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We want our names as middle name for baby, but my name is awful.

214 replies

Mapricot · 22/05/2023 13:54

We finally agreed on a name for our future daughter. We let go of the parents/relatives names. And I am happy about it. His name's girl version is beautiful but mine is awful. I don't even tell people, I use my middle name.

I was thinking maybe we could use an alternative. Do you know any name that sounds like Karen ? I was thinking of Kerry. But I'd love to hear about more options.

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TellKingTutIWantMyMummy · 23/05/2023 09:13

I know a Karen who pronounced her name car-wren. Not sure how you’d change the spelling.

knitpicky · 23/05/2023 08:59

And when you say "our future daughter", are you actually pregnant, or is this entirely hypothetical?

knitpicky · 23/05/2023 08:58

This is completely batshit. Just use names you love, and sack off all this 'saddling a child with someone else's names' business.

Butchyrestingface · 23/05/2023 08:53

Dear Mumsnet,

I want to give my child a name I don't want to give my child.

WWYD?

butterpuffed · 23/05/2023 08:52

Kiera or Kara ?

k1233 · 23/05/2023 08:51

Kieran or Erin

Naunet · 23/05/2023 08:41

Tell him he can pick both names then, but she’s getting your surname, or did he think he got to have all the names he wanted? Why are you even planning a baby with such a selfish man?

Dunkling · 23/05/2023 08:38

For all those saying Kerry is not a nice name… ha ha, thanks! 😂

It’s my name and I’m not even being sarcastic.

I’ve always hated it, and when my daughter was expecting, I told her, please don’t carry it on… the name dies with me 😆

I do feel it’s a little bit uglier now though and all those who proclaim ‘but it’s a nice name’ are bloody liars 😩

ShimmeringShirts · 23/05/2023 08:36

Maybe hold off on having children if your husband won’t even compromise on a middle name. Stinks of much worse to come if he’s this controlling now.

BoldandBright · 23/05/2023 08:34

Kara? Karena?

SqueakyDinosaur · 23/05/2023 08:30

Why not save yours for a boy and change it to Kieran, or Ciaran?

Moveoverdarlin · 23/05/2023 08:26

Why would you use a name you don’t like? That’s so weird. Just use a different name. I love my Mum and Granny dearly and wanted to incorporate their names BUT they are of a generation that just weren’t suitable for a little girl now. My son has a family middle name, but my daughter doesn’t. It’s no biggie.

Stompythedinosaur · 23/05/2023 08:26

Just don't use the name. Your husband doesn't get to "insist". It you are married to the idea of using a name to remember her mum, then either use the name you identify with or name.her with regards to a quality you have.

MRex · 23/05/2023 08:26

I don't understand why you're trying to give her a name you don't like. Just give one middle name, she doesn't need a raft of extra names.

RabbitRabbitRabbitHouse · 23/05/2023 08:24

"Future daughter"........are you actually pregnant?

Jacopo · 23/05/2023 08:22

I knew a Cairine, which is Scots Gaelic. She pronounced it Keye-reen (like “eye”) but in Gaelic it’s Ca-ree-na. Which is lovely. Or you could alter the spelling to Karena which is more like your name, and pronounce it Ka-ree-na.

DrDavidStarKey · 23/05/2023 08:15

GiveOverRover · 22/05/2023 14:18

Your husband INSISTS that you call your child your name, which you hate?

Making no sense. Pick another.

yeah, pick another.....husband.

Naunet · 23/05/2023 08:14

Mapricot · 22/05/2023 13:59

Because we were thinking by the age she is an adult maybe it would have stopped being an insult. Tbh I'd prefer my middle name husband INSISTS so much

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Your husband isn’t the one pushing a human out of his vagina, he can back the fuck off.

marshmallowmatcha · 23/05/2023 08:08

Mapricot · 22/05/2023 13:59

Because we were thinking by the age she is an adult maybe it would have stopped being an insult. Tbh I'd prefer my middle name husband INSISTS so much

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Tough. He choses his middle name you chose yours

Whatisityoucantface · 23/05/2023 08:07

Tell your husband that unless he fancies pushing the baby out of his vagina instead, he can sod off insisting this arbitrary rule that you must use your first names!
Use your middle name. Or a name you like. Not a random other name, that starts with the same letter as your first name but has nothing to do with it/ you dont even like all that much

willWillSmithsmith · 23/05/2023 08:04

There’s nothing actually wrong with the name Karen despite its use as a slur.

NeedToChangeName · 23/05/2023 07:59

Charys
Charis
Corrinne

Unbakey · 23/05/2023 07:55

Karina as mentioned above
Also Kara
Kerys (different spelling of Carys

NeedToChangeName · 23/05/2023 07:55

Mapricot · 22/05/2023 13:59

Because we were thinking by the age she is an adult maybe it would have stopped being an insult. Tbh I'd prefer my middle name husband INSISTS so much

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@Mapricot your husband INSISTS ?! I'd suggest he chooses one name, you choose the other. And if he chooses Karen out of spite / badness, then you know he's controlling

BTW, I think Karen is a lovely name, but it may not come back into fashion, sadly (think Sharon, Kevin etc...)

bluebeck · 23/05/2023 07:52

EnjoyingTheSilence · 23/05/2023 07:06

So what if your dh insists? It’s not just his decision. You don’t like a name, you don’t use it.

Agreed. I don’t much like the sound of your DH.