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Should I change my baby’s name?

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Koalie · 09/08/2024 09:28

Helllp?
My son is due to start nursery in a couple of months - he is 8 months old at the moment. My husband and I had his name picked out for years before he was born because we both loved it. However, since we named him we’ve realised that it’s one of the top names in the country and we’re hearing it pop up EVERYWHERE around where we live. There are already 3 little boys with the same name at his nursery!!
I am seriously considering whether we should start calling him by a shortened version of his middle name which we also really like (but not as much) and ask the nursery to do the same before he starts being known by his real name to everyone. I am thinking of him - I would have hated to have the same name as others in my class at school and have to stick the first letter of my surname on the end so that everyone could differentiate.
Please could you all give me your thoughts? Am I being silly? What would you do?
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Koalie · 09/08/2024 13:41

Hahaha! People getting curious. His name is Leo ☺️ and his middle name Vincent so we could refer to him as ‘Vinnie’ (I didn’t mean to suggest we’d permanently change his name.)

Thank you all for your replies ! Definitely food for thought. I think maybe we will keep Vinnie in the back pocket for now and let him use it later if he decides to. X

They are lovely names so it would be a shame to change them. You named him Leo for a reason and the reason still stands. My name is very common and so was my maiden name and there were THREE of us with the same first and surnames at school, in the same class! We all managed!
Mind you, I would have changed my Christian name in a heartbeat if I could have done, as I hated it. My parents called me Ann because they didn’t want a name that could be shortened. That backfired because most people called me Annie! Luckily I married a man with a very nice and quite unusual surname so it turned out ok in the end!

Oldermum84 · 11/08/2024 15:08

Leo is lovely. There are none at my DS's nursery, you've just been unlucky with the popularity of it at yours. Let him stay Leo. You'll change it to Vinnie and they'll be 3 Vinnies when he goes to school and no Leos!!

Possumly · 11/08/2024 14:24

I saw the title and was ready to post advising just his name if you're unhappy with it (because i did change my son's name at 6 months!), but for that reason- because it's common, I wouldn't. If you've loved it for years, that trumps everything else! The name my son is now is the one I had loved for years, and I really regretted not using it, which is partly why we changed it to this! His name isn't common in our area, but it is common on Mumsnet!

MerryMarys · 11/08/2024 13:48

Leo Robinson and Leo Smith will be Robo and Smithy

That alone would make me choose a less popular name!

TheBirdintheCave · 11/08/2024 10:24

Jessbow · 11/08/2024 09:10

The only time it might matter to him, is when he is a teen,he and another leo will pretty soon come up with nicknames that differentiate between them if needs be.

Teens call each other all sorts, often created from their surnames anyway
Leo Robinson and Leo Smith will be Robo and Smithy , amongst their mates

My brother was one of about six Michaels at school and had a nickname based on his surname. He HATED it as he just wanted to be known by his actual name.

Jessbow · 11/08/2024 09:10

The only time it might matter to him, is when he is a teen,he and another leo will pretty soon come up with nicknames that differentiate between them if needs be.

Teens call each other all sorts, often created from their surnames anyway
Leo Robinson and Leo Smith will be Robo and Smithy , amongst their mates

crimpsalo · 10/08/2024 17:53

Leo is such a gorgeous name. My son's been through nursery and preschool and we've not met any yet. Stick with it. It's lovely.

Chocolateorange22 · 10/08/2024 13:11

Honestly Leo is fine, lovely name

DS was in the top 10. Whilst pregnant never heard it once then it was everywhere once born. There is one in his pre school class so probably be in his reception class too. DD was in top 3 she is the only one in her primary school. Funny how things appear over time.

