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Should I change my baby’s name?

56 replies

Koalie · 09/08/2024 09:28

Helllp?
My son is due to start nursery in a couple of months - he is 8 months old at the moment. My husband and I had his name picked out for years before he was born because we both loved it. However, since we named him we’ve realised that it’s one of the top names in the country and we’re hearing it pop up EVERYWHERE around where we live. There are already 3 little boys with the same name at his nursery!!
I am seriously considering whether we should start calling him by a shortened version of his middle name which we also really like (but not as much) and ask the nursery to do the same before he starts being known by his real name to everyone. I am thinking of him - I would have hated to have the same name as others in my class at school and have to stick the first letter of my surname on the end so that everyone could differentiate.
Please could you all give me your thoughts? Am I being silly? What would you do?
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Carebearsonmybed · 09/08/2024 11:54

It really won't be as common as you think.

You are just attuned to it.

Moreteaandchocolate · 09/08/2024 11:43

Definitely leave it! My son has a top 5 name and there were 3 of them in nursery but now he’s the only one with that name in the school, but there are two boys with the same unusual name in his class! It’s very hit and miss and you could change it then find he’s in a class with someone with that name, but not with the original one!

Apollo365 · 09/08/2024 10:02

Leave his name, top names are top for a reason.

BoleynMemories13 · 09/08/2024 10:01

You are being silly. His name is his name and you chose it for a reason.

There being others at his nursery with the same name is a coincidence, it happens and can happen to any name. Whilst it's statistically more likely to happen with a popular name, it's very possible for children to be the only one despite having a top 10 name and it's possible for names to be duplicated even if they're well out of the top 100. You can't guarantee these things so it's a total overreaction to want to change his name (which he knows, it's his identity) just because you've come across others. What happens if the new name gets duplicated at school? Will you change it again?

Chances are, he really won't care. I was one of a few at school and it did me absolutely no harm. In fact, I LIKE having a very normal name. It has never been a problem. It's not as identifiable online, for starters. Not everyone wants a name that makes them stand out so you can't predict what your son will want. His name is his name now though. Call him whatever nickname you want but I definitely wouldn't go as drastic as changing his name completely simply because you've come across others.

Funnily enough, the only duplicated name in my class next year is way out of the top 100 and I could sense that both mums were quite peed off when they realised but what can you do? You can never predict these things. Duplications are rarer these days than when we were at school, due to parents choosing from a much wider pool of names, but it will always happen occasionally and there really is no predicting which names it will be. On the flipside, I can think of loads of kids I've taught who have ended up being the only one in the whole school despite having a statistically common name. The top names only get a few thousand registrations a year now. Generally, they'll be well spread out across the country. The chances of 3 in a class are actually very slim and is just an unfortunate coincidence.

Firsttimebabymummy · 09/08/2024 09:39

Honestly... I'd much rather a common nice name than a 'rare' name that isn't so nice.

My brother has a v common name (at the time) and was known as his initials or different nn as so many at school, but now he's older there's not so many about and I'm sure is grateful to have a nice name.
In fact, he must love it as his son is called exactly the same.

MistyHazelFox · 09/08/2024 09:36

He won't care until he's much older. Children usually have strong opinions about their name in teenage years, then, after that, he might not care anymore. He can also start to use middle name later in life, if he wish so.

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