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Am I being unreasonable? Chosen the same name as a family member

110 replies

RosieG82 · 14/08/2023 21:41

Hi all. We’ve decided on a name for our unborn daughter which is the same name as my cousin’s child, who is around 6. A couple of family members have said it’s strange that we’ve chosen the same name as ‘there are so many names to choose from.’ I get that but this name is the only name we have both agreed on and both love.
For context, my entire family (including my cousin) live a few hours away. I only see my cousin perhaps once a year at family events, and have never interacted with her daughter. I feel that both kids having the same name isn’t an issue at all and have been slightly miffed with the negative comments. I could understand if I wanted to choose a name the same/very similar to one of my siblings’ children, but a cousin who I’ve barely spoken to in years ? What would you do?

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 14/08/2023 21:52

I think it depends on the name. If it’s a standard name like Charlotte, fine. If it’s really unique and unusual, might seem like copying.

I know I’d be gutted if the only name I liked was already taken.

DinaofCloud9 · 14/08/2023 21:52

Thus has come up on MN before and the majority say to use the name but I think its odd.

There's so many names out there it's very unimaginative to use one already in the family.

AuntieSoap · 14/08/2023 21:51

Use the name. Your cousin hasn't got a monopoly on it, nor should any family member have a veto on what you call your child.

drpet49 · 14/08/2023 21:50

DarkDarkNight · 14/08/2023 21:47

Find something else. Seriously, there will be other names you both like.

There are so many options, you don’t have to try hard to be ‘unique’ but I think it’s so unimaginative to use a name already in the family.

I agree

Daffodilsandbees · 14/08/2023 21:49

Stick to your guns

DarkDarkNight · 14/08/2023 21:47

Find something else. Seriously, there will be other names you both like.

There are so many options, you don’t have to try hard to be ‘unique’ but I think it’s so unimaginative to use a name already in the family.

ScoobyBooby · 14/08/2023 21:44

Wouldn’t bat an eye lid and I would use the name

NuffSaidSam · 14/08/2023 21:44

It's fine. Use the name.

Changingplace · 14/08/2023 21:42

Carry on and use the name you want, it’s not like you’re particularly close.

Busted2006 · 14/08/2023 21:42

I'd use the name.