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Sister said I stole the name she wanted for her baby.

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Mummaneeds · 10/08/2023 14:51

I just had my first baby - he now 9 weeks old.
During my pregnancy, friends and family threw around names that they liked, but it was never a serious discussion. Towards the end of my pregnancy, my husband’s grandma passed away, whom he was very close with. When our son was born, my husband wanted to have a link for his late grandmother - and we agreed to name our boy after his grandmothers father.
when it came to telling our families, everyone was happy bar one - my younger sister. She is not pregnant, not trying for a baby, but when told of our what name we had decided to name our baby, her response was ‘oh well’ - and was followed by her expressing how she’s always wanted to call her Son by that name. Am I right in thinking WTF?

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WiggelyWooWorm · 10/08/2023 14:58

her response was ‘oh well’ - and was followed by her expressing how she’s always wanted to call her Son by that name

Unless there's more here not in your post, it doesn't sound like she said you stole the name at all. It sounds like she was accepting but a bit tactless when it came to hiding her disappointment.

She probably should have plastered a smile on her face and not said anything, but that's about it, imo.

Yes this was my thought. Did she actually say you stole it, or did she just say what you've said in your post?

FionnulaTheCooler · 10/08/2023 14:59

She's not even pregnant and might not even have a son in the future so I wouldn't give it another thought.

WiggelyWooWorm · 10/08/2023 14:58

her response was ‘oh well’ - and was followed by her expressing how she’s always wanted to call her Son by that name

Unless there's more here not in your post, it doesn't sound like she said you stole the name at all. It sounds like she was accepting but a bit tactless when it came to hiding her disappointment.

She probably should have plastered a smile on her face and not said anything, but that's about it, imo.

VeridicalVagabond · 10/08/2023 14:57

Yep, WTF is the right response. No one owns a name. She can still call her hypothetical son that name if she really wants to, it literally doesn't matter, I have 3 cousins with the same name as me and it's never been an issue.

She'll get over it.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 10/08/2023 14:57

Well she can't use the word "steal" if you didn't know she "had it". And she doesn't even "have it" as she doesn't have a child with that name. Did she actually say you stole it?

It's OK for her to be a little sad that she feels she can't use it in the future, but she will find something else. Or use it anyways. Either is fine.

Jessbow · 10/08/2023 14:55

Yup.
Youre right, shes bonkers

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