Shay or Chase? | Mumsnet

ShayOrChase · 2023-06-27T12:45:38+00:00

I know that they're marmite names but which do you prefer for a boy?

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SunnyFog · 08/07/2023 09:54

Séaghdha. Meaning "hawk-like, fine, goodly".

SunnyFog · 08/07/2023 09:47

Shay might Seaghdha.

KayEmAy · 08/07/2023 00:17

@Watchinghurling That's interesting! Thanks for responding! I'm in the states and while I acknowledge it as a neutral name I've only ever met female Shays haha

CrazyArmadilloLady · 04/07/2023 11:27

Goldencup · 04/07/2023 06:27

I see OP hasn't been back. Where I live these would be very working class names, possibly with a hint of Irish Traveller heritage. If that is your demographic then fine, but in the UK they have definite social connotations. Mumsnet is populated by articulate, degree educated middle class women, they would not use these names.

You’re having a laugh, if you genuinely believe this.

MN is populated by all walks of life. It is a literal window into another world for me on a daily basis.

LadyDanburysHat · 04/07/2023 11:22

Goldencup · 04/07/2023 06:27

I see OP hasn't been back. Where I live these would be very working class names, possibly with a hint of Irish Traveller heritage. If that is your demographic then fine, but in the UK they have definite social connotations. Mumsnet is populated by articulate, degree educated middle class women, they would not use these names.

Nice of you to speak for every articulate, degree educated, middle class woman.

MouseSculptureMadeOfOldHairbrushFluff · 04/07/2023 11:03

Mumsnet is populated by articulate, degree educated middle class women, they would not use these names.

That's right, OP. If you plan to bring your child up in Mumsnet do the right thing and please call them James or Wilfred. 🙃

Goldencup · 04/07/2023 08:35

Simonjt · 04/07/2023 08:14

Thank you for telling a South Asian you know better as a white person.

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I have said multiple times that this is only my experience. Where about are you based ? It is almost certainly geographical.

Simonjt · 04/07/2023 08:14

Goldencup · 04/07/2023 07:29

I am in Kent, it's very White, although I work with a lot of South Asians, never met a South Asian Shay.

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Thank you for telling a South Asian you know better as a white person.

Goldencup · 04/07/2023 07:41

Sorry long vowels.
In this part of the world professional families tend to use names with more emphasis on hard constants particularly for boys eg:
Alexander, Marcus, Oliver, Felix, Christopher etc.

I am only reporting my own experience and don't doubt it's different elsewhere.

There are some timeless and classless classic names I would suggest James, Jack and John belong here possibly alongside Harry, Henry and Thomas.

Just my observations call your child whatever you like.

Goldencup · 04/07/2023 07:35

St0nehenge · 04/07/2023 06:46

You sound so ignorant. Shay is from Seamus, so, the same name as James or Hamish. Traditionally, travellers chose names like Margaret, Mary, Patrick, James, so whatever else you criticise them for, it shouldn't be their name choices.

Chase sounds too American for any of us to assess through the correct social lens. Chase might inherit a chain of banks. He might live on the upper East side. It might be their 'Arthur' which gets the mumsnet thumbs-up

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Using nicknames as full names is working class eg: Jay, Alfie, Lexi, Rhea, Shelly, Milly, Tilly, Maisie you get the picture. Also the log vowels are typical of a certain way of speaking see also Kai, Tai and Tyler.

Just try saying any of those with a clipped accent (think BBC newsreader circa 1950). I have seen literally thousands of infants named although have always worked in the South East.

MrsMcisaCt · 04/07/2023 07:35

I work with a lovely man called Chay. Do you like that name, OP?

Goldencup · 04/07/2023 07:29

Simonjt · 04/07/2023 06:54

As a South Asian the name Shay is most definitely my demographic. I guess that means South Asians can’t be articulate, degree educated or middle class as Shay is a very popular boys name.

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I am in Kent, it's very White, although I work with a lot of South Asians, never met a South Asian Shay.

GlassWall · 04/07/2023 07:20

Maddy70 · 04/07/2023 07:10

Really not keen on either. Both are quite "chavy" I'm so sorry to be so rude and blunt but I'm a tea her and I'll know what I would think if I saw those names on any register

Lucky children, clearly, with a raging snob teaching them.

GlassWall · 04/07/2023 07:19

Goldencup · 04/07/2023 06:27

I see OP hasn't been back. Where I live these would be very working class names, possibly with a hint of Irish Traveller heritage. If that is your demographic then fine, but in the UK they have definite social connotations. Mumsnet is populated by articulate, degree educated middle class women, they would not use these names.

Thank you for being so upfront about your own ethnic prejudices. Loving the ‘hint’ of Irish Traveller.

Maddy70 · 04/07/2023 07:10

Really not keen on either. Both are quite "chavy" I'm so sorry to be so rude and blunt but I'm a tea her and I'll know what I would think if I saw those names on any register

Simonjt · 04/07/2023 06:54

Goldencup · 04/07/2023 06:27

I see OP hasn't been back. Where I live these would be very working class names, possibly with a hint of Irish Traveller heritage. If that is your demographic then fine, but in the UK they have definite social connotations. Mumsnet is populated by articulate, degree educated middle class women, they would not use these names.

As a South Asian the name Shay is most definitely my demographic. I guess that means South Asians can’t be articulate, degree educated or middle class as Shay is a very popular boys name.

GoodChat · 04/07/2023 06:50

Shay sounds like a nickname. I thought Chase was a girls name but maybe it's unisex.

St0nehenge · 04/07/2023 06:46

Goldencup · 04/07/2023 06:27

I see OP hasn't been back. Where I live these would be very working class names, possibly with a hint of Irish Traveller heritage. If that is your demographic then fine, but in the UK they have definite social connotations. Mumsnet is populated by articulate, degree educated middle class women, they would not use these names.

You sound so ignorant. Shay is from Seamus, so, the same name as James or Hamish. Traditionally, travellers chose names like Margaret, Mary, Patrick, James, so whatever else you criticise them for, it shouldn't be their name choices.

Chase sounds too American for any of us to assess through the correct social lens. Chase might inherit a chain of banks. He might live on the upper East side. It might be their 'Arthur' which gets the mumsnet thumbs-up

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 04/07/2023 06:46

Chase reminds me of Falcon Crest

SpringIntoChaos · 04/07/2023 06:42

Just no...neither of these. No.

CrazyArmadilloLady · 04/07/2023 06:38

TimeToMoveIt · 29/06/2023 21:55

What's wrong with that?

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Goldencup · 04/07/2023 06:27

I see OP hasn't been back. Where I live these would be very working class names, possibly with a hint of Irish Traveller heritage. If that is your demographic then fine, but in the UK they have definite social connotations. Mumsnet is populated by articulate, degree educated middle class women, they would not use these names.

user1492757084 · 04/07/2023 06:21

Seamus and Shay and Shannon are fine boys' names.
Chase seems okay for a cartoon.

Also there is Chas which I like and is a nick name for Charles.
I know of a young man called Chance! who has an Uncle called Lance!

Simonjt · 04/07/2023 06:01

miraveille · 04/07/2023 04:28

Shay is a girls name

In South Asia Shay is exclusively a boys name.

miraveille · 04/07/2023 04:28

Shay is a girls name