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How would you pronounce this name Kaelan or Kaylan

187 replies

Twicemummytobe · 19/02/2025 22:55

We have finally found the name we are wanting to call our son.

I love the spelling “Kaelan” pronounced “Kay- Lan” but I am worried people would call him “KEE-LAN”

or do we have to make it obvious for people and spell it out as “Kaylan”

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Emanwenym · 20/02/2025 10:19

That's really weird. Do people really think that?
Not weird at all. Yes,

Over my many years I've known boys/men called Kyle, Kevin, Kayden, Keith, Kelvin, Keegan, Kai, Kelly (yes a boy), Kenny.
Most of those are dated and suggest a certain age group or socio-economic background.

Caelan is fine, Kaelan and Kaylan are not.
Cillian fine, Killian not fine.
Caitlin is fine, Katelyn isn't.
Ciaran is fine, Kieran isn't.
Caleb is fine, Kayleb isn't.
Cai is fine (if Welsh), Kai isn't.
Courtney is reasonably OK, Kourtney isn't.

I don't like 'new' names from different cultures being used especially if mispronounced or misspelt. They tend to date badly.

IHate · 20/02/2025 10:14

user746016 · 20/02/2025 10:12

The work I was personally involved in is ongoing research into a particular niche area so not yet published. There are various other studies though regarding the perception of names.

Oh, I’ve read quite a bit of the research that’s currently out there. Just hadn’t seen what you were describing specifically and thought it sounded interesting.

Anyway, your job sounds like fun!

user746016 · 20/02/2025 10:12

IHate · 20/02/2025 10:08

The racism element is interesting. I can see that being applicable in the US, due to African American naming trends (caused by their forcible removal from their cultural roots).

However, in the U.K., these sorts of names are very much ‘white working class’. Ethnic minorities generally have names from their culture or (in the case of some Caribbeans) really traditional British names. While I’m sure there are ethnic minorities called Kayden, etc, I’d think it was fairly rare for anyone who didn’t have at least one white working class parent.

For the piece of work you did, was there any research we could read? I find this sort of stuff fascinating?

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The work I was personally involved in is ongoing research into a particular niche area so not yet published. There are various other studies though regarding the perception of names.

user746016 · 20/02/2025 10:09

Needmorelego · 20/02/2025 10:01

@user746016 perhaps everyone should just have identity numbers then 🤷
Or people should stop being so snobby.

Many employers now take all personal information off applications. This includes names, age, school etc. They are increasingly even removing the name of the University you attended.

IHate · 20/02/2025 10:08

user746016 · 20/02/2025 09:52

There is less of an impact if you consider older names. So our prime minister has a K name but it's an established "older" name" in UK culture. Kenneth would also not trigger the same associations (although in the absence of indications to the contrary might lead to assumptions that the applicant is older)

Edited to add - The same with girls names. Kate or Katherine would not trigger the same associations. Kayleigh on the other hand would. It's more prevalent with K names and more prevalent with male K names but it's fundamentally there with any names perceived to be "made up". There's a racism element to it too.

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The racism element is interesting. I can see that being applicable in the US, due to African American naming trends (caused by their forcible removal from their cultural roots).

However, in the U.K., these sorts of names are very much ‘white working class’. Ethnic minorities generally have names from their culture or (in the case of some Caribbeans) really traditional British names. While I’m sure there are ethnic minorities called Kayden, etc, I’d think it was fairly rare for anyone who didn’t have at least one white working class parent.

For the piece of work you did, was there any research we could read? I find this sort of stuff fascinating?

Needmorelego · 20/02/2025 10:01

@user746016 perhaps everyone should just have identity numbers then 🤷
Or people should stop being so snobby.

user746016 · 20/02/2025 09:59

Its human nature to make assumptions.

If you have CVs in front of you from a person named "Kayshon" and person names "Charles" most people will make certain assumptions. Not necessarily consciously.

Likewise if you have a CV from a "Chardonnay-May" and an "Emma"

Needmorelego · 20/02/2025 09:54

user746016 · 20/02/2025 09:52

Whether you think it's appalling or not, it's something that exists. Racism is appalling but it exists. Likewise homophobia.

Well I AM shocked it exists.
It bloody well shouldn't (along with racism, homophobia etc).
Why are humans so horrible to one another?
It's depressing.

user746016 · 20/02/2025 09:52

Needmorelego · 20/02/2025 09:50

@user746016 I think that's appalling.
Judging people because their name begins with a K.

Whether you think it's appalling or not, it's something that exists. Racism is appalling but it exists. Likewise homophobia.

user746016 · 20/02/2025 09:52

There is less of an impact if you consider older names. So our prime minister has a K name but it's an established "older" name" in UK culture. Kenneth would also not trigger the same associations (although in the absence of indications to the contrary might lead to assumptions that the applicant is older)

Edited to add - The same with girls names. Kate or Katherine would not trigger the same associations. Kayleigh on the other hand would. It's more prevalent with K names and more prevalent with male K names but it's fundamentally there with any names perceived to be "made up". There's a racism element to it too.

