13:50

There are far nicer and more interesting names than Evan.

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Tkoko · 23/06/2025 12:46

ForZanyAquaViewer · 23/06/2025 12:45

Literally any other name. Every single name that has been suggested on this thread is nicer than Evan. It is not a nice name.

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Why do you think it’s not nice? I really want to know… I want to understand more

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ForZanyAquaViewer · 23/06/2025 12:45

Tkoko · 23/06/2025 12:05

Which one do you think are more beautiful?

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Literally any other name. Every single name that has been suggested on this thread is nicer than Evan. It is not a nice name.

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Tkoko · 23/06/2025 12:05

DinaofCloud9 · 22/06/2025 21:33

I don't think Evan is that great a name that it's worth all this angst. It's not exactly some special, out there, individual name.

Which one do you think are more beautiful?

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ohnonotthisargumentagain · 23/06/2025 10:16

Unfortunately you will upset your brother and his wife, the other child, the grandparents and lastly your own son because being called ‘little’ by the family is not much fun once you are grown.

BootballJoy · 23/06/2025 09:48

I always thought Evan was a Welsh name- well, maybe more an anglicised version of a Welsh name? I might be wrong on that but it doesn't seem Slavic to me at all.

(Nor does Ewan, which you also mention. That seems very Scottish to me.)

Personally I'd go for Anton, Alexei or Alexander. Or Max. Max is a great name.

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Tkoko · 23/06/2025 09:05

yestothat · 22/06/2025 21:52

There’s so many names, there must be something else you like.

for what it’s worth, Evan is really not that nice of a name. It’s very boring and not worth all this upset.

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Timeforyetanothernamechange · 22/06/2025 22:09

I wouldn't. Due a girl soon and there's a reason we can't use what was our favourite name. Family harmony and avoiding upset with this relative is more important to us. I did consider asking but, in all honesty, I'm not even sure I could trust the reply because so many people would say yes it's fine because they were put on the spot. For what it's worth, once we accepted we couldn't use it, we found something we both love. There will be another name.

LightBuIb · 22/06/2025 22:00

I would't.

You could have:

Ovan
Origin: Rare Slavic variant of Ivan, used in some Serbian or Croatian contexts.

Egon
Origin: Slavic and Germanic, meaning "edge of a sword" or "strong."

Elan
Origin: Slavic, meaning "energy" or "zeal" (also found in other cultures).

Vukan
Origin: Serbian, meaning "wolf" or derived from Slavic mythology (Vulcan-like fire god).

Savan
Origin: Slavic, variant of Sava, linked to the Sava River or meaning "wise" in some contexts.

All, imo, much more adventurous and less common than Evan.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 22/06/2025 21:57

Tkoko · 22/06/2025 12:50

yes, I would love to but don’t think I will. The thing is that I live in Italy I am Slavic I need a name that suits well both cultures, is easy to pronounce for both families, has Slavic roots and the one that I like. I know everyone suggests Luca but it’s everywhere… and I don’t like it..

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I don't think Evan even meets these criteria, does it?

lovemycbf · 22/06/2025 21:55

No that’s weird and I’d not be happy if my family member did it to me

yestothat · 22/06/2025 21:52

Tkoko · 22/06/2025 21:23

I love him so much that feel bad to give a name that I don’t like((( unfortunately there is not a single name apart from Evan that I like … I wish I had more options… of course I know it’s not ok to give same name ..but giving smth that you don’t like is a pity

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There’s so many names, there must be something else you like.

for what it’s worth, Evan is really not that nice of a name. It’s very boring and not worth all this upset.

CheeseWisely · 22/06/2025 21:52

Ps.. I also love the name Evan and only reluctantly ruled it out for our DS because my ex’s surname is Evans

CheeseWisely · 22/06/2025 21:50

My SIL is due a little boy soon, and admitted to DH that one of her favourite names is our DS’s name. I told him to tell her emphatically to use it if she wants to, doesn’t bother me at all. Likewise they live in a different country so they will likely only see each other every couple of years. In the end they’ve gone with a different name but it wouldn’t have been an issue for us.

