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To use no middle name

38 replies

Millenialmom96 · 06/04/2024 06:47

DH and I have a double barrelled name and are giving it to our kid in a few weeks. We're both tempted to not do a middle name so the child doesn't have a ridiculously long name. Everyone I know has middle names but I can't see any issues with not having one. For context the surname will be Bermitad-Dowell.

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stickygotstuck · 06/04/2024 07:55

You don't need a middle name.

But I'd agree with posters that your child might feel like missing out on something.

Speaking from experience here, as we didn't gjve DC a middle for similar reasons, then she asked us herself to add one when she was around 8 (which we did, and was a bit of a hassle for various reasons)

Screamingabdabz · 06/04/2024 07:51

Me and my siblings don’t have middle names, and neither do my children. I still don’t quite understand what they’re even for! They seem pointless to me.

tuliparcher · 06/04/2024 07:48

I too feel I missed out by not having a middle name!
It's a right of passage for people to discuss their middle names!
In one job I needed 3 letters to make a user name. They used everyones initials- I only had 2, had to make one up

Topseyt123 · 06/04/2024 07:45

I wouldn't bother with giving a middle name. There are no rules that say one must be given and I've no idea why some posters look like they are pleading with you to give one.

You don't have to, you don't want to and it would make your child's name very long. So just don't.

HappiestSleeping · 06/04/2024 07:42

I have a middle name, and the only use it gets are being printed on my passport and birth certificate. I could quite happily not have one, and it wouldn't make a jot of difference to me.

TTPD · 06/04/2024 07:39

I don't have a middle name, neither do my siblings, or my dad.

I'm not bothered by it, nor do I think it's better. It just is. But it's never caused any issues. I don't understand giving a middle name for the sake of it - why bother if you're not fussed and can't think of one?

RuthW · 06/04/2024 07:29

Please give a middle name.

I wanted one so much from when I was a small child. I felt left out when friends were discussing theirs.

I gave myself one for my 50th birthday by deed poll.

spanieleyes · 06/04/2024 07:08

I don't have a middle name. I still have 20 letters in my full name, I don't feel the need for any more, it never fits into the boxes on forms as it is😁
My children have middle names because their first names are much shorter!

Vettrianofan · 06/04/2024 07:05

My brother got a middle name, but I didn't. No point getting upset about it. It has made life easier for me.

DH didn't get a middle name but his two siblings did. One thing DH and I have in common - we were both born the eldest.

CharlotteSometimes1 · 06/04/2024 07:02

I hate not having a middle name, it feels like my parents couldn’t be bothered.

Vettrianofan · 06/04/2024 07:00

DH, myself and all of our children have something in common - none of us have middle names.

It hasn't negatively impacted us in life at all. In fact, form filling is incredibly fast.

Flatandhappy · 06/04/2024 06:55

There is no rule that says you have to have a middle name, in my experience (and in our case) they are often used in memory of loved ones or to keep the peace in a family (no MIL, I’m not calling her some obscure French name I can’t pronounce or spell but I’ll shove it in as a second middle name if it will shut you up). If you are happy with none leave it at that.

oldnorsesaga · 06/04/2024 06:51

there are people with longer surnames. I would still do middle names.

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