Opinions on this name?

I don’t think Toby Thomas sounds any worse that Remy Rupert if that helps.

So if you don’t like Thomas I’m assuming your dh insists on that.
So I would chose a name you like.
Your dh can’t have it both ways.
BTW are you married?
Will the child have your surname?

Remy is a fine name , as is Jonah. I am quite old and have never heard Remy /Rem as a derogatory term .I don't like the addition of a middle name for the sake of a nickname particularly. You can call him Remy Roo if you want to without the contrivance of Rupert.

I think the name is fine! Remy was in the top 200 boy names in 2022 and I wouldn't be surprised if it's crept into the top 100 by now, or heading that way, so I can't imagine he'd be teased. I'm not particularly fond of Rupert but it's fine, and how often are middle names really used anyway?

I guess it would be because I cant comprehend what you mean.

the quoted comment you’ve included means he will be given Rémy roo as a nn. Not that Rémy roo is his name. That was literally my point.

I’m not sure what point you’re making?

I quite like Remy Rupert (or Remy Rufus, or Remy Rudolf, if you like them). Nothing wrong with adding Thomas since it has family significance. I've generally found that in cases of 2+ middles usually only the first one gets used regularly. (I think the comment about Remy Roo/Rue on the birth certificate confused people because of course you wouldn't do that; why would you?)

I've never heard the term Rem/Remy for remedial so didn't consider that factor. Remy/Remi has for some reason become somewhat popular for girls in the USA recently - perhaps because the much longer history as a traditionally masculine name in French-speaking countries is less familiar there?

I'm not enthusiastic about either Bobby (unless short for Robert) or Sonny as a first name. Sonny in particular feels derivative; I've normally only ever seen it as a nickname for boys who have the same name as their dad, to avoid confusion. I like Jonah.

If you're open to other first name options, how about -

Barnaby/Barney
Eli
Emery
Finlay
Henry
Jeremy
Rodney
Rory/Ruairi
Toby (Tobias)

Finally, if your PILs are picky (or even if not) my best advice is: don't tell them the names you're considering, or the name you've picked, until the baby's born. It's a lot harder for them to be rude about or object to their new grandchild's official name than to nitpick possible name choices. And ultimately it's up to you and the baby's other parent what he's called, no one else.

no

I like Remy, it's no overly used, and Remy Roo is fine for a toddler. My girls have loads of silly nicknames, I obviously don't use them in front of their friends but they answer to them at home😂 go with what you like, not what random strangers think

But they don’t generally choose a name with the cutesy toddler nickname in mind!

@Toastiecroissant , your comment would be better directed at yourself.
he will probably get Remy Roo a lot as a baby/child

I don’t like Remy and definitely don’t like Rupert. If you insist on Remy Rue though could you not use Reuben instead?

I’m assuming pps reading comprehension is poor? You’re literally not naming him Rémy roo so everyone’s issue with that doesn’t make sense to me
you’re naming him Rémy Rupert
loads of people have cutesy names for their baby’s and toddlers?

I like each of the names but I don’t think Remy Rupert Thomas flows nicely. I think Remy Thomas Rupert sounds better but don’t personally like two middle names.

I was at school in the 80s & 90s and have never heard remi/remy as a derogatory term. I worked with a Remy in the 00s. He was absolutely lovely, so always think fondly of the name.

Remy personally isn’t my style (it’s also reminds me of Rennies indigestion tablets, sorry). I love Rupert. They are both give similar vibes (I know a few cool hipster types who have a Remy and Ruperts) but I just don’t think they flow well together and the repeated R sound is a bit jarring to me. Thomas is a nice enough name, a bit boring but inoffensive. I’d personally go for Rupert Thomas, which has a nice flow and suits a child from baby to an old man and all that is in between.

Are you set on this name or are there other options you are thinking about?

Really surprising responses. Rémy is incredibly popular now. I doubt your child will be the only one in the year, and certainly not in the school, so I don’t think the old slur will be an issue.
Rémy roo is fine for a baby, I can’t see pps issue, unless you’re still calling him that at 16 in front of his mates.
I personally don’t love Rupert but it’s fine, I wouldn’t think anything of it if someone told me their child’s name was Rupert

All the Remys I know are female. I think your tastes seem to run to slightly cutesy, infantilising names which, as you say yourself about ‘Remy Roo’, won’t suit an adult. It seems a bit mad to give a child a name while acknowledging it won’t suit an adult, and give them a middle name they can switch to later if needed — why not give them a name also usable for an adult?

Bloody hell, you're getting some stick here, OP. It's undeserved. MN can be a harsh place sometimes!
I think Remy Rupert is fine. Might not be everyone's choice, but it's fine. If you end up calling him Thomas because a load of women you've never met tell you not to give him the name you love, will you live to regret it?
I've never heard the rem for remedial thing (London, South West). I know a Ru late 20s) and he's super cool.

Same era! It was definitely used as a short form of remedial. That’s what some class groups were actually called in that era! (Late 80s?)

I don’t think it would be a concern now at all.

Remy definitely a boy’s name tho.

I'd go with Thomas Remy Rupert personally. To me Remy is a girls name that I don't really like. You can't go wrong with Thomas though.

Remy will not suit an adult. Rupert will.

I think Rupert and Thomas are similar classic timeless names whereas Remy is very different style, may not age well. No idea what you refer to with Remy Rue or Remy Roo - how likely is this? As long as not Remy Martin!

Remigius could go with Rupert better as both quite old names. Remy a modern take.

Remington? Remus?
Milo is a lot more sophisticated than Remy in my opinion.