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Please, tell my wife that her names suggestions are awful!

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Demainsdeslaube · 12/12/2023 21:25

Hello everyone!

I am 5 months pregnant, and my wife and I are having a hard time agreeing. After weeks of "arguing", we decided to forget about all the previous names suggested before and make a new list.
I absolutely hate all the names she wrote down :

  • Bradleigh ( her favourite)
  • Dallas
  • Paris
  • Lisandry
  • Helen ( The only one I like)

Whereas my favourite names are:

  • Romy ( She likes it but not love it)
  • Dahlia
  • Neva

She is so sure, those are pretty names. Pleaaase help, she'll be reading all the comments!

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SleepingStandingUp · 12/12/2023 22:58

Half of hers are boys names - Bradl(ey), Paris, Lisandry autocorrects to misandry and reminds me disantry.

Dalia is lovely. That's it.

Diaria · 12/12/2023 22:57

Diaria · 12/12/2023 22:38

These are massively better.

So making a new list you could have

Bradley
Christina (Chris/Chrissie/Tina/Ina for short)
Emma
Helen/Helena (Lena for short)
Lorena
Romy

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Sorry missed these
Lola , Carla, Fiona , Flora, Sophia, Gabrielle.

Lola - makes me think of eastenders and the song Coca Cola L-O-L-A Lola…

Carla and Fiona - very 80s, and also shrek.

Flora - butter

Gabrielle - dreams can come true

New List

Bradley
Christina (Ina)
Emma
Gabriella
Helena (Lena)
Lorena
Romy
Sophia

Everything ending in ‘a’ is lovely

WimbyAce · 12/12/2023 22:57

I actually really liked Bronte for a name but then thought there would be confusion if it was Bront-ee or Bront-ay.

forgotmyusername1 · 12/12/2023 22:57

Romilly?

Means God's beloved one so is an actual name and incorporates some of the sounds you were going for

Shewhobecamethesun · 12/12/2023 22:56

How do you pronounce Dahlia? I can never work out if it's Day-lee-a or Daar-lee-a.

I think Emma and Helen(a) are lovely

LakieLady · 12/12/2023 22:56

BlazingJune · 12/12/2023 22:08

Is your partner literate? Seriously,

Doesn't she mean Lysander? (Character in a play.)

He was a Spartan general who defeated the Athenians in the battle that ended the Peloponnesian war!

Calliopespa · 12/12/2023 22:55

CheshireCat1 · 12/12/2023 22:53

I notice that a couple of the names are from Troy, so how about these:
Alexandra
Penelope
Rhea
Iris

How about Troy! 🤣NO OP: that was a joke! 🤪

MarthaMayWho · 12/12/2023 22:54

Brienne always from Troy.
Don't let your wife shorten to Brian though 😂

Calliopespa · 12/12/2023 22:54

Sorry OP we are all being massively rude. But we have to speak for your LO as some of these are real tease fests. Go with Helen or Emma if you both like them, Lisa if DP insists on honouring the relative. Personally I think Helen and Emma are updated and improved by moving to Helena or Emily.

CheshireCat1 · 12/12/2023 22:53

I notice that a couple of the names are from Troy, so how about these:
Alexandra
Penelope
Rhea
Iris

WimbyAce · 12/12/2023 22:52

Highlyflavouredgravy · 12/12/2023 22:50

Every single name you have mentioned barr Helen is atrocious

Agree but Helen is deathly dull. Very bland name.

Nevertouchakoala · 12/12/2023 22:52

Both list are awful. Look on nameberry you put in names you like and they give similar names. Maybe there might be a compromise to be had?

BlackeyedSusan · 12/12/2023 22:51

each write a list. favourite at the top and keep going for twenty or thirty names each to see if you can come up with something that you both like enough.

look at each others options and see if you can finda slightly different version of the name that you both agree on. (eg cathryn/catherine/katherine/kate/caterina/cathy caroline/carolyn)

Highlyflavouredgravy · 12/12/2023 22:50

Every single name you have mentioned barr Helen is atrocious

QueenOfThorns · 12/12/2023 22:50

Dallas is the heroine of a Jackie Collins novel if I remember correctly.

