Choosing a middle name

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Zellie1027 · 10/01/2025 13:31

Wondering what people's thoughts are on middle names...

My first little girl has my mum's name as her middle name. My mum passed away about 10 years ago so it's very meaningful to me.

We are now having a second little girl. I'm stuck with her middle name. I want her to have something meaningful too but we honestly don't have any other name, apart from my mum's middle name, that has meaning but I don't feel it goes with our chosen name (which is Millie, and the middle name would be Mary, so Millie Mary).

So it's either:
No middle name (anyone have children where one has a middle name and the other doesn't?)
A random middle name (at least we would like how it sounds but no meaning)
Or Mary (meaningful but I'm not sure it sounds right)

I am totally aware I am fully overthinking this (it's a particularly good skill of mine!). I'm 37 weeks now and on maternity leave so nothing else to occupy my mind.

Please help me with your thoughts!

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MostHighlyFlavoredGravy · 10/01/2025 13:44

Other grandparent's name? Your DM's maiden name? Your DGM's first/middle/maiden name? Etc.

My 2 DC's names are:
First Name; Grandad 1's name; Grandad 2's name; Surname
First Name; MIL's 1st name; DM's maiden name; Surname

Carouselfish · 10/01/2025 13:42

I didnt go meaningful. Aside from one being an ette ending like my own middle. I just crammed in all the other names I liked but didn't want as first!

ItsProperlyColdOut · 10/01/2025 13:40

I think it would be good to give a middle name even if it is not from another family member. I think the child might feel nobody tried otherwise. It could be any name though. I mean any name is better than no name, I think.

Comedycook · 10/01/2025 13:37

Sorry just realised I didn't even answer your question specifically....could you go back and look further at previous generations...or if there's a man in your family you were close to, the feminine version of that name...that is another thing we have in our family.

GetyourheadoutoftheovenIris · 10/01/2025 13:36

What’s your middle name? Could you use that?

One of my dc has a middle name that is a nod to a relative but the others just have middle names that we liked.

Tinselinthewhoopsiebasket · 10/01/2025 13:36

What about your dh's dm's name/dgm's name?

Petesbowtie9 · 10/01/2025 13:35

Millie Mary sounds fine and you don’t often say the full name anyway IMO

Comedycook · 10/01/2025 13:33

I think middle names should have a meaning....I always find it a bit odd when people just choose a random name they like as a middle name. In our family, all our middle names have a link back to previous generations and relatives who are no longer alive. I have the same middle name as my grandmother

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