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Tkoko · 22/06/2025 21:46

AnneMarieW · 22/06/2025 21:41

Well, what does your brother think OP? And your parents? Really for the sake of family harmony they are the people that matter. I doubt the boys themselves will care that they have the same name - especially if they are living in different countries, won’t be at the same schools etc, but imo it’s not worth causing a family rift over a name if your brother or even your parents are against it.

Personally I come from a huge family where using the same name is considered fine for different generations (so father and son, uncle and nephew or 1st cousin and 2nd cousin etc- they either go by nicknames or end up called “big name” and “little name” because of the age differences on the rare occasions the family all gets together) - but I don’t know if it might be a bit more odd for your parents to have two grandchildren of the same name and of a fairly similar age.

And unfortunately Evan doesn’t even really have a nickname to differentiate between the cousins either. Maybe have a look at your family tree and see if there is anything else suitable further back down the generations? Maybe you are drawn to Evan precisely because it’s already in your family iykwim?

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I didn’t say anything yet to them, because I feel it’s wrong.

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AnneMarieW · 22/06/2025 21:41

Well, what does your brother think OP? And your parents? Really for the sake of family harmony they are the people that matter. I doubt the boys themselves will care that they have the same name - especially if they are living in different countries, won’t be at the same schools etc, but imo it’s not worth causing a family rift over a name if your brother or even your parents are against it.

Personally I come from a huge family where using the same name is considered fine for different generations (so father and son, uncle and nephew or 1st cousin and 2nd cousin etc- they either go by nicknames or end up called “big name” and “little name” because of the age differences on the rare occasions the family all gets together) - but I don’t know if it might be a bit more odd for your parents to have two grandchildren of the same name and of a fairly similar age.

And unfortunately Evan doesn’t even really have a nickname to differentiate between the cousins either. Maybe have a look at your family tree and see if there is anything else suitable further back down the generations? Maybe you are drawn to Evan precisely because it’s already in your family iykwim?

ForZanyAquaViewer · 22/06/2025 21:37

DinaofCloud9 · 22/06/2025 21:33

I don't think Evan is that great a name that it's worth all this angst. It's not exactly some special, out there, individual name.

These were my thoughts! It’s such a meh name to be inspiring all this angst!

OP, it’s probably hormones, but you’re being ridiculous. You have not ‘gone through ever name’ and there will be others that you like. And whatever you name him will be his name and you won’t be able to think of him as anything else. You won’t be looking at your 25 year old son Alex and weeping because he’s not called Evan.

DinaofCloud9 · 22/06/2025 21:33

I don't think Evan is that great a name that it's worth all this angst. It's not exactly some special, out there, individual name.

baggieAnn · 22/06/2025 21:29

It’s absolutely fine, my partners sister and cousin are both called Hayley. There were never any particular issues they’ve mentioned.

Plus my son is called Evan too and it’s the only name I liked too, it’s lovely ❤️

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Tkoko · 22/06/2025 21:23

yestothat · 22/06/2025 21:18

Of course you can

but it’s mean to your nephew and your own son, don’t you like either of them enough to give your son his own name?

I love him so much that feel bad to give a name that I don’t like((( unfortunately there is not a single name apart from Evan that I like … I wish I had more options… of course I know it’s not ok to give same name ..but giving smth that you don’t like is a pity

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yestothat · 22/06/2025 21:18

Of course you can

but it’s mean to your nephew and your own son, don’t you like either of them enough to give your son his own name?

Gloschick · 22/06/2025 21:16

Tkoko · 22/06/2025 20:51

I live in Milan… and my best friends’ son name is Milan… so no)

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Oops! Sorry, fair enough. Jovan?

DiamondThrone · 22/06/2025 21:04

Zebralie · 22/06/2025 12:16

Of course you can’t!

Names are used to IDENTIFY people. You can’t name two grandsons and nephews the exact same name

Literally people have been doing that forever?

Is this a joke?

Or are you going to come after all the people who named their son Mohamed? Or Patrick?

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Tkoko · 22/06/2025 20:51

Gloschick · 22/06/2025 20:18

Would Milan work? Slavic name with similar feel to Evan, and also Italian link.

I live in Milan… and my best friends’ son name is Milan… so no)

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tinytemper66 · 22/06/2025 20:38

No.