Family drama over a name

Both use the name if you both have girls.
cousins with the same name especially honouring family members really is no problem

I'm not sure either of you is old enough to have dc....?

Use whatever name you want - disengage from the drama

She doesn’t own the name ! This is why you should never discuss names with anyone other than your partner.

In terms of using dead relatives' names the only time I'd think it not a great idea is if there was a lot of tragedy around the relative's death. That can carry too much baggage. But a lovely granny who passed away peacefully in old age? That's perfectly fine to use.

She's being ridiculous. Of course it's not 'her' girls name for a theoretical future child.
In any case, there's no law against cousins having the same name - in our family each of the 4 sets had a John, one went by his middle name but that wasn't to avoid a clash.

You can your granny's name and she can use granny's name too if she ever has a daughter. You both have equal dibs and anyone who chooses to get in a strop over it needs to be dunked in a well to cool down.

Sisters are so dramatic.

Pfft. Ignore! Then do whatever you’d like to do.

I would tell her a few 'perfect' fake names that you love and adore and distract her from names you really like. Bonus points if she uses a distraction name to spite you!

Naming babies after people is fine. Reserving names isn’t

Use it.
She sounds like my sister, a princess. She probably only wants to reserve it for herself because you suggested it. I would bet money that it hadn’t even crossed her mind until you suggested your Granny’s name.

Stop discussing names with her.

When the baby is born, it might be a girl. Then you can use it.

She might never have a girl. She can't reserve a name for a non-existent baby.

Stop discussing names with her and use the name you want to use @MissMoodyMoo

Don’t use it. Children should have their own names not the names of dead relatives. Use it as a middle name if you absolutely must.
@HeddaGarbled this is a load of nonsense!! Naming after family (living or dead) is a really lovely gesture in a situation where someone has meant a lot to you! Whether that’s first names or middle names! My son has my grandfathers name as his middle name. My grandparents were my best friends and the biggest influence in my life. Taking my son to meet my grandfather the morning after he was born and seeing how happy he was when I told him DSs name is a memory