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Samzzz · 17/01/2024 09:53

You may have seen my other threads but if our third baby is a boy then my DH wants to name him. To give context, we have two other DC (Boy Ezra and girl Winter), I named them both with DH agreeing. My DH shares the same first initial with his Dad beginning with M and the same middle name, James. If we have another boy then I agreed he could name him. He really wants to use a name beginning with M to follow this new ‘tradition’. I personally don’t care for it all but it’s important to him and he’s now fixated on it. The difficulty is he loves the name Maddox and I don’t. He won’t agree on any other name and has made his mind up. I don’t hate it but it’s not a name I would have chosen. Question is, do I agree and accept it with the hope Maddox will grow on me or refuse and tell him point blank it’s a no and risk upsetting him?
Thanks for reading this far :)

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CloakOfNope · 17/01/2024 14:28

My parents did that when they named us. DM named DSis and DB and then DF got to name me. DM didn't like DF's choice but once I was born she grew to love it because it's my name and now she can't imagine me being called anything else. I know what name she wanted use and I'm glad DF named me.

DuchessOfSausage · 17/01/2024 14:03

or refuse and tell him point blank it’s a no and risk upsetting him?
or say yes and upset you.

You don't like the name. You can't seriously consider giving a child a name you don't like.

Call the baby Max or something.

DuchessOfSausage · 17/01/2024 13:11

I had the same initials as a parent. Anything addressed to Miss D.O. Sausage was opened by DM or DF. Not great when I was a teenager.

FloofCloud · 17/01/2024 12:32

Maddox is a marmite name IMO so if you don't like it then say no - what about James Maddox - it doesn't need to start with M in reality

DuchessOfSausage · 17/01/2024 11:27

Mad ox. Raging bull?
Madoc is better

pontipinemum · 17/01/2024 10:53

I don't really like it either and can see him being called Mad-ox

You both need to agree on the name. I 'found' our DSs name but DH agreed on it.

I wouldn't mind being narrowed down to one letter, and James is a lovely middle name.

Marcus
Marco
Matthew
Mateo

WildCherryBlossom · 17/01/2024 10:28

Agree - you do both need to like it. One of our DCs names was completely my DHs choice (after I had chosen the previous DCs name). It probably wouldn't have been my first choice name at the time but would have been in my top 10. Of course now I can't imagine DC with any other name.

Mazuslongtoenail · 17/01/2024 10:25

I think you both have to like it enough and it sounds like you don’t. Neither of my kids have names that would be in mine or DH top 3 - but they are the ones we both liked.

determinedtomakethiswork · 17/01/2024 10:21

Maddox is just going to be known as Mad. Put Mad with his surname and keep repeating it to him.

Samzzz · 17/01/2024 10:16

WildCherryBlossom · 17/01/2024 10:12

Malachi does go well with Ezra.

Micah
Michael
Milo
Miles..

I think keeping his (newish) family tradition going is sweet but you do have a right to veto.

I also think it’s sweet but sharing the first initial with his Dad I’m sure was coincidental. Using the same middle name, James I completely agree with and I love it. It’s the first name having to begin with M that I’m struggling with and Maddox just doesn’t sit right.

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WildCherryBlossom · 17/01/2024 10:12

Malachi does go well with Ezra.

Micah
Michael
Milo
Miles..

I think keeping his (newish) family tradition going is sweet but you do have a right to veto.

SpeculatingRooks · 17/01/2024 10:08

Just read your post again, hopefully it will be a girl!

SpeculatingRooks · 17/01/2024 10:06

If you don't like Maddox say no. You both have to agree.

I thought it was going to be Malachi??
Much nicer.

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