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Naming a genderless Miscarriaged baby

60 replies

Laura199214 · 14/05/2024 14:36

Hi sorry this is heavy.
I was pregnant with twins nearly 3 years ago.
I lost baby B early into the pregnancy.
We don't know the gender.
I can't get passed it and I feel like I need to name the baby I lost.
My husband said he doesn't want just any name. It needs to mean something. But also be unisex.
I've tried Google but I just can't find anything.
I have already suggested :
Baby B
Baby Wood (last name)
Baby dot
Sydney
Phoenix
But my husband don't think these names are personal enough.
The child we have has a very sentimental, meaningful name and he things the twin deserves the same. Which I agree. I'm just finding it hard when we didn't know the gender, so to try and find a name that means just as much for us is hard.
Can anyone help.
I've looked into "wings" names, thinking I could find a name that represents wings but none of them stood out to us.
Sorry if this post is very to the point, and seems very unemotional. I just find it easier to talk about this way.

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Sunshineclouds11 · 14/05/2024 14:53

I am so sorry for your loss

SingingSands · 14/05/2024 14:53

Skye could be male or female.

Sorry for your loss ❤️

Sunshineclouds11 · 14/05/2024 14:52

Gabriel

Allofusstrangers · 14/05/2024 14:52

I'm sorry for your loss. What about Eden? It's unisex and could conjure up a lovely mental image of your baby in a beautiful garden.
I think Angel could be unisex too.

cherryassam · 14/05/2024 14:48

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I wonder if a nature name might work? Many seem to be used for both boys and girls - and they have lovely meaning inherently from being linked to nature. There might be something that is particularly meaningful for you, but some of my favourite more ‘gender-neutral’ (I know that can be a controversial term) nature names are:

Aspen
Beck
Blair
Dove
Ellery
Fen
Indigo
Juniper
Linden
Nima
Oakley
Ren
River
Robin
Rowan
Sage
Sky
Snow
Sorrel
Sunny
Wren

Toasticles · 14/05/2024 14:46

After my first miscarriage I dreamed I went up heaven and wanted to meet my baby but I couldn't call them to come to md as they had no name.

My 2 lost babies - sex unknown - are called Sammy and Zeb, in my head and in my heart. I don't think it matters that no one else knows their names as long as I do.

IdaPolly · 14/05/2024 14:45

Could you use an adjective. Eg. Lovely. Or a noun that reflects their size when you lost them? When I was expecting dd1 I called her Peanut in the early stages.

AsparagusGirl · 14/05/2024 14:45

Sorry for your loss.
Do any saints resonate with you?
I had a hard time conceiving and said a prayer to a particular saint when I was at a church of theirs in another country and found out I was pregnant shortly after, so my child has that saint as their middle name. Many names can be unisex even if not meant to be. For example James for a girl.

AprilDecember · 14/05/2024 14:42

Ala, means "wing" in Spanish, and is used in various countries as a male or female name.

River? I don't know but in my head that word is associated with the idea of eternity, so it could represent them always being part of you. I think it could suit a girl or a boy beautifully.

I'm sorry you are still feeling pain about this, I hope giving your lovely baby a name helps you heal. You will find something perfect.

ToastforTea · 14/05/2024 14:41

Hi OP - sorry for your loss

I don’t have any particular names to suggest but I think this is a step that will help you heal

Maybe think about what you’d like the name to mean and take it from there?

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