Needmorelego · 20/02/2025 09:50

@user746016 I think that's appalling.
Judging people because their name begins with a K.

user746016 · 20/02/2025 09:48

Needmorelego · 20/02/2025 09:47

That's really weird. Do people really think that?
Over my many years I've known boys/men called Kyle, Kevin, Kayden, Keith, Kelvin, Keegan, Kai, Kelly (yes a boy), Kenny.
All of them perfectly normal nice people (except for Kelly who was a bit of a tosser but his whole family were tossers).

Yes they do.

IHate · 20/02/2025 09:48

user746016 · 20/02/2025 09:46

Names which are perceived as "made up" lead to assumptions about class. Assumptions about class correlate to assumptions about behaviour and intelligence. This then ultimately feeds into assumptions about the suitability of job candidates and has a potential impact on career prospects.

Not something people like to hear but perceptions/stereotyping exist and there is little point in denying that.

Edited to add that "K" names for boys are often perceived as "naughty boy" names.

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Agree with all this.

Needmorelego · 20/02/2025 09:47

user746016 · 20/02/2025 09:39

I don't think it's the use of the y. It's that "K" names for boys have a negative connotation.

I have actually been involved in an interesting piece of research on this involving employers making assumptions about candidates based on names.

That's really weird. Do people really think that?
Over my many years I've known boys/men called Kyle, Kevin, Kayden, Keith, Kelvin, Keegan, Kai, Kelly (yes a boy), Kenny.
All of them perfectly normal nice people (except for Kelly who was a bit of a tosser but his whole family were tossers).

IHate · 20/02/2025 09:47

user746016 · 20/02/2025 09:39

I don't think it's the use of the y. It's that "K" names for boys have a negative connotation.

I have actually been involved in an interesting piece of research on this involving employers making assumptions about candidates based on names.

I think boys’ names beginning with K are often looked at negatively, but there are lots of names for which that isn’t true - particularly if one includes names from all cultures. There’s no issue with names like Krzysztof or Keshav.

However, I cannot think of a single name beginning with ‘Kay’ (again, those three letters) that isn’t instant social branding of the kind I would be reluctant to give a child.

user746016 · 20/02/2025 09:46

Names which are perceived as "made up" lead to assumptions about class. Assumptions about class correlate to assumptions about behaviour and intelligence. This then ultimately feeds into assumptions about the suitability of job candidates and has a potential impact on career prospects.

Not something people like to hear but perceptions/stereotyping exist and there is little point in denying that.

Edited to add that "K" names for boys are often perceived as "naughty boy" names.

Needmorelego · 20/02/2025 09:41

@IHate you seem to have a strange phobia about names beginning "Kay" - perhaps you should get some therapy about that 😂😂😂

user746016 · 20/02/2025 09:39

IHate · 20/02/2025 09:30

I mean the letters ‘Kay’. I think I’ve been quite clear about that, and I don’t think it’s a subtle difference. I am not alone in this.

RTFT.

I don't think it's the use of the y. It's that "K" names for boys have a negative connotation.

I have actually been involved in an interesting piece of research on this involving employers making assumptions about candidates based on names.

IHate · 20/02/2025 09:30

BunnyLake · 20/02/2025 09:22

Yes it does. K-ate, Kay-te.

Oh you mean the letters K A Y not the pronunciation? That’s too subtle a difference.

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I mean the letters ‘Kay’. I think I’ve been quite clear about that, and I don’t think it’s a subtle difference. I am not alone in this.

RTFT.

BunnyLake · 20/02/2025 09:22

IHate · 20/02/2025 08:32

Kate doesn’t begin with ‘Kay’?

Yes it does. K-ate, Kay-te.

Oh you mean the letters K A Y not the pronunciation? That’s too subtle a difference.

SeatbeltExtender · 20/02/2025 09:06

What else is on your list OP?

SnoopysHoose · 20/02/2025 08:57

Neither, I'm not a fan of made up spellings.
What about Callan?

shiverm · 20/02/2025 08:56

Weird, I have the name "Kay" in my head as the boy from box of delights, so consider it quite a classic name. How cool (if he gets nicknames Kay) to read him that story at Christmas ♥️ meant a lot to me in my childhood. Also, I read it the way you want it to be read.

rainbowstardrops · 20/02/2025 08:52

I've taught a Kaelan and I've known a Caelan but have never come across a Kaylen. Both pronounced as Kay lun.
I'm not keen on Braden/Jayden type names but that's just my opinion. I probably wouldn't choose majority of the names in my class to be honest!

IHate · 20/02/2025 08:32

BunnyLake · 20/02/2025 08:24

Really? Like Kate?

I saw it as being pronounced as Kaylan (or Kaylun) despite the spelling.

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Kate doesn’t begin with ‘Kay’?