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Name regret

34 replies

Emz555 · 13/08/2023 09:31

Please no judgement, this is a hard post to write.

I gave birth to my second daughter 7 months ago. Pregnancy was unplanned and her dad and I separated as he didn't want me to keep her. I struggled throughout but also had my 8 month old to care for and returned to work full time.

Her birth was traumatic and ended in an emergency section. Dad then decided he did want to be involved and he'd made a mistake. I was an emotional mess and under daily pressure to name her. I originally agreed to Mila Eve, because I didn't dislike it and everyone else seemed to love it. I didn't register her until the deadline and about a week prior decided Mila wasn't right, so went with Eve Celine without telling anyone. I was still (and still am) living alone with both my babies and had no one I wanted to talk to anyway. Eve or Eva had always been special to me so Eve kind of felt right. I'm 7 months in, we've finally just moved into our new hoke and I think I'm starting to process the whole past year. I'm still struggling with her name. I'm not sure I'm comfortable with it, everyone laughs or thinks I'm joking when they ask her middle name. My other choice was either Eva or Camille. I don't feel I can change her first name again without people thinking I've totally lost the plot. Do you think it's OK to call her Eva and just keep Eve on her birth cert? What, if anything, can be done about her middle name do you think? I likely won't tell a soul if changes are made I just want and need to feel better bonded to her and because I feel I've messed up her name I don't feel that way.

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Twelve8Ts · 14/08/2023 19:12

What a beautiful name!

Why on earth would people laugh at the name Celine? How strange of them.

I read that 70% of mums regret their baby names, so you’re in good company. Would you regret not changing it? Probably x

CapEBarra · 14/08/2023 07:00

I think Eve Celine is a really beautiful, classy, sophisticated name (if you know what I mean) but try Eva Camille for a few weeks and if you prefer it then change. Who on earth laughed at Celine? It’s not strange or unheard of or odd sounding at all.

Daffodilwoman · 14/08/2023 06:52

No don’t change it.
You are focusing on the wrong issue.
Who is laughing at her name? It must be a relative or friend of yours.
Is this relative on her dads side because it doesn’t sound as though they will be in her life much anyway.

BecuaseIWantItThatWay · 13/08/2023 23:27

Friggingfrog · 13/08/2023 20:03

Eve Celine is a beautiful name. I would keep it and you could use Eva as a nickname for Eve. I think Eva is lovely but mega popular right now whereas Eve is more of a classic. In ten or twenty years Eva might have dated way more than Eve and so I would keep her name as Eve. I’m not a fan of Camille, much prefer Celine.

Yes, you've chosen a beautiful name. Clearly it has been a difficult and stressful time, and speaking to your GP about how you're feeling would be a good next step to make. Sending best wishes 💐

EmmaPaella · 13/08/2023 23:20

Eve Celine is such a lovely name. I prefer Eve to Eva. But, if you don’t like it just change it. It’s the right time, before she is one. I understand how you feel. I felt like this about my DDs name. I didn’t change it and actually I love it now but I look back and it would have been so easy to change and yet I thought it was so hard!

User6761 · 13/08/2023 23:14

Eve is one of my favourite names, have loved it since I met a girl called Eve when I was a child. Much prefer it to Eva or Evie. But that's not really the point, it's whether you like it.

Celine and Camille both nice middle names. But middle names are so rarely used, I can't believe people in your life are so interested in them never mind laughing at them.

Greeneyegirl · 13/08/2023 21:57

I think call her Eva but leave Eve on birth cert. I know an Eva who has always been called Ava and an Olivia who has always been nicknamed Lily. Also a Karen who was always called Carrie. People use slight deviations of names all the time. Add/swap Camille if needed and you don't need to tell anyone.

continentallentil · 13/08/2023 20:57

Try Eva Camille for a month and if you’re happy with it, then change it.

It’s so similar people will barely notice

Cropout · 13/08/2023 20:46

They are all lovely names.
If you change eve to Eva I think you need to change Celine too otherwise you get e-Vaseline

CockneySignora · 13/08/2023 20:20

You haven’t addressed the most important questions here — who is ‘laughing’ at a perfectly ordinary name? Who was pressuring you to choose a name?

Friggingfrog · 13/08/2023 20:03

Eve Celine is a beautiful name. I would keep it and you could use Eva as a nickname for Eve. I think Eva is lovely but mega popular right now whereas Eve is more of a classic. In ten or twenty years Eva might have dated way more than Eve and so I would keep her name as Eve. I’m not a fan of Camille, much prefer Celine.

