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Is it crazy to give my surname as a middle name?

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baltimore97 · 05/05/2008 17:33

Since naming our first DD two years ago, DH has insisted that it was a silly idea to give her my surname as her last middle name. I did not take my husband's name when we married, and the two names sound ridiculous when put together in a double-barrelled surname. However, I wanted DD to have my name somewhere in the mix.

DD2 arrived 10 days ago, and we are now having the whole discussion all over again. I want her to have my surname as her last middle name, but DH is resisting.

Has anyone else done this? Can you help me prove to DH that my naming practices are not totally outlandish!

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littlepinkpixie · 05/05/2008 17:41

I think this is a pretty normal thing to do.

Tortington · 05/05/2008 17:41

i think its a cool idea - i wish i had thought of it. as an only child who took my husbands name ( and i think that was the right choice for me) there will be no more children with my maiden name - it effectively dies with me - in my family - others exist in few numbers out there somewhere ...anyway... if i had thought of it at the time i would deffo have given my eldest my surname as a middle name.

don't americans give a lot of mothers maiden name as first names?

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baltimore97 · 05/05/2008 17:39

I thought I was pretty normal in my expectations! DH's problem is that my surname is a surname and NOT a middle name therefore should not be used as such....he is a bit of a pedant on these matters.

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ohnoherewego · 05/05/2008 17:38

I did it for both mine. When my dcs went thro a phase of wondering why I had a different surname it made us all feel more connected IYSWIM

WanderingTrolley · 05/05/2008 17:36

Makes sense to me. Not fair for one child to have your surname in her name and not the other(s)

What's your dh's problem? It's her last middle name, it's unlikely to be used, it's not to replace his surname.

Blu · 05/05/2008 17:35

Not outlandish at all.

If he resists further say 'yes, you're right, let's just do away with your name and give dd2 mine'.

DS knows I have my name, and he loves having a name form each of us.

WigWamBam · 05/05/2008 17:34

Depends on what your surname was, really ...