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Baby having a surname

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leearodgers · 04/09/2023 10:19

Hi there, I’m currently 40 weeks + 2. No sign of this baby girl of mine yet 😅🤞.. however last night my partner brought up about our daughter having a last name.. he’s not fond of his family name (doesn’t get on much with the family) so doesn’t exactly want to carry on his last name and brought up to me that what if she just doesn’t have a last name at all… which at first I thought that he was crazy and you can’t possibly not give your child a last name. I told him she’s got to have a last name.. wether it’s mine or yours (I don’t like my last name and my son from my last relationship doesn’t have my last name and has his dads.. so I didn’t want her to have mine) also all before this chat last night, she was always going to have my partners last name. Reason last night saying she has mine or yours though I don’t want her to have mine is because it’s her identity and I thought can’t just possibly not give her a last name so If he doesn’t want it to be his then it’s mine. Now that I’ve slept on it.. I’m thinking maybe it’s a good idea and Ive come round to it more and I’ve thought about it all morning. Reason I’m thinking it might be a good idea is bc I have a son from a previous relationship and he has his dads last name.. we are engaged so if our daughter was to have his last name and we got married, all 3 of us would have the same last name but my son from previous last relationship wouldn’t have the same. Also to mention my son doesn’t see his dad at this moment in time due to safe guarding reasons and hasn’t for a year.. he was meant to put a court application through by July after being through medication but he hasn’t. So I don’t know what will happen with that side of things about seeing his dad (but he does see his dads immediate family) I wouldn’t want him to be left out and all 3 of us have same last name and he doesn’t.. and that’s what’s made me come around to the idea bc then at least it makes sense. However I still wouldn’t mind if our daughter had my partners last name. So my question is, is it possible to register the baby without a last name and even if so is this just a stupid idea?? Her name would be Arabella Lucíana for reference so Lucíana is meant to be her middle name but obviously would also be classed as her last name?

TIA x

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peaceinourtime · 06/09/2023 10:22

You use someone in your family’s last name if you have a good relationship with/like them. Alternatively you could use someone in your family’s first name who you like or just any last name that you like.

FayCarew · 04/09/2023 11:22

Give her your surname or pick a different one. You could use the 'middle name' as a surname. E.g. Olivia Grace/May/Rose, known as Ms O. Grace/May/Rose
You could pick a surname you just happen to like e.g. Balonz, Skywalker, Bell, Adams, Fielding, or your grandmother's maiden name or something

My neighbours are from a different culture to mine, and the children have the father's name as their surname. It doesn't seem to be an issue as the mother has the same surname.

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leearodgers · 04/09/2023 11:19

Thank you all of you!! I agree, which is why I thought it was crazy when he first brought it up 😂.. it will be his surname or like suggested we will make a family name 🫶🏻

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 04/09/2023 10:34

You can’t not give her a surname! I know people who merged their names into a new surname which worked well.

foolishone · 04/09/2023 10:30

She needs a surname, even Madonna had one really.

Toddler101 · 04/09/2023 10:28

Friends of mine joined their surnames to make a whole new surname. Think 2 single syllable names shoved together (not hyphenated). Sounds like it's always been their intended surname and not just an inherited one

namecombiner.com/

Twizbe · 04/09/2023 10:27

She needs a surname.

why not create a new last name for your family. Perhaps a combination of all three in your family. You and your partner can change yours via deedpoll / marriage.

SnapdragonToadflax · 04/09/2023 10:27

Of course she needs a surname.

Give her your name, have your partner change his name to yours if he doesn't like his, and try to get your son's name changed to yours too. Sorted.

Or if you really don't like your name, make up a new family name and give everyone that instead.

Hubblebubble · 04/09/2023 10:26

Arabella Luciana Gloucester/Edinburgh/Carmarthen. Sounds quite regal

Hubblebubble · 04/09/2023 10:26

Is there a historical family name you like? A mother or grandmother's maiden name perhaps? Or you could choose a place name?

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 04/09/2023 10:25

I don't think you HAVE to have a last name but it seems a bit weird to me when you both have one. You could make up a new last name for you all to use?

If you didn't give her a last name and then got married and took his name it would be a bit

AuntieEsther · 04/09/2023 10:24

She needs a surname!

Itsjustme83 · 04/09/2023 10:23

You could make up a whole new name for yourselves and change your name and your partners last name to it aswell.

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