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Double barrelling our surnames - which order?

38 replies

Desupi · 12/09/2023 07:28

Which sounds better?

Hedges - Perry
Perry - Hedges

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sorrynotathome · 12/09/2023 07:40

If your child then wants to marry A. Smith-Jones, what happens then? Do they become Mr & Mrs Hedges-Perry-Smith-Jones?

In cultures that double barrel (millions of people all over the world - this is not a niche or novel practice), kids get one name from each parent. So, in your example, Hedges-Smith or Perry-Jones.

Alternatively, the kids can do as they like - give kids one person’s last name, make up a new one, mononyms might be a thing in 30 years. Who can say?

continentallentil · 12/09/2023 07:44

sorrynotathome · 12/09/2023 07:40

If your child then wants to marry A. Smith-Jones, what happens then? Do they become Mr & Mrs Hedges-Perry-Smith-Jones?

No. They just decide which names to carry forward, like the sentient adults they are.

This is just a daft question.

Doingmybest12 · 12/09/2023 07:43

Hedges-Perry seems to have more gravitas to me somehow if that matters.

MajesticWhine · 12/09/2023 07:43

Perry-Hedges

Somewhereovertherainbowweighapie · 12/09/2023 07:42

Perry hedges.
Use both names. Don’t just let it be the father’s last name.

JaukiVexnoydi · 12/09/2023 07:40

I think Perry-Hedges sounds better but although we double-barrelled and had the same decision to make, I wish I had done differently now. Double-barrelling only solves partiarchal naming conventions for one generation.

I wish I had pushed harder for a sustainable multi-generation alternative. Which would be to coin a new surname that goes with both and one of you be Perry-Desupi and the other be Hedges-Desupi and you give your children the solo surname Desupi which they can double-barrel with whoever they eventually marry. (Obviously replacing Desupi above with some combination of syllables that you both like)

sorrynotathome · 12/09/2023 07:40

If your child then wants to marry A. Smith-Jones, what happens then? Do they become Mr & Mrs Hedges-Perry-Smith-Jones?

chocolateisavegetable · 12/09/2023 07:38

Perry-Hedges

Whataretheodds · 12/09/2023 07:33

Hedges - Perry

Itsjustme83 · 12/09/2023 07:32

Perry-Hedges

PinkRoses1245 · 12/09/2023 07:32

PuttingDownRoots · 12/09/2023 07:31

I'd avoid Hedges second as it sounds like the cigarette brand...
But it does flow a bit better that way.

Agree with this. Or give the kid a break and pick one surname

PuttingDownRoots · 12/09/2023 07:31

I'd avoid Hedges second as it sounds like the cigarette brand...
But it does flow a bit better that way.

DustyLee123 · 12/09/2023 07:28

Perry Hedges