Brother wants to use my name

Change her child's name so her brother can't use it? What??

Just start calling your 2nd Daughter by her middle name as a nickname.

I wouldn't use the middle name for 3rd child.
It creates some false bond between the two of them that excludes the 3rd sister.
And will always be a 'thing' about them.

Eliza is nicer than Esme imo. So is Elizabeth.
Or Elsie.

I wouldn't use it. Not because your brother and his partner like it for their hypothetical future daughter (may never happen and likely to have changed their mind by then, if ever it does), but because you've already used it for your daughter's middle name. It will look to your third daughter that you couldn't be bothered to think of anything new for her. I know many people use names they considered in previous pregnancies but you didn't just consider it, you actually used it as part of her name.

I've known people to use the same middle name for multiple children, as it's a family name, but using a middle name of one child as the first name for another seems really lazy, like to you couldn't be bothered to think of anything different for that child.

You've already used it on your second daughter.

My first name is my older sister's middle name (it's pretty unusual too). We joke about it on occasion but there's no issues with it - my sister has a distinctive first name of her own and middle names are rarely used in reality. I'd just use Esme if you love it!

You've had 2 girls already and already used Esme as a middle name - let it go! Choose something else for number 3.

You're actually pregnant, she isn't so have what you like
Personally, I much prefer Eliza to Esme, but it's not weird to use a name twice
The Royal Family do this all the time

How will your other daughter feel about being the only one without the name connection?

Go for something else. Maybe something more unusual, Asra?

Think of other names that you like.
You have used Esme for your second daughter so she might want to use that one day herself.

Alizee
Ester
Aster
Elsie
Maisie

No one gets dibs on a name.
It’s why you should never disclose potential baby names until your child arrives and you announce the name. Someone else might have a baby first and use a name from your shortlist because they heard it and liked it.

if your daughter is born first, you can use the name.

also think it’s weird to use her middle name as her sister’s first name. Not weird for your brother though.

theres a reason you didn’t use it before

Is the reason you don’t really want him to use it is because it’s nice for your child to feel their name is individual and chosen especially for them ?

If so - I really don’t think you can name your child the same as the middle name of their sibling.

Domino hoo hoo!!

Did your brother know it’s one of your top names? If yes then he shouldn’t be surprised if you use it. If no then it will look like you picked it after your conversation.

So you already have 2 dds, and didn't use the name....? I'm not sure you can tell your brother not to use it.

My friends middle name is her sisters first name. My friend is the eldest.

i don’t find it strange at all.

however I do prefer Eliza out of your two names,

As teenagers my friend told us all we couldn’t use a certain girls name. None of us used it and lo and behold she never had any children.

Very odd to use your daughter’s middle name as a first name for your other daughter. When they’re older and realise this, this might be a sore spot for the girls.

Not weird for brother to use it but almost irrelevant because they’re not having a baby yet.

Eliza’s a lovely alternative. Elodie is also nice. You could have Emilie and shorten it to Emme/Emmie if you like the sound.

Your love for Esme has only been renewed because of your brother saying he wanted to use it. If you REALLY loved it that much, after two DDs, you would already have used it for a first name.

I absolutely love Eliza but - just a tongue in cheek word of warning - it’s my DDs middle name & today she bought home her GCSE candidate information & pointing to her middle name said “does that HAVE to be on there?” 😂😂😂

Surely tho if you loved it that much you would’ve used it already ? It’s like it’s an almost name but it’s not quite right for whatever reason .
Now if you name your DD Esme it’s gonna cause upset for a name that you ain’t been sure about for years .
Give her a fresh name . Maybe it will give you a special bond with any future niece .

I think given you didn't use it for your first daughter and then used it for your second daughter's middle name it's odd you now want to use it as a first name and does seem like it's just because your brother mentioned it.

Given you've used it as a middle name it would be strange to use it again and I would leave it for your brother to use it he and his wife chose it when the time comes.

Not really. Don't the royal family do this regularly?

Op , use it if you want. Dont save a name for someone that might never need it.