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ByLovingRoseSloth · 2024-03-25T14:22:36+00:00

I named my son Oscar, but I regretted shortly after learning the people's opinions of this name online as some people associate it with Oscar Mayer Wieners, Oscar the Grouch, the fish breed and the award, I am in UK and my son is 4 months old now, will my son be teased at school on any of this associations? I am very worried about this, if I change his name before he turns 1, does he need to declare his original name in future? Any problems for him to use the amended birth certificate? I am so depressed. Do you think do a name change is the best solution? If So, any name you could recommend? I am afraid I would make another mistake, please help:

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MaloneMeadow · 25/03/2024 20:44

ByLovingRoseSloth · 25/03/2024 18:23

Love to hear this, you mean I got nothing to do😂so I think about these? honestly do you think these are unnecessary to think about? I have been in a bad mood for 3 months. I will be working from home from next week, hope this will distract myself from these thoughts...

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You’ve been in a bad mood for 3 months aka you’ve got PND.

DrJoanAllenby · 25/03/2024 20:40

Oscar has to be one of the most innocuous names possible!

Your thoughts are disordered and your anxiety is misplaced.

Please see your GP as it's quite alarming dow you to have those very strange thoughts and ideas about your sons perfectly normal name.

LemonJuice92 · 25/03/2024 20:37

Oscar is a nice name and is very popular, I do not think it is a name he will get teased about at all!

I agree with all the PP’s about PND. Please go to your GP and talk to them 🤍 I appreciate you said you’re not someone who gets depressed - that was also what I said and I suffered terribly with it (in silence for a long time I might add which definitely didn't help). It can affect anyone!

DontGiveADuck · 25/03/2024 18:28

I know loads of Oscar’s. Two of my friends have Oscar’s. I’ve never heard any teasing ever.

I don’t even know the references you’re talking about apart from Oscar the Grouch.

TheBottomsOfMyTrousersAreRolled · 25/03/2024 18:25

ZipZapZoom · 25/03/2024 18:24

Honestly the more you post OP the more it does indeed sound like PND. I would be looking to speak to someone about your mental health ASAP.

I teach lots of oscars. No teasing. Perfectly normal name.

ZipZapZoom · 25/03/2024 18:24

Honestly the more you post OP the more it does indeed sound like PND. I would be looking to speak to someone about your mental health ASAP.

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ByLovingRoseSloth · 25/03/2024 18:23

ScierraDoll · 25/03/2024 17:36

Good god almighty - its a name. A proper name. A name that people have.
Do you find yourself worrying about lots of things? Have to tried doing something to distract you from these thoughts?
Perhaps you could read a book or sew some bits of cloth together then unpick them and start again. What about pouring salt on your worktops then trying to get it back in the salt cellar.
Anything really to occupy your mind.

Love to hear this, you mean I got nothing to do😂so I think about these? honestly do you think these are unnecessary to think about? I have been in a bad mood for 3 months. I will be working from home from next week, hope this will distract myself from these thoughts...

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Swoopy · 25/03/2024 18:19

It’s a very nice name and totally normal. Second PP suggesting that you might be a bit anxious or depressed if you’re fixating on this.

I think once you think about any name you can come up with lots of associations eg Ben, what about Ben Hur, Uncle Ben’s rice, Bill and Ben, the charity Ben, the Michael Jackson song Ben, the tv show Mr Ben, Ben(d) it like Beckham etc etc.

Alwayswonderedwhy · 25/03/2024 18:14

Oscar is a lovely name and I've never heard of any of those connections.

Needmorelego · 25/03/2024 18:08

@ByLovingRoseSloth I think the amount of the UK population that has actually heard of an Oscar fish is probably about 1% 🙂
Don't even give it a thought.
Enjoy your little Oscar.
It's a good name.

Blobfishy · 25/03/2024 18:04

Tbh I knew there was an Oscar fish, and I'm not into fish in any way, but it's not something I've ever thought of with my Nephew (he's an Oscar!). There will be associations with most names though- whether it's linked to animals, actors, crimes, bad weather (my name has been used to name a hurricane in the past.. perhaps you can guess!).

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ByLovingRoseSloth · 25/03/2024 17:36

Needmorelego · 25/03/2024 17:29

Seriously..... there's a type of fish called Oscar 🤔
I have never ever heard of this fish.

It is a type of tropical fish in US, but I think you'd need to be really into fish to know. Oscar is well known Human's name from the beginning.

