Choosing a middle name

Mary is adorable!
Have you thought of calling her Mary?
Or a derivation of Mary - Mae, Maisie, Molly

Options:
Camilla Mary - Millie - my favourite
Mary Camilla - Mary, Millie or Molly - my favourite
Mary Matilda - Millie
Mary Ellen - Millie or Melly
Mary Jillian - Millie
Amelia Mary - Millie
Mary Cecily - Millie
Maisie Gabrielle

What about the name of a long term friend? How about a feminine form of a male family member?

Millie Mary is just a bit awkward to me, also makes me think of Millie Molly Mandy.

Sorry OP, all I can hear with Millie Mary is 'Mother Mary'

I don't agree with a few posters on this thread, there is no requirement for a meaningful middle name - yes it's lovely if you have a name you want to honour but I don't think you should be scraping around trying to find one if there isn't one you obviously want to use

They're are no meaningful middle names in my family for at least 3 generations that I can think of. It's just a nice 'bonus name' which flows lovely with the first and surnames.

A full name should flow together (in my opinion) whether it's a family name or a random name - and I'd sooner go for the so called filler names like Rose and Grace etc if it sounded right than a random combo of names that really didn't go together

I actually have a very similar situation- 2 year old has the male version of his grandmother's name who passed away years before he was born.
We are now expecting another boy and for various don't have any other names lined up that carry the same meaning, which does bother me a bit.
However, I'm still planning on giving him a middle name for a few reasons

• I can't get my head around one sibling having an additional name to the other for some reason
• both me and my parents just have middle names that were chosen purely because parents liked them and have no familiar connection at all, so the idea that middle names must have some kind of family link is a bit alien to me
• I always enjoyed having a middle name myself and I remember at primary school there being a girl in the class with no middle name who was so bothered by it her parents ended up adding one for her officially for her 10th birthday!

But that's just me, on the other hand my partner has no middle name and is not bothered by it in the slightest and would prefer our baby not to have one either

Plan is just to pick a middle name we both like the sound and meaning off

Millie Mary is admittedly a slight tongue twister but it’s not a big deal (it’s not as if you are hyphenating it so people will be saying it all the time). Plus I think it’ll sound less so once you add the surname too - as it’s likely that if she’s telling people her middle name then she’ll be saying all 3 together ie. at the bank, doctors etc.

Tbh personally I think it’s more important to try treat siblings equally as much as possible, even with something as relatively meaningless/minor to some people as a middle name. So if there are no other family names in your or DH’s family that you feel you could use then I’d stick with Mary - imo it’s really nice to use a name for the middle that links to your family tree.

Imo the greater issue is people regularly misspelling Millie - I had to double check your OP as I initially wrote Milly 🤦‍♀️

How about Amelia Mary or Emilia Mary - flows better and could still be known as Millie?

Milly Magdalena

Another vote for Millie Mary!

Are you saying you've already used Mary, your mum's name, as your eldest daughter's middle name? I wouldn't give two siblings the same middle name.

Since you already used your mum's name, it seems an obvious choice to use your husband's mum's name this time so each child is named for a grandmother. It's a shame you say he doesn't want to do this even though they have a good relationship. Does he just not like the name? Does she have a middle name as an alternative?

Otherwise, what about your first name as your daughter's middle name?

I think since yours and your daughters middle name is Mary I'd definitely go with that, so she doesn't feel left out :)

How about Millie Jayne Mary?

What about something like Millie Rosemary?

I like Milly Mary, I think it sounds great even hyphenated and used as one name

Based on your update, I’d go with Millie Mary. I think it sounds lovely and it’s obviously important to you that it has meaning.

I’ve always been adamant that I’d name any daughter of mine after my amazing grandma. It’s a very old fashioned name and we used it as a middle. It actually rhymes with her first name and doesn’t really “go” at all - but I’m so pleased I stuck to my guns. She has a first name I love and a middle name that I love, and no one apart from me every uses both anyway!

As long as your surname doesn’t begin with M as well! Like Millie Mary Marlow or something 😂

Think about names of other family members, be they alive or not, whom you might want to remember/honour.

Did your mum have a middle name? Maiden name you can use? Birthflower?

To be honest I wasn't remotely concerned with mine having a meaningful middle name. My son has my partner's name as a middle name because they just flowed nicely together, and for our daughter who is on the way we have a random middle name that just sounds nice with the first name we've picked!

A name from her father side perhaps?

A name from your side but going back to a different generation.

A name that has some meaning to you or is appropriate for birth season - Holly, Ivy, Daisy, Rose, Summer, Autumn, June, May etc. Depending on when she's born of course.

I love Mary as a middle name, it has a gentleness to it. Much nicer than a single syllable filler name, which strike me as twee.

Is there a grandfather whose name can be feminised?
ie
George - Georgette, Georgina, Georgia

A version of Mary?
Maria, Marianne, Mariette

One meaning of Mary is drop of the sea. So maybe a water related name?

Cordelia, Brooke, Simone, Maya, Marisa.

Otherwise just use a name you like.

I doubt anyone will call him by his first and middle name anyway - well as the parents we won't be.

Yes, this. It's easy to focus too much (IMO) on how the names "flow" but you hardly ever use your full name anyway! I think that's how so many people end up choosing Rose/May/Grace/James etc as middle names (since they often flow nicely), but they're so overused and it seems a bit pointless unless the name has meaning to the parents!

Our first born DD has the other name we picked for her on our short list (no meaningful connections) and our DS has my dad's name as his middle name (very meaningful to me). To be honest they are very rarely used or referred to, but I think it's better to keep it consistent with a middle name for each.

Ds due in a few weeks is having his great grandads name as his middle name..not sure it matches but it means a lot to DH so oh well!

I doubt anyone will call him by his first and middle name anyway - well as the parents we won't be