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Is it wrong to give my baby my MIL name and not my own mum?

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megadreamer8 · 20/05/2024 19:12

Hi. I'm considering names for my future babies (planning to start trying soon, if all is well!) and if they are a girl I like the name Melody. I'd like a one syllable name as their middle name as I think that would sound better. My partner doesn't understand the need for a middle name as he doesn't have one but I do and I'd like to add one for them.

His mum is called Jane. So it would be Melody Jane. I love "MJ" as a potential Nickname too as I am a Spiderman fan.
My mum's name is Vicky (not Victoria, just vicky) and I don't think it goes as well. Other close family members names are Joan, Lillian and Jasmine.
I just think one syllable would be better.

I'm closer to my mum so she might feel a bit left out. Hmm!

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saraclara · 20/05/2024 19:26

The baby is your husband's too. So if the baby was given your mum's name, would you worry about offending his mum?

Your posts talk about the name you're giving your baby. No mention of you both giving the name.

FASDE1517 · 20/05/2024 19:25

I see what you mean about Vicky. Has your mum got a middle name you could use as baby's second middle name?

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megadreamer8 · 20/05/2024 19:25

Thank you @TorturedPoets
I really like it too, and my partner thinks his mum would be very pleased. I did consider naming them Melody Jay (so Jane is the inspiration but not exactly the same so my mum isn't left out) and it reminds me of the blue jaybird. But everyone pointed out its a boy's name and should just go for Jane.

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TorturedPoets · 20/05/2024 19:22

Melody Jane is lovely. Not sure how you avoid offending your mum though.

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megadreamer8 · 20/05/2024 19:22

@earther I know I'm getting ahead of myself. I'm in my thirties and have been delaying ttc for years and I feel more ready now so I'm daydreaming by posting here haha. This is just a post to gather opinions/discussion 😊

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earther · 20/05/2024 19:20

You could wait until you are pregnant then wait some more until you know if its going to be a boy or a girl.

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megadreamer8 · 20/05/2024 19:18

Haha! I already have a baby boy name picked that me and my partner feel pretty much set on. I've always struggled with little girls names and just like to plan. Tbh I've spent hours over the years contemplating this and now it's looking more real I'm just thinking more about it 😅😅 so broody!

But yeah I actually love the name Oliver for a boy. But we did consider Miles too so maybe Miles Jacob for the MJ Nickname. I think it sounds cute!

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Ritadidsomethingbad · 20/05/2024 19:16

You’re planning on a baby girl when you might have a son - this is why people get gender disappointment 😂

How about you wait till you conceive then find out what sex it is then pic a few names as they might not look like a MJ.

I know a little boy who is called MJ btw

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