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ScierraDoll · 25/03/2024 17:36

Good god almighty - its a name. A proper name. A name that people have.
Do you find yourself worrying about lots of things? Have to tried doing something to distract you from these thoughts?
Perhaps you could read a book or sew some bits of cloth together then unpick them and start again. What about pouring salt on your worktops then trying to get it back in the salt cellar.
Anything really to occupy your mind.

Needmorelego · 25/03/2024 17:29

Seriously..... there's a type of fish called Oscar 🤔
I have never ever heard of this fish.

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ByLovingRoseSloth · 25/03/2024 17:29

RuthW · 25/03/2024 17:24

Oscar is lovely. Bet there will be more than one in his year at school.

I don't mind the popularity, I will think other people also love this name then they named their sons, I will be happy if I see more boys named Oscar in his class.

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viques · 25/03/2024 17:27

ByLovingRoseSloth · 25/03/2024 14:29

How about the fish breed, will he be teased about this?

No, but to be on the safe side never dress him as a fish for a fancy dress day.

And it could be worse, you could have had a daughter and called her
Wanda

RuthW · 25/03/2024 17:24

Oscar is lovely. Bet there will be more than one in his year at school.

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ByLovingRoseSloth · 25/03/2024 17:19

Watchthedoormat · 25/03/2024 17:05

Love Oscar- I'd not change it.

i also like Oliver (Twist)
and Owen ( Wilson)

Thank you, my little daughter does not like Oliver, because she does not like Olive, this what she told me when naming my son.

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Watchthedoormat · 25/03/2024 17:05

Love Oscar- I'd not change it.

i also like Oliver (Twist)
and Owen ( Wilson)

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ByLovingRoseSloth · 25/03/2024 17:02

KnitnNatterAuntie · 25/03/2024 16:37

I often wonder how many Harry Potter's were born before J K Rowling put pen to paper . . . . even if you do find a name that doesn't have any negative points at the moment, you never know what may change in the future!

As far as I know, long names are safer, I wish human names could be copyrighted and no gender-neutral names, as boys might be quite embarrassed to have a girl's name and share a same first name in the same class. Boys have much lesser name choices compared with girls. There were no issues when I named my daughter. I am struggling to get everything done perfectly, it is my responsibility, if I think it is failed I would be really frustrated and depressed.

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FayCarew · 25/03/2024 17:02

Several, I expect. Harry was a top 20 name before the book came out. It was fairly unusual before Harry brother of William was born in 1984.

KnitnNatterAuntie · 25/03/2024 16:37

I often wonder how many Harry Potter's were born before J K Rowling put pen to paper . . . . even if you do find a name that doesn't have any negative points at the moment, you never know what may change in the future!

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ByLovingRoseSloth · 25/03/2024 16:29

KnitnNatterAuntie · 25/03/2024 15:54

My DN is named Oscar . . . he's secondary school age. I have NEVER heard of any of those associations in connection with his name

I think you would be very hard pushed to find a name that doesn't have some other association

Jack . . . . the Ripper
Thomas . . . . the Tank Engine
William . . . . Willy Wonka
Henry . . . . Horrible Henry

They are all popular names!

Yes, exactly🙌! All boy names have more or less negative associations which I never knew before, I have been searching for a long time.

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ByLovingRoseSloth · 25/03/2024 16:18

Blobfishy · 25/03/2024 15:19

I'd like to start off by saying, Oscar is a lovely name. I have a family member with that name too! As far as I know, no issues for him.

Secondly, I changed my baby son's name. He was 6 months when we started to call him the name. If you change it before 12 months, he will have no issues with having to use his old name for anything, as the new name will be his new official birth name. It isn't like deed poll, where they have to declare previous names. The only negative is that both his old name and new name will be on the birth certificate. It has irritated me a bit, but mostly I'm over it. I couldn't live with the regret so I'm still very glad we made the change (18 months later!). I was torn over the 2 names during pregnancy so it was something that had been on my mind for a long time!

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Thank you, my husband and I both love this name and think it sounds great, and thank you for your information about changing name within 12 months. I probably will not change the name after learning that this name is also lovely by most of the people here, also because Oscar is our No1 choice, I can't and don't really want to find another name to replace it. My friend changed her daughter's name and she said the birth certificate is just a footnote, once you registered her for everything at the first time, we wont need to pull out the birth certificate very often as at most of the time passport and driving licence are sufficient. She got no issues on using amended birth certificate, she used it to apply the nursery and passport for her daughter.

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Moreteaandchocolate · 25/03/2024 16:11

Oscar is a fantastic name and I know several, of various ages, none of whom are teased for their name.