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Jude or Sebastian

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Phonsie · 05/03/2025 14:22

Hello lovely people!

I am struggling to decide a name for my son who is due in a months time! My current top names are Jude and Sebastian. Both names go equally well with the surname. I would absolutely love to know your thoughts. Other name recommendations are welcomed too!

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OccasionalHope · 08/03/2025 10:21

I love Sebastian,

I’ve never liked Jude.

Mirabai · 08/03/2025 10:15

Stardream27 · 08/03/2025 06:50

Love both

Particularly Jude. But if you've read any Thomas Hardy, Jude would be a no-go (if you haven't, don't read Jude the Obscure!!)

Good luck and congratulations :)

Read Jude the Obscure many times. Like the name Jude for that very reason, great novel.

MissedItByThisMuch · 08/03/2025 07:40

Sebastian definitely! Jude is very of-the-moment. Sebastian more classic.

Lassango · 08/03/2025 07:32

There will be so many Judes of the same age. So Sebastian.

Dazedandconfusedma · 08/03/2025 06:56

I like both a lot… probably because Jude makes me think of Jude Law, and Sebastian makes me think of the hot guy in the year above me when I was at school 😁

Gorgeousfeet · 08/03/2025 06:52

Zeldasie · 05/03/2025 17:15

Unfortunately Seb Isn't nice. It sounds so soft and oily (sebaceous). Shame because the full name is ok.

Therefore I'd choose Jude

Agree

Stardream27 · 08/03/2025 06:50

Love both

Particularly Jude. But if you've read any Thomas Hardy, Jude would be a no-go (if you haven't, don't read Jude the Obscure!!)

Good luck and congratulations :)

ArmyBarbie · 08/03/2025 06:37

I like them both but there are loads of little Judes around whereas I only know one Sebastian (Sebby) and he's the wonderful little boy of a good friend so it's a very positive association for me. So I'd go with Sebastian.

PonyPals · 08/03/2025 06:29

Sebastian is such a beautiful name! Jude makes me think of the word Rude

Bowling4soup · 08/03/2025 00:42

Jude!

Really not keen on Seb/bas as nicknames

Theoldwoman · 07/03/2025 13:21

Sebastian!!

What about:

Elijah
Elliot
Oliver

Mirabai · 07/03/2025 13:13

Like both. Prefer Sebastian. Seb and Bas are good nns.

Outd00rs · 07/03/2025 13:06

Don’t really like either - but sebastian is better but I also don’t to uni with one and he was called bast**rd for short (by horrible friends obvs but even so it now reminds me of that) - Jude is very popular where we live - there is three at our very small nursery and I would hate my kids to have a trendy name with stacks of them in one class. Similar ish names - Tobias? Elliot? Julian? Miles? jasper?

NearlyThere91 · 07/03/2025 12:38

Much prefer Jude!

FrenzyFriend · 07/03/2025 11:13

I like Jude. I dislike Sebastian very much.

Emanwenym · 07/03/2025 11:10

I dislike both. Sebastian is the better of the two.

MrsSkylerWhite · 07/03/2025 10:41

bzarda · Today 07:15

Sebastian to me will always be the crab from the little mermaid. Sebby as a nn I think is horrible so that would put me off.

Sebastian Flyte for me.

Ferrazzuoli · 07/03/2025 07:16

I like Sebastian, Seb is a nice nickname too.

bzarda · 07/03/2025 07:15

Sebastian to me will always be the crab from the little mermaid. Sebby as a nn I think is horrible so that would put me off.

Jude is lovely but it is becoming really popular if that bothers you. My little girl is almost 2 and we know lots of baby and toddler Judes.

HundredPercentUnsure · 07/03/2025 07:09

Moreteaandchocolate · 05/03/2025 14:56

Sebastian is one of my favourites- and I love the nn Seb!

Jude I find a bit trendy and I also know a few female Judes (short for Judith) so it sounds a bit feminine to me.

This!

Sebastian, Sebby, Seb 😍

Zeldasie · 07/03/2025 07:07

Sebastian but only if it doesn't get shortened because none of the nicknames sound any good unfortunately

Jude is easy to say and can't get shortened

Firsttimebabymummy · 07/03/2025 06:39

Sebastian for sure

MrsSkylerWhite · 07/03/2025 00:05

Sebastian is beautiful and timeless.

LilyJosephine · 07/03/2025 00:04

Sebastian for me - although I wish it had a nicer typical shortening than Seb (I did hear a toddler Sebastian called Bash recently, which is pretty cute 🤣).

I’m really not keen on names which become trendy on the back of celebrities (Jude Law), plus I don’t think Jude has an especially pleasant sound personally. If you want a one syllable J name, James and Joel (or even just Joe) are nicer imo.

ihith · 06/03/2025 22:37

Ooh someone with my taste finally. Love both of these names, I think I'd go for Jude though. Sebastian, as much as I love it, has a risk of coming across a tad pretentious, or perhaps, a little harder to carry off without knowing their personality...?