My DD is at school with a female Parker, but that doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. And anyone who would name a child (of either sex) Carter is clearly not old enough to remember Sheriff Fatman Grin

OhwhyOY · 12/12/2023 22:49

Calliopespa · 12/12/2023 22:40

Maybe time to stop googling then! it’s way too much like an unfortunate melange of misandry, laundry and dysentery. I know it’s the name of one of the relatives but they have to be fair to the child. If they go with this they should definitely shorten to Lisa for school.

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'An unfortunate melange of misandry, laundry, and dysentry' - this had me in fits of giggles. It's true though I'm afraid.

martinisforeveryone · 12/12/2023 22:49

Demainsdeslaube · 12/12/2023 22:13

It's a baby girl. Hence the eigh in Bradley. I personally do not like boys' name for girls.

If my wife had her way, she'd name our baby Carter or Parker.

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Frankie Bridge’s children are called Parker and Carter. They’re both boys.

Close to your list I like Helene and Romilly.

MolkosTeenageAngst · 12/12/2023 22:49

Demainsdeslaube · 12/12/2023 22:13

It's a baby girl. Hence the eigh in Bradley. I personally do not like boys' name for girls.

If my wife had her way, she'd name our baby Carter or Parker.

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What about something unisex or something that is a girls name but not overly feminine like:

Harper
Amber
Piper
Hazel
Blair
Quinn
Audrey
Fern
Avery
Rowan
Ashley
Robyn

MarthaMayWho · 12/12/2023 22:49

The other thing is your child is likely to be like you or your wife, so don't pick a name that's too cool or doesn't fit with you. We changed our firstborns list for this reason. Our number one was too cool and we are both too geeky to pull it off. (Yes I am aware you are a same sex couple but still can apply)

VanityDiesHard · 12/12/2023 22:48

Chouette77 · 12/12/2023 22:29

Googling Lisandry now and it seems more common in Spain/Argentina. It's growing on me a bit!

It sounds like mouthwash. It isn't as if it is a common name here, so its being common in Spain is by the by. That said, the other names sound pretty chavvy except for Romy and Helen.

WimbyAce · 12/12/2023 22:48

Demainsdeslaube · 12/12/2023 22:44

Oh! I LOVE Maude, oh wow. It sounds beautiful.

No it really doesn't. I always think of Maude as a scullery maid.
Your whole list is hideous I'm afraid, I think you need to go back to the drawing board.

LakieLady · 12/12/2023 22:47

BlazingJune · 12/12/2023 22:09

'fraid Romy just makes me think of Boris & Carrie's daughter and nothing' s worse than that.

I used to love the name Romy and was gutted when they picked it for their daughter. And I'm afraid I don't like any of the others on your list OP!

Calliopespa · 12/12/2023 22:47

Catsfrontbum · 12/12/2023 22:42

Maude
Sophia
Calliope
Celeste
Astrid
Magda

Yes! My lovely username! But let’s not go with yours catsfrontbum! 🤣 Celeste and Sophia are lovely. I know a little Astrid and it really suits her.

OhwhyOY · 12/12/2023 22:47

I'm sorry OP but I personally don't like any of the names there. My advice though is that whatever you go with will likely end up feeling like their name. My DP and I didn't name our son until he was 10 weeks old as we couldn't decide/agree - my DP liked a few names I found really stuffy, he didn't like the ones I liked. It was tough. In the end we settled for one neither of us was quite sure about- but it fits him now. And I really don't care what other people think now (though we did think about it being a name that could work for him as an adult etc).

If you like traditional names you could try looking at old name lists (medieval French, Old Norse, Anglo Saxon etc) to see if any of them suit you, quite a few of them are quite androgynous so might suit your wife's tastes too.

90yomakeuproom · 12/12/2023 22:46

All terrible

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