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Original poster

Sorry to ask for help again....Joe not Joseph

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notbloodybranston · 23/02/2008 22:16

Yes I am 32 years old and I should have an opinion of my own but I am tired, am carrying a huge baby (apparently) and I have to mark 100 exam scripts before I start maternity leave- just need someone to tell me what to do!

Surname - still Pickles

Sex of baby - still a boy

Husband - still an arse

We both like Joe but I would prefer to give him a "sunday" name i.e. Joseph.

Husband's family don't agree with Sunday names as a concept - He is Tom (not Thomas) his brother is Harry (not Henry) etc...

My family (read parents,grandmother,aunts) are appalled at thought of baby being given a short name of a "proper" name (have also grumbled that Catholic priest might not christen him Joe).

Could you please just vote and tell me what you would do - Joe or Joseph?
Many thanks

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LittleMissBliss · 25/02/2008 21:25

Oh your other son is called Joby? or do you mean you wanted a Jacob and a Coby. The post doesn't read well, unless its a person that knows you.

IamTheSpeedingHam · 25/02/2008 21:17

rhyming names?

LittleMissBliss · 25/02/2008 21:10

Iamthespeedingham i don't really understand what you mean? You think Coby is a twatish name?

msappropriate · 25/02/2008 21:07

I was thinking of this earlier but I don't think I know any adults who are called (as in refered to not named/christened) Joseph. Apart from Jospeh Fiennes and I don't actually know him!

IamTheSpeedingHam · 25/02/2008 21:04

i also have a Jacob and was going to have a coby

a joby
and a
coby

but that was becuase i was pregnant and being a twat - pregnant women should really not bein charge of these things.

so i have a jakey not a coby

anyway back to the issue

joseph

msappropriate · 25/02/2008 21:01

A I posted earlier things like that evolve over time. Jack came from John but its now a name in its own right. I know a Joe who is just Joe and hes 30 so its not just a new thing.

Flibbertyjibbet · 25/02/2008 20:59

No, but its just a shortened version of a 'proper' name.
I only used it as an example of how shortening names seems to be the thing to do these days, and how some of the shortenings seem strange to people more used to the longer 'sunday' version.

LittleMissBliss · 25/02/2008 20:59

Joseph, My ds is Jacob, but we call him Coby.

yelnats · 25/02/2008 20:58

My dad is Joseph but gets Joe and my late uncle was Joseph also Joe. One catholic and one protestant - I didnt know Joseph was a catholic name - neither will my dad I would imagine! Dont see where the religion associated with a name matters.

IamTheSpeedingHam · 25/02/2008 20:57

joseph

i have a joseph

he is 18

and called joe

except when i want his board money

when he was ickle and loverly i called him my special mummy name

Joby

now that would fuck all the family off

tell all the family to FCK OFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF

its your baby remember - take control NOW or i swear to god they will rule you forever.

Astrophe · 25/02/2008 20:56

My friend has a Joe, who isn't Joseph. I think its a lovely name - a name in its own right really, and have never thought it was odd.

To me its like Lucy and Lucinda - two different names.

msappropriate · 25/02/2008 20:53

Hardly like calling some Barb.

Flibbertyjibbet · 25/02/2008 20:50

Bil just called his son Joe. I just assumed that he was called Joseph and referred to him as this when he was a couple of weeks old. MIL rounded on me demanding to know 'who's Joseph???'. It really surprised me that someone would officially name a child a name that is a shortie version and reading this thread has convinced me that I am not going mad or hopelessly old fashioned!
I agree with others who say give him a Sunday name, shorten it to what you want, but let the child have a choice when he is older.
Who knows in a few years we might be calling little girls 'barb' and others will say 'oo no give her a Sunday name of Barbara'!

bubblepop · 25/02/2008 20:49

call him joseph on the birth certificate, and joe for short. there sorted!

msappropriate · 25/02/2008 20:41

I'm rooting for your DH!

80sMum · 25/02/2008 20:39

Call him Joseph officially, then he (or you) can shorten it if wished. Best of both worlds. I don't see that it's anyone's business but yours and your dp/dh's though (i.e. don't let the families decide - you decide!). I love the name, by the way.

Hulababy · 25/02/2008 20:33

I love the name Joseph, even more than just Joe.

davidtennantsmistress · 25/02/2008 20:24

Joseph - I have a joseph and it's fab! he's called joejoe or Joey by me, and joseph when i'm cross! or, Joe as he's called by his dad & grandparents.

tbh thou Joe really annoys me at the mo as to me Joe is for a teenager or older man.

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notbloodybranston · 25/02/2008 20:21

Thank you all replying -sorry for not coming back sooner - I thought this thread had died.

Am going to stick to my "Joseph" guns (sorry MMJ - we've loads of Matthews in our life though it is a lovely name!).

Off to make DH turn television off and decide name.

Cheers
Sarah

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iloverosycheeks · 25/02/2008 13:27

I have Joseph, it is a family name but also chosen cos really liked it and only one we could agree on! When he was born he was called baby Joseph and has just naturally shortened to Joe - both are lovely but I am probably biased! i think you should go with Joseph and then see which he suits best..

jojosmaman · 25/02/2008 13:18

Joseph.

My DS is Joseph and its only really his granny who calls him Joseph, I call him Joe or Jojo (he is only 1.. this will stop when he's older promise!), DP calls him Joey.

choosyfloosy · 25/02/2008 13:14

Joseph. If your dh really doesn't like Joseph as opposed to Joe, maybe a different name?

can you try not to discuss any further with the family, either side - literally just ignore any questions and change the subject? It is NOTHING to do with them. I have no doubt ds would be named something else if I had discussed it with my family, and I would be sad about that.

Tommy · 25/02/2008 13:04

I agree with the others that Joseph is nicer and will give him a bit more choice when he's .

DS1 and 2 have names that can be shortened 2 different ways and we chose them partly bercause of that. Howevere, we seemed to forget that concept with DS3 and his nsme doesn't shorten at all !

lollipopmother · 25/02/2008 13:03

Joseph, but this is the name I've chosen for my baby, so I think you should choose another altogether!

Tinker · 25/02/2008 12:59

Depends on the Sunday version of the name though . I like both Joe and Joseph and the shortening of Joseph is only really Joe(y). So, either ok in this case.

I did give my youngest a shortened version of a classic long name because I specifically don't like one of the shortened versions. So, eliminated that option!