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Hate DDs middle name now - Skye

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apronbellybarbie · 30/12/2023 08:54

Just to be clear, I don't hate the name Skye on anyone else, it just doesn't feel RIGHT for me.

DD is 1 and I've disliked her middle name from literally a few days after registration but tried to come around to it.

Liked it originally for it's links to Scotland as I have family from there. All 3 DC came to an agreement on it for their baby sister which was fantastic as they rarely all agree on anything 😂 albeit last minute.

I mainly went for this name as my mum talked us out of going for our originally chosen middle name. Wish I never listened but vulnerable, post-partum me did, of course.

I keep trying to get myself over this but I just can't shake it off at all. I don't even know if I can change it now but I think it might be possible. If anyone knows, please? I've never felt this way about my other 3 DCs names.

I'm aware this probably sounds totally pathetic but it's really bugging me.

Thanks for reading.

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Shameless989 · 19/04/2024 13:52

Wonderful news what a relief for you! Thanks for the positive update ❤️

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apronbellybarbie · 19/04/2024 13:44

Thank you so much. Best wishes to you too xx

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FayCarew · 19/04/2024 13:41

Thanks for the update. Good news is always welcome. Best wishes for the future.

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apronbellybarbie · 19/04/2024 13:33

Hey all, not an update as such but just wanted to jump back on this thread and say - I no longer hate DD's middle name! It's absolutely grown on me, suits her and I love it now. I'm glad I chose it. I definitely think I was lingering on it due to bad mental health and going through a bad time! Many thanks for everyone's reassurance and best wishes to you all x

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riotlady · 31/12/2023 13:12

Ahhh it’s lovely that your kids agreed on her name!

FWIW I don’t really like my eldest middle name- it’s my late MILs name so obviously I couldn’t really say no, but I wouldn’t have chosen it myself. It never really comes up though

Santaisscouringindeedfornewjob · 31/12/2023 13:02

Op be very grateful. Ds wanted his db to be Bob after his friend's ddog..

Avacardo2023 · 31/12/2023 12:59

I love it and it's adorable that your other children chose it. They would be upset if you changed it now.

Maybe just try not to think about it for now. Put it to the back of your mind and pretend she doesn't have a middle name. You don't ever have to use it. I think you will grow to love it in time though.

timoteigirl · 31/12/2023 12:53

Middle name is not used so does it really matter? Many of us have one running in the family........

Tawlk · 31/12/2023 10:53

Awe I love it and makes it even nicer that it has personal meaning to you 🥰❤️

MSWood1 · 31/12/2023 10:51

I just wanted to say that your upset is valid. And I don't think it's really about the name at all.

In those first post partum days all new mums are quite vulnerable, and with all the hormones and exhaustion, it's easy to start questioning any decisions made at that time. I think then that when another person gets involved and expresses a strong view, you can naturally start to think if that person got their own way so to speak because of you being in that slightly altered state of being. Next time, just promise yourself that you will slow everything down and give yourself time.

That said, I do think that the universe might have worked this out in your favour. Skye is an exceptionally beautiful name. Your daughter has the name she is meant to have. I think you will come to love more and more.

I speak from experience because I chose my son's name in a bit of a hormonal haze and for the first year I wished that I had taken more time to be sure. Now two years on when I say his name I feel so immensely proud of it.

Hormones and tiredness or not, you would not have allowed a name you did not in your heart believe to be beautiful.

I hope you can now put this behind you and just enjoy your beautiful little girl.

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apronbellybarbie · 31/12/2023 08:56

Thank you all for your reassuring comments. All points being made are totally valid and true and I am overreacting 😂

I suffer from depression and anxiety anyway and find making both general everyday and big decisions very hard and am always questioning my choices afterwards, too. So I think this falls into that 🤦🏼‍♀️

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theduchessofspork · 30/12/2023 16:27

It’s just a middle name - the link to Scotland is nice, and the fact all her siblings agreed on it is cute. If you don’t dislike it on others it can’t be THAT bad.

Newuser75 · 30/12/2023 14:16

Skye is a lovely name. I hate my eldest son's middle name too but it's a family name. 🤷‍♀️

TheSmallAssassin · 30/12/2023 14:02

I think you need to separate out your regret for not going with your first choice from the name itself.

The way I see it, names belong to the person named once they have been given, not their parents, so it's not your choice any more.

Skye is lovely, as is the fact that her siblings chose it for her, so I think you just need to deal with the regret, why is that causing you so much pain?

Astridspuzzle · 30/12/2023 13:58

I like it and I usually prefer more traditional names. And S is a nice middle initial to have.

user1492757084 · 30/12/2023 13:56

Skye is beautiful

FayCarew · 30/12/2023 13:50

... her siblings chose it for her
but she never got to choose her siblings' names
and it carries family history.
Is your family from Skye?

If the first name is Isla change the middle name

If she is less than 12 months old, it's easy to change it. Over 12 months you need to change it by deed poll.

Get it changed while she is still little.

I hated my middle name and went through a solicitor to have the offending middle name removed. I'm glad I did, but decades later someone will manage to use it or a family member will mention it. They found it amusing that I hated it.
It was a middle name that preceded my first name - something like Skye Fabiana Carew. Ha ha ha Sky Crew air hostess ha ha ha. Hilarious.

Whataretheodds · 30/12/2023 09:43

Does she have any other middle names? Would you feel better if you added the one you were talked out of?

JaninaDuszejko · 30/12/2023 09:43

I would be concerned that you feel this strongly about a middle name a year after her birth, it could be a sign of post partum depression.

Shameless989 · 30/12/2023 09:42

i feel the same about my daughters middle name. Have just had to accept it. I used to really really worry about it but now I have just had to put it behind me. Still wonder for the life of me I went with it though…

HamstersAreMyLife · 30/12/2023 09:36

I dislike my oldest child's name so we use their middle name! However I love the fact your other children chose the name, no matter how much you dislike it I think your youngest will love this story and feel attached to that name when they grow so I would keep it, middle names are largely irrelevant so if you ignore it the issue almost disappears.

crumblingschools · 30/12/2023 09:18

What was your other choice?

QuillBill · 30/12/2023 09:17

I think as your other children chose it you can't change it now. I've always felt unsettled about one of my dc's names as I didn't choose it but it's her name and it's become her rather than a name.

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apronbellybarbie · 30/12/2023 09:15

Thank you everyone for talking sense into me. I'm sure it will settle with me over the years. No idea why I feel this way.

Like others have said, it is special because her siblings chose it for her and it carries family history.

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Pablosdog · 30/12/2023 09:15

Santaisscouringindeedfornewjob · 30/12/2023 09:14

Please tell us her first name isn't Isla...

😂

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