JimNast · 09/08/2024 21:02

@crimpsalo , rtft

crimpsalo · 09/08/2024 20:29

Koalie · 09/08/2024 09:28

Helllp?
My son is due to start nursery in a couple of months - he is 8 months old at the moment. My husband and I had his name picked out for years before he was born because we both loved it. However, since we named him we’ve realised that it’s one of the top names in the country and we’re hearing it pop up EVERYWHERE around where we live. There are already 3 little boys with the same name at his nursery!!
I am seriously considering whether we should start calling him by a shortened version of his middle name which we also really like (but not as much) and ask the nursery to do the same before he starts being known by his real name to everyone. I am thinking of him - I would have hated to have the same name as others in my class at school and have to stick the first letter of my surname on the end so that everyone could differentiate.
Please could you all give me your thoughts? Am I being silly? What would you do?
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ComealongMartha · 09/08/2024 18:50

I love Leo! Don’t change it.

JimNast · 09/08/2024 18:48

@RedRobyn2021 , *Koalie · Today 13:41
Hahaha! People getting curious. His name is Leo
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RedRobyn2021 · 09/08/2024 18:45

Is it Theo?

JimNast · 09/08/2024 18:43

Leo is at least a million times nicer than Vinnie/Vincent.

WhatThenEh · 09/08/2024 16:53

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marshlellow · 09/08/2024 16:34

TheBirdintheCave · 09/08/2024 16:23

@marshlellow At one of our midwife appointments we were talking about our oldest child and told her his name, Gilbert, and she said 'Oh thank god it's not another Arlo!' 😂

Registrar made a similar comment when I asked her what names she'd registered lots of lately 😅

That's incredibly rude of them they should be professional. For all they know they could have an arlo.

TheBirdintheCave · 09/08/2024 16:23

@marshlellow At one of our midwife appointments we were talking about our oldest child and told her his name, Gilbert, and she said 'Oh thank god it's not another Arlo!' 😂

Registrar made a similar comment when I asked her what names she'd registered lots of lately 😅

marshlellow · 09/08/2024 16:16

Koalie · 09/08/2024 13:41

Hahaha! People getting curious. His name is Leo ☺️ and his middle name Vincent so we could refer to him as ‘Vinnie’ (I didn’t mean to suggest we’d permanently change his name.)

Thank you all for your replies ! Definitely food for thought. I think maybe we will keep Vinnie in the back pocket for now and let him use it later if he decides to. X

Leo is a great name. It's the name you loved. The name you picked out and had in your minds for 8 years. I think it would be a real shame for you to change it now. Why shouldn't YOUR kid have the name you want. Who cares about the other kids.

marshlellow · 09/08/2024 16:15

LonelyBones · 09/08/2024 13:09

Is it Arlo 🙄?

There's so many of them it's just dull now

DoublePeonies · 09/08/2024 15:18

Stick with the name you love (as you've already decided to do).
DS1 has a top 50 name. He was one of 3 in his class in one school. Change of primary school, and he was the only one in the whole school that we were aware of.
DS2 is also top 50. He's bee n the only one in his year in primary. Not aware of another in his year ar Secondary. The stats are averages, and local variation and clusters appear. You might change to Vinnie, and then move to a place where Vinnue is popular and Leo is rare.

Koalie · 09/08/2024 15:05

THANK YOU all ! I bloody love Mumsnet. I’m definitely going to stick with my lovely boy’s lovely name 🥰 thank you all for your insights xx

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CheeseWisely · 09/08/2024 14:59

I'd say leave it. We named our DS (born in June this year) one of the top 10 boys names from the past few years because we love it.

I stressed over it quite a lot before we had him and ending up consulting a friend who was one of 3 of his name in our form at school.

He assured me that it never had an impact on his life, and he'd much rather be his popular name that blends in rather than an unusual one that stands out, because not everyone wants to stand out, particularly at school.

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Shibr · 09/08/2024 14:55

On my last project, out of 30 office staff, 3 were called Graham, 4 were called David, and 3 were called Peter. It didn’t cause any issues, we even called them by their normal names (as in not their surname or nickname) as usually it was obvious which one people meant. I really wouldn’t worry about it. You don’t spend the rest of your life with your nursery group. Once you’re an adult your interact with people a lot older and younger so the names are unlike to be as common by that time.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 09/08/2024 14:49

I think I'm right in saying that the parents of Robert Davis had a similar dilemma and consequently changed their son's name to Jasper Carrott to avoid any sniggering with the rather overused nickname of Bob.

I'm sure he'll correct me if I'm wrong.