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Worried friend will choose same name (due before me)

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sashastuck · 09/07/2023 18:12

Hi all,

This sounds a little silly and ‘what if’ but I need to let it out!
My friend is due a couple of months before me. She’s having a boy and I THINK I am also having a boy due to scan pics, guesses and also a strong feeling. We’ve had our boy name in place since before we conceived - to be honest, it’s the only name we agree on and both love.
I have this irrational fear that my friend is going to name her baby the same thing, just going by something she said to me once. She didn’t say the name but gave a clue to it that made me wonder…. And it’s seriously keeping me up at night 😂 If she does choose the same name, what would you do/say?

Should I stick with my name that I absolutely adore or is that awful? We’re not best friends by any means but I’d still feel so guilty.

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PurpleReindeer2 · 09/07/2023 18:17

Yes if you love it then use it. Don't stress about it. I'd just say, when you find out if you are having a boy, that you've decided to call him whatever the name is. Good luck.

sashastuck · 09/07/2023 18:17

@SoSadForCav so tell her the name before her baby is born? That does make sense!

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SoSadForCav · 09/07/2023 18:15

Just tell her you chose the name before you conceived if you have a boy, but haven't decided on a girls name yet (or that you have, whatever). Then it's up to her what she does.