Everyone pronounces our daughter's name wrong

That’s interesting. My English MIL pronounces Elsa from Frozen as Ailsa!

But how many times do you correct it? This is why I let it go as I really can not be bothered any more with correcting it.

My name was rare as a child and everyone including teachers said it wrong and I hated my name aged 6-12, then loved its uniqueness and now its common. I think a simple correction when someone gets it wrong and not getting offended and all will be fine.

I have partial hearing and often can not tell subtle pronunciation differences.

Michael used to get shortened to Mike or Mick regularly, its not sue a popular name now.

Those with the name will introduce themselves with the name of their choice - just keep refreshing people on how to say your dads name

I have a name like that and I wish my parents had just chosen the more common version. Instead they went in heavy with the gaslighting about being proud of it, unique etc.

If I correct people they can get sniffy and don’t remember anyway. If I just let it slide, people get upset when they see the spelling, and still don’t remember the next time.

I understand. I know an Anna and an Anya, a Marie (marEE) and Marie (MAHRee) and a Mia (MEEa) Mia (MYa)and it’s very hard to keep them straight, even when I’m very aware of the importance of calling someone by their actual name.

Just call your dc something that makes like easy.

As someone with an obscure first name (Never met anyone else with it at all), I hate it and always have and it's nothing but an annoyance.
It's fine when I'm asked my name, but when it's written down/read that's where I have issues because it's needlessly spelled in a fancy French way!
I used to correct people, but I really just can't be arsed anymore - That doesn't mean it's not annoying when people get it wrong though.

Think similar to the "an" sound at the end of "Bethan" for example, but it instead get's pronounced phonetically as "own" or "on".
It's frustrating.

Failing those I've even had people straight up call me a different name all together during registration/role call, to this day I have no idea how.

I can't change it either as my mum has a massive reaction every time I've ever brought it up.

If the name can be shortened and she has a middle name which is more pronounceable, the girl has options. You've done enough.

No need to change her name, especially given you think it suits her, and it was named after an actual person who touched your life as opposed to a random foreign name you thought sounded pretty.

FWIW, people can mispronounce any name. I have friends with very standard English names, and people still get them wrong. Changing a name doesn't guarantee you any more success with people saying it correctly.

I also work with a woman with this name and she pronounces it Queeva. However I also know of someone (who called her three children ridiculous names) who has a brother called Keavy which (correct me if I am wrong) is an Anglicised derivative of this name based on being a fan of B*Witched. He pronounces it Keevy. 🙄

I have an unusual name and no one ever pronounces it correctly at first. It’s really not a big deal, I don’t get precious about it and rarely even bother correcting them unless they ask.

At work we have a few Karens and they all insist on it being pronounced differently. None of them are Karen, it’s all Car-en or Care-en.

It would be helpful to know the name @StarShine23 . I doubt anyone will be offended by knowing you prefer a different pronunciation of their name.

I wondered whether it was something like Thea. I know two, one pronounced Thee-uh and one pronounced Tay-uh

I’ve just read the whole thread to find out if my guess that the name is Evelyn is correct or not. 🥱

Also, Sarah and Sara are completely different names.

Not the sort of thing I can get worked up about. I thought I gave son 1 the simplest name in the world, but people still manage to screw it up! (he is named a shortened version of a name, but so many people use the lengthened version!)
Son 2, again, I thought I gave him a fairly simple name with the most common, traditional spelling of the name. But nope, 90% of people, first time saying it, get it wrong!!

Are you telling me we never find out what the name is? 😁 I’m dead

I understand this is not a case of correct/incorrect pronunciation.
An example upthread: Guy. In French it rhymes with ‘me’, in English it rhymes with ‘pie’.
Would be ridiculous to correct someone using the English prononciation if in the UK (especially with no French origins)

no doubt she went in to become a mumsnetter regularly starting thread about all the different and varied ways people are pissing her off and perceived injustice against her!

accent as far as I know, as we didn’t live there so picked up local slang.

but even regional accents can vary. Newcastle is very different from Middlesbrough, for example.

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People are dicks. You can spell a name Sarah and pronounce it Gary if you want. Stick with the same and correct people. People who are family and friends will use the correct way.

I have a complicated “foreign” name, always have to spell it but it honestly is no big deal and I like I’m not generic. It always seems to be a problem on MN with people saying don’t name them that they’ll have to spell it, so?

Assuming the UK pronunciation is correct i.e. not for ex an Irish name that is mispronounced, use your pronunciation at home / with family but accept that others won’t and don’t correct them (as technically they are correct!)

I’m from another country, my name is also used here, it would be odd for me to correct people in the UK when they use the english pronunciation.

My mother named me after someone she knew from abroad and for 43 years I’ve had people pronounce my name wrong. I hated the attention it brought me right throughout school, college & pretty much everywhere, constantly having to correct people’s pronunciation, explain where my name came from etc. In business I’ve chosen to use my second name, which is easy to pronounce and is a bog standard, common English name. In my personal life family and friends know me as my given name, but I don’t introduce myself as that to new people any more .

Hi OP,
I just wanted to say I wouldn't let your daughter hear or become aware of the whole "hate?/don't like her name when it's pronounced the UK way" narrative.

You pronounce her name how you like. You correct people if you want to but I would leave it up to her if her name mispronounced bothers her. Her name is a part of her identity and it's not nice for her if she thinks you don't like it or it's pronunciation becomes a source of stress.

I have known a Sara (not Sarah) that corrected pronunciation every time their name was said wrong and one that was equally happy to be called Sarah of Sara and didn't correct anyone so different longstanding friends might call her Sara or Sarah. For each it was their choice.

Why?

She either pronounces it her way or the 'new' way.

Doesn't matter what it is

I'd stay with the 'original' way that you liked in the first place @StarShine23

That sometimes happens with the Irish names Padraic and Caitlin. It's a tricky one, names should always be pronounced correctly out of courtesy, but I think you'll just have to be flexible about it and accept the more commonplace UK pronunciation outside of your immediate home and family and her close friendship group. I think your daughter might end up getting teased if she keeps correcting everyone she meets.

My first name is run of the mill but can be spelled two ways and also, depending on which country I'm in at the time, pronounced 3 ways that I know of so far. I've given up trying to correct anyone, and in fact have had far more trouble with my surnames, maiden and married. The most annoying thing to me is when I spell my surname out to someone and then pronounce it as it should be pronounced and it is repeated back to me the way the person speaking thinks it ought to be pronounced, not the way it I have just pronounced it. IYSWIM. Drives me nuts.
No advice to @StarShine23, sorry. Except my brother had an fairly unusual name for England, spelled the French way, which he hated, and his middle name was more unusual and also spelled the French way, but he preferred it, so when he went to secondary school, he changed to using the English version of his middle name and that is how he is now known by everyone but family and friends who knew him before he was 11. Is use of a middle name a possibility?

This sort of thing is much more common than you think OP. One of my DD's has the reverse problem to you - she has a very unusual and pretty name that has double s in the middle. In our experience most originally British people pronounce the name as you would expect - exactly as it looks written down but as we are now a very multicultural country a lot of people particularly from Eastern Europe pronounce the double s as 'sh' and don't pronounce the i that follows them. It's no biggie is it - my adult DD doesn't seem in the least bit worried about it and neither are we. It's just language differences and can't be avoided - sorry, but I've got far greater things to worry about than correcting people's pronunciation!