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Naming a genderless Miscarriaged baby

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Laura199214 · 14/05/2024 14:36

Hi sorry this is heavy.
I was pregnant with twins nearly 3 years ago.
I lost baby B early into the pregnancy.
We don't know the gender.
I can't get passed it and I feel like I need to name the baby I lost.
My husband said he doesn't want just any name. It needs to mean something. But also be unisex.
I've tried Google but I just can't find anything.
I have already suggested :
Baby B
Baby Wood (last name)
Baby dot
Sydney
Phoenix
But my husband don't think these names are personal enough.
The child we have has a very sentimental, meaningful name and he things the twin deserves the same. Which I agree. I'm just finding it hard when we didn't know the gender, so to try and find a name that means just as much for us is hard.
Can anyone help.
I've looked into "wings" names, thinking I could find a name that represents wings but none of them stood out to us.
Sorry if this post is very to the point, and seems very unemotional. I just find it easier to talk about this way.

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pontipinemum · 15/05/2024 15:31

I'm sorry for your loss. I have had 4 miscarriages and 1 'lost twin' with my son as well.

I called the first one Robin, and they have all been my little Robins. Robins visit my garden and I say hi to them.

Just saw Nova. That is beautiful x

Sunshineclouds11 · 15/05/2024 11:21

Nova ✨

Sugarcoatedalmonds · 15/05/2024 10:30

Nova is a beautiful name. Sending you lots of love ❤️

user1492757084 · 15/05/2024 09:52

Nova is sweet.
Do you have any deceased grandparents with names that can be genderless? Would you like to have a name that connects the twin?
Such as grandpa Pop - Poppykin
Bonnie Wood
Angel Dusty
Woodland Angel
Dreamtime Angel
Sleeping Heart

Apollo365 · 15/05/2024 09:25

Laura199214 · 14/05/2024 19:50

I love that.
I love everyone else's suggestions too but a lot of them we wouldn't have been able to use, e.g Skye. That was my husbands dogs name 😂
But I've just brung up nova to him and straight away he knew the meaning behind it.
Thank you do much. I think nova is what we will mame them, it's beautiful with such a touching and meaningful meaning behind it.
Thank you x

Nova is lovely ❤️

Italiangreyhound · 15/05/2024 01:28

Lastly, I am very drawn to the S names -

Sage
Sky
Snow
Sorrel

I hope you find a good way to remember your little one.

Italiangreyhound · 15/05/2024 01:26

scrivette I love Mirren - beloved...

Tvilling is Danish for Twin.

Italiangreyhound · 15/05/2024 01:22

I am so sorry for your loss.

Aripi is the Romanian word for wings.

I lost a baby very early on and we called them Sami.

I had many attempts with IVF and called each embryo by a name, often connected to nature.

I love the names above, Taisce, Nova, Rowan, Skye and Eden.

IBegYourBiggestPardon · 15/05/2024 01:13

Ours are
Dot
Quinn Emery
Avery
Little Bean (looked like a bean on the scan so the name just stuck)
Little Pip

Tommyegansgirl · 15/05/2024 01:09

Beau x

RookieMa · 15/05/2024 00:56

Nova is beautiful name

I named my foetus baby and we buried her.

It does make a difference to give a name imho

ashtyler · 15/05/2024 00:13

I’m so sorry; just saw your update. Nova is absolutely beautiful Star

ashtyler · 15/05/2024 00:12

I’m so sorry for your loss Flowers

Taisce is a unisex Irish name meaning treasure x

Daisy12Maisie · 14/05/2024 23:53

I lost a baby at either 17 weeks pregnant. I named the baby Alex. It did turn out to be a boy but it was a unisex name.
Can you give it a unisex first name and a name that has meaning for a middle name?

FriedGold · 14/05/2024 22:11

IdaPolly · 14/05/2024 14:45

Could you use an adjective. Eg. Lovely. Or a noun that reflects their size when you lost them? When I was expecting dd1 I called her Peanut in the early stages.

I don’t think this is quite the special name OP has in mind?!

StMarieforme · 14/05/2024 22:09

Nova will also be lovely for your LO to have as their Twin's name, with beautiful and timeless imagery.

A beautiful name. 💐

PatchworkElmer · 14/05/2024 21:34

Sorry, just seen your update! Glad you’ve found something that is meaningful for you both.

PatchworkElmer · 14/05/2024 21:33

Star? Robin is lovely too.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

TheHorneSection · 14/05/2024 21:09

Nova is a gorgeous name. It’s a lovely thing to do, their twin will always be able to carry them with them as a person.

Motnight · 14/05/2024 21:06

I am so sorry for your loss, Op. Nova is a beautiful name xx

Fifiesta · 14/05/2024 21:04

‘Loved one’ - find a word in any language that means that.
I hope you find peace, while keeping your lost baby in your heart always x

DeadButDelicious · 14/05/2024 20:57

Nova is a beautiful name, a fine choice.

All the love to you, I'm so sorry for your loss. Flowers

Gowlett · 14/05/2024 20:56

I called my lost baby after the month she was born.
I didn’t know the sex, but it was a girl in my heart…

Sugargliderwombat · 14/05/2024 20:51

Edit : just seen your update - nova is beautiful.

cherryassam · 14/05/2024 20:51

Nova is lovely @Laura199214