My Sister has called her baby the same name as my child

Agree it's different calling a child the same as an adult btw, DP's brother is Oliver and we love the name, and did consider it for DC3 but have decided we'd find it weird having the same name as it's a close family so it would confuse people, we've decided to use it as a middle name instead if Ds is a boy.
My Dad was Robert Scott(though everyone called him Bobby), my brother is Robert Scott (we call him Scott though) and my DS is Bobby so they all have the same names, kind of.

It's a bit odd - yes. but some people don't see anything wrong with it - round my way it's quite common for cousins to be called the same names - whole families with several strands containing an andrew, john, david and brian etc.

Maybe ask her gently how come she came up with that name? But it's not really your place to ask her to change it, and you will get used to it eventually anyway.

My sister in law and neice are called a lovely name that I would have loved for a girl, but fwiw, I wouldn't have dreamt of using that name.

A friend of mine had a baby and called her Tamsin, was planning on using Tammy for short.
Her sister had a baby a few months later, named her Tammy.
I know it really hurt my friend, not because of the name, but because she felt she did it to spite her...

i think it's really out of order.

if there is some important reason why they chose this name then they should have discussed it with you first imo.

i think it's different calling a baby the same name as an adult than the same name as another child in the family.

mind you, we called our ds2 the same name
as my sis' then fiance, he was pissed off, but they never did get married so it never became an issue. he prob knew it was a 'sign'.

my dh ahs the same name as his uncle. it drives him completely bonkers - even to this day. he still doenst kow what came over his parents to give him the same name as his uncle. lack of imagination is what i say.

bu the thing is - for lisacam there is nothing she can do about it. she will jsut ahve to get used to it. one of those things

yes it would annoy me too

that would piss me off to no end. (though in my case it's probably because i dislike my sister!)

I never comment on name threads, but this is the only situation that would really piss me off.

yes, whats the name??? Why did they want it so badly. Makes me .

Did they want it first? Or have it in mind for along time?

odd

If it's a fairly common name I don't see what the issue is really. I have a brother, cousin, father and uncle who all have the same first name. It is one of my son's middle names (he has two).

Is it a name where there are a couple varriations? For example, if the name was Matthew, one could be Matt and the other Matthew.

Do you know why they chose this name? Maybe it is a family name for them? Or has some other important significance?

i would be very annoyed. my aunt and uncle did this and gave my cousin the same name as me (she also has the same surname so we have exactly the same name) they said they couldnt think of a name and saw nancy in a book and thought it was nice!{hmm} my mum went mad and it caused huge fall outs in our family.

You have every right to be pissed off, and to wonder 'WHY'

it baffles me.

I'd probably find it a bit weird tbh but prob cos my sister would be v unlikely to do that kind of thing without even mentioning it beforehand. is she v jealous of you or v unimaginative? otherwise she would surely realise it would be worth at least mentioning beforehand.
I would think up a v irritating nickname, even if it's just 'little . . . 'and call the baby that for the next few months to get on her nerves. then, let it go.

This has happened lots in our family. My brother and Cousin on mothers side) both have the name John, born 6 months apart. Growing up they were very close. I share the same name as a cousin on my fathers side, I am two years older. A lot of my cousins are named after other family members (uncles/ aunts etc). That said, it's never been an issue with us, but we do have a huge family.

We have a Billy and a Will in our family - no problems

nice try Nightbynight - but posting on mumsnet is not a parallel to real life.
In mumsnet we only have the typed names to go on - in real life a whole visual image, different life and character goes with it.

2 of my sons have names that sound very similar, although have completely different meanings. dd2 has the feminine form of ds1's name, so it also sounds similar. Doesnt cause us any problems, beyond the odd "what?" from the wrong child.

My childrens names are a bit political, and my ex chose them (they are from his country) because he actually WANTED other people to use these names, for political and cultural reasons.

Well, I can see why some people might be upset (lots on this thread for instance). It wouldn't bother me though. We would just have a "Big X" and a "Little X". Until Little X inevitably outgrew Big X to great comic effect.

why on earth woudl it bother anyone if this happened? maybe they just really like the name? i assume its not a made -up one fo a kind name, therefore there will be plenty of other people called it?

weird thing to get upset about.

I would be upset!...she could make it a middle name at least!...do you and your sis get on?...I know I would be pissin my sis right off with such a move!

Am still confused by Tinkerbelles post lol!

YANBU - very odd to copy a name.

How do your extended family feel about it?

I can see why it's annoying to you but I'm sure it's not a decision they took lightly.

I remember feeling a bit like I'd missed the boat when SIL named her daughter Ellen, because it was my nan's name and I was desperate to use it if I had a little girl - fortunately fate has intervened there. Would have been quite a dilemma.