Can’t compromise on a name

Alma
Emilia
Luna
Liana
Ruby
Daisy
Evelyn

Lucas
Milo
Jason
Jacob
Ezra

I think Amelie and Lily sound quite similar. Seeing as he already has a DD whose name starts with L, he could compromise quite easily with Amelie.
Conversely, Marcus is quite classic, and fits in the naming theme of your existing DC, so maybe it wouldn't be too big a compromise for you? Or maybe Miles/Milo, or Robert/Rupert/Robin?

Esther (nn Tessa if you want) - just why? 2 unrelated names, both 2 syllables.

Nina or Lucy for a girl? Leo for a boy?

You seem to prefer longer, more classic names whereas your DH likes them short.

I think Anna would be ideal for a girl - it fits well with Madeline, Thomas and Kane (Cain) as being biblical but like Lola, is popular internationally. Phoebe or Sophie would work too but I think Anna is the better fit.

For a boy, I like Jude as a short, sweet traditional name. Max, Harry, Levi or Sam are my other suggestions.

I have to say that Lola and Kane vs
Eleanor, Madeline and Thomas is a comedy contrast.

I realise that’s not v helpful - I think you need one of those match you up apps

Stella
Esther (nn Tessa if you want)
Estella
Eliza
Cassia
Allegra
Saskia
Verity
Ianthe
Cecily or Cecilia (Cece)
Leonie
Fenella
Annabel/la
Alexandra (Sacha)
Meredith (Merry)
Iris
Ida
Cora
Inez
Zara
Zoe
Robin
Nancy

Laurence nn Laurie
Philip nn Pip
Rufus
Lucas
Corin
Issac (Zac)
Matthias
Gabriel (Gabe)
Nathaniel (Nate)
Zachary (Zach)
Tobias (Toby)
Francis (Frank)
Abraham (Abe, Bram)
Nicholas (Nico)
Jacob (Jake)
Leonard (Leo, Lenny)
Jude
Joss
Rafe
Guy

Girls - Ada, Phoebe, Olivia, Ivy, Iris, Penelope, Vivienne, Margot, Sophia

Really like Amelie & Freya also.

Boys - Leo, Austin, Harrison, Zachary, Elijah, Tristan

Harry
rory
theo
joshua
rowan
lucas
stanley
jude
maxwell
franklin
vincent
elliott
spencer

eva
eliza
mia
rosa
eloise
cora
delilah
sophia
zara
chloe
elodie
nora
penelope

How about Liliana for a girl? Marcus doesn't seem so different from your names, and if he likes short names maybe find one with a long version you like

Apps called baby name together i think

Theres an app that you can both download and you swipe on names and it pings when you both match on a name. You can then make a list of the names you both agree on.

Ive had this same problem with the added complication that the name had to be from my partners country whos names i really cannot stand. We found out the sex at 16 weeks and its only yesterday at 27 weeks we finally came to an agreement and even then it wasn't either of our first choice. Naming them is so hard especially when you're style is so different.

I agree with @Enko , you need a traditional but (currently) less popular name. Also, your names are longer than his.

Could you choose a longer name, but have a shorter nn.

eg
Josephine, Josie
Victoria , Tori
Liliana, Lily
Lucinda, Lucy
Georgette,
Dorothy, Dotty
Penelope, Penny

His boy names are fairly classic
Daniel
Owen
Richard
Adam
Aiden
Samuel
Frederick

Ciara is Key-ra. Key-ara is Chiara. @CatsWhiskerz

What about Ciara (pronounced key- ara) it's like Clara but different enough

Aria
Belle
Charlotte
Daisy
Emilia
Florence
Grace
Hattie
Ivy
Jessica
Katie
Lara
Margot
Nora
Orla
Penelope
Rosie
Sara
Tillie
Violet
Willow
Zara

Albie/ Albert
Blake
Connor
Declan
Elliott
Freddie
Grant
Henry
Jackson
Kai
Lucas
Max
Noah
Otis
Reece
Spencer
Vincent
Wilfred
Zachary

Pick one each and decide that if it's a boy one of you gets first name and if it's a girl the other gets first name. When they get older they will have two very different names to pick from as the one they choose to use. Quite like:

Georgia Lily

Leon James

Marcus and Lily (Elizabeth) seem a good fit to me for both your styles.
Leo
Guy
Miles

Margot
Daisy (Margaret)
Caroline (Caro, Carrie)
Rosalind
Susanna (Susie, Suki)

I presume because Cain killed his brother out of jealousy. What a legacy.

I’d go for Lily. It’s classic enough to go with your children’s names but he likes it.

Alma
Nola
Vita

Leo
Fraser
Elliott

Maud?

What about Astrid for a girl?

Cecily
Camille

I love Arlo for a boy.

You have such different styles you’ll never agree. I would put all the names into a hat and pick one out which is child’s first name. Then whoever lost out can choose the middle name.

How come? I knew a few kanes at school.

I like Marcus best from all of them. Georgia is also lovely.

In case any spark anything, on my list i had:

Alice
Flora
Lara
Camilla
Caroline (Carrie)
Louisa
Erin
Matilda
Poppy
Ruby
Emma
Clara
Claudia
Niamh
Juliet
Serena
Rosa
Marianne
Jemima
Imogen
Georgina

Ralph
Austin
Marcus
Caleb
Henry
Jonah
Jude
Miles
Michael
Matthew
Patrick
Fraser
Tobin/Tobias (Toby)
Edmond/Edwin
Benjamin (benji/Ben?)
Benedict
Francis
Sebastian (seb)

Aria
Audrey
Beatrix
Blythe
Dahlia
Daphne
Hope
Ingrid
Maeve
Nadia
Romy (Rosemary?)
Sophie
Sylvie
Violet

Adam
Alec (Alexander?)
Arlo
Benjamin
Brendan
Conrad
Hugh/Hugo
Ivo/Ivor
Isaac
Jasper
Owen
Rafe
Raphael
Simon
Zachary