DuchessOfSausage · 13/08/2023 19:59

Eve Celine is fine. Unless the surname is something like Dion, Dean, Devine, Reeve, Ryder or Glover. Smile
Eve is so much nicer than Eva, but I prefer Camille to Celine.

Try calling her Eva for a bit to see if you do really prefer it, then decide.

mistermagpie · 13/08/2023 19:49

Why are people laughing at the middle name? It's lovely! My children have terrible middle names because we used the middle name to honour relatives, relatives who are very special but have very un-special names. Nobody much even know what the middle names are. I have two similarly awful middle names myself for the same reasons and most of my close friends couldn't even tell you what they are.

FWIW I think Eve is so much nicer than Eva, it's timeless and pretty.

That said, now is the time to change it if you're going to. If I was you I would Keep Eve and change the middle name, but if you change Eve to Eva then honestly people won't take much notice.

Personally I wouldn't keep the birth certificate name and then call her something different - I have a name like that and it's a bit of a pain.

LT2 · 13/08/2023 18:31

Who cares if people will think you've lost the plot if you change it (I changed my baby's name and I'm sane, honestly!). All that matters if your happiness. It was a massive deal for me when I was going through name regret. I immediately felt relief when we agreed to change his name and have been happier ever since (a year later).

margegunderson · 13/08/2023 18:05

Celine is a great name. We changed our DD's name in her first year because we'd never managed to call her by the one we'd agreed on, just the one everyone had tried to talk us out of! No PND there or other reasons. It's mostly been straightforward other than early passport and bank applications where birth certificate and replacement one were needed.
It seems to me she's Eva in your head so go for that. You loved Celine and stick with that - if people laugh they're rude and stupid. Plus who knows anyone else's middle name once they're out of babyhood?
Good luck.

Hazelnut9 · 13/08/2023 17:58

Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks, if you want to change her name then do it. It’s a big decision so if it doesn’t seem quite right then there’s nothing wrong with changing your mind.

I think Eve Celine is lovely though, I don’t understand why people would laugh at her middle name. Eve Camille is also lovely, although personally I think Eve Celine Camille is too much.

BrutusMcDogface · 13/08/2023 17:43

You sound like you’ve been through a lot, and you need to be kind to yourself! Eve Celine is lovely. I know a little Celine at the moment.

I also love Eva Camille but now someone has said evil kenieval I can’t get that out of my head! Eve Camille?

either way, as others have said, your baby and your choice. Use names that make your heart sing 💐

DigbyTheDigger · 13/08/2023 17:37

I changed DD's name. You say Eve or Eva felt special to you. The reason I changed DD's name was because at the last minute I'd swerved away from the 'special' one. So I'd say unless you're really unhappy that you went with Eve instead of Eva, I'd leave it. For what it's worth, I think Eve is nicer.

The middle name sounds like a different issue. I'd put the 'special' name in the middle so it was 'in there somewhere'. You want to get Camille in there, perhaps because you've lost conviction in Celine. In your shoes I'd keep Eve and replace Celine with Camille.

I also definitely had PND, and I think it's worth you looking at that. It makes anxiety levels about decisions go through the roof. Best of luck, OP, you've had a really tough time. Flowers

SneezyEvie · 13/08/2023 17:22

I love Eve Celine and would have no regrets, it’s a really beautiful name.

I think you are experiencing some anxiety (and rightly so, it’s been a lot to go through) and are overthinking the name as a result.

villamariavintrapp · 13/08/2023 17:09

Eve Celine is lovely, and can call her Eva if you prefer without having to change her name. Eva Camille sounds a bit like a female Evel Knievel to me, but it's also fine.

Neverseenbefore · 13/08/2023 17:06

I think Eve Celine is absolutely lovely and nicer than Eva Camille. But it’s not my child. I think it’s OK to call her Eva and keep Eve as her official name, though. But if you’re sure about the new name, just change it.

user1492757084 · 13/08/2023 16:55

Eva Camille is fine.

Busted2006 · 13/08/2023 14:54

Emz555 · 13/08/2023 14:17

Thank-you all for your replies. Please continue to be honest, if I added Camille somewhere (so either Eve Celine Camille or viceversa), would she sound even more ridiculous?

What's the point, does that help the issue?

Just change it

panko · 13/08/2023 14:21

Emz555 · 13/08/2023 14:17

Thank-you all for your replies. Please continue to be honest, if I added Camille somewhere (so either Eve Celine Camille or viceversa), would she sound even more ridiculous?

Imo that would be too much

Emz555 · 13/08/2023 14:17

Thank-you all for your replies. Please continue to be honest, if I added Camille somewhere (so either Eve Celine Camille or viceversa), would she sound even more ridiculous?

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