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Can anyone find a middle ground between me and DH’s name lists?

213 replies

namepains · 25/05/2025 21:57

Have NC’d for this Blush

DH and I have very, very different tastes when it comes to names. I’ll give you our lists below, but we’re nowhere close in terms of taste. What sounds nice to me DH hates and vice versa. I apologise profusely if anyone’s name comes up, I am really not meaning to offend anyone but names are very personal and tastes are very different. Please don’t take any offence and fwiw, my name always comes up on outdated/names people don’t like threads Grin for context, we live in Scotland and DH is Scottish, I’m English. If there’s a specific reason for DH not liking mine, I’ve put it next to the name.

My list:

Lily- too twee apparently
Rosie- he’s said he likes it but not enough to say it every day henceforth. He doesn’t like variations such as Rosaline/d, Rosa or Rose.
Daisy- brief period of time a girl wasn’t nice to DS with this name
Jasmine - Aladdin (who honestly thinks that!)
Ophelia- apparently pretentious, although I love Hamlet!
Scarlett
Tara- his first dog was called that so apparently he can’t name DD ‘after’ his dog Hmm
Emily
Ruby

DH’s list:

Michelle
Siobhan
Lisa
Louise
Mhairi
Bernadette

I particularly don’t like Bernadette and Siobhan. But honestly, I don’t like any of them. No connotations or personal issues with people with these names but I just don’t like them. Does anyone have any suggestions for a middle ground? I’m not sure there is one! We had a boy name agreed immediately but we’re worlds apart on a girls one Sad

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LimitedBrightSpots · 25/05/2025 23:07

Eliza is fab. Definitely moving away from its Victorian scullery maid connotations. I've also heard Ethel and Agatha used a few times, but they're both a step too far for me, although 'Aggie' is quite cute.

MoltenLasagne · 25/05/2025 23:06

When DH came out with similarly dated names, it turns out he'd been recalling the names of the cool/hot girls from school Hmm

His brother outed him for it before the baby arrived who was luckily a boy anyway...

LimitedBrightSpots · 25/05/2025 23:05

Your suggestions are pretty awful imo - well, maybe that's harsh but totally not my taste so I can see why he might struggle with them.

His are mostly awful including Louise (I've always found it a slightly wet name). Bernadette is great though and due a comeback.

My favourite strong names with a bit of a vintage vibe (which I suspect will find favour with neither of you 😂) are:
Christabel
Ramona
Andrea
Natalie
Romilly
Joanna
Claudia
Audrey
Vivien
Frances
Marianne

Sleepquestion87 · 25/05/2025 23:04

Jessica (Jessie) Alyssa, Zara, Danielle, Bernie, Ella, Bethany

mathanxiety · 25/05/2025 23:02

Has he been asleep for the last 40 years?
His names are comedy gold.

I sort of like Louise and Bernadette though. I know two little Bernadettes under 12 months and I suspect the name is having a resurgence.
The rest are really dated and not in a nice way.

That being said, I really only like Emily from your list, and I agree with his verdict on the rest of your names.

How do you feel about -
Jessica
Elsa
Colette
Rosemary
Roisin (should have fada accents on the O and the last I). I suggest this as he likes Siobhan, another Irish name. It means little Rose or darling Rose. Pronounced ROE-sheen.
Alannah

Fintoo · 25/05/2025 23:00

Lydia?

Imbusytodaysorry · 25/05/2025 22:59

namepains · 25/05/2025 21:59

Thank you @DeSoleilfor agreeing with me, he’s made it out that my ones are ridiculous/awful but imo his are dreadful!!

His list are def ex girlfriend crushes from school . Or movie stars lol

yours are much nicer .

MidnightScroller · 25/05/2025 22:59

Elsie? I like Eliza too though - and I think it’s better not to have first and surnames ending in “ie”

Calliopespa · 25/05/2025 22:57

If you could tweak to Elisa - which is also pretty - I reckon you’d have a deal he couldn’t refuse: it’s his name choice with a capital E

Renamed · 25/05/2025 22:56

Lola
Carmen
Ruth
Maudie
Julia

MerryPortas · 25/05/2025 22:54

His choices are incredibly dated.

yours are also slightly dated.

so I will suggest a few of my favourites:

Mirrin
Juliet
Jennifer
Anna
Mairi
Mhairi
Kirsten
Catriona

namepains · 25/05/2025 22:54

Okay soo

I don’t know who suggested it but I quite like Eliza. I asked DH and he said maybe! Now this could be a palm-off maybe, I’m not getting excited yet, but maybe is better than his usual flat-out no.

I feel like this is a drip feed, but you’ll notice I like names ending in ie sounds or y. Our surname does end in ie Blush

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LateNightReads · 25/05/2025 22:53

Is he Scottish? Eilidh?

MrsKateColumbo · 25/05/2025 22:52

I love Mhairi but fine that it doesn't work for you.

How about
Elodie
Mary
Therese (to be know as Tess)

ThisDaringCritic · 25/05/2025 22:51

DeSoleil · 25/05/2025 21:59

You’re names are fine, nothing spectacular but all good solid names

His choices are awful except for Louise.

This.

Itisallabitvague · 25/05/2025 22:50

Twinhearts · 25/05/2025 22:49

You seem to like flower names. What about Violet?

There was a girl in DD's class named Shea, similar to Siobhan but much more current.

Shea butter?????

Twinhearts · 25/05/2025 22:49

You seem to like flower names. What about Violet?

There was a girl in DD's class named Shea, similar to Siobhan but much more current.

Itisallabitvague · 25/05/2025 22:49

Ohmybiscuits · 25/05/2025 22:48

Niamh?

English people can't pronounce it....

wizzler · 25/05/2025 22:48

Marguerite
Bridie
Miriam
Margot
madeleine
lydia
katie

Nevertrustacop · 25/05/2025 22:48

Josephine, Catherine, Anna, Francesca, Julia, Mary, Una, Jean,

Itisallabitvague · 25/05/2025 22:48

Oooo Charlotte, it's not for me but might be a middle ground. Fiadh (Fia), Nora, Ellie, Ella, Sophie...

PawsAndTails · 25/05/2025 22:48

Seems like you like pretty names and his names are a bit sharper and punchy sounding.

If you like Rosie and he doesn't mind it, what about something like Rosalind/Rosalie and Rosie for short?

Ohmybiscuits · 25/05/2025 22:48

Niamh?

Allthesnowallthetime · 25/05/2025 22:48

Fionn

Iona

Ishbel

Calliopespa · 25/05/2025 22:48

Twinhearts · 25/05/2025 22:34

If you are nearly there with Rosie, what about Rosalie or Rosamund and then you can still eventually call her Rosie? :)

Amelia and Colleen are others that came to mind. Elisa or Alisa if you didn't mind Lisa.

I find that many men I know are stuck in the 80s with girl names, lol.

Yes or Alissa or even with spelling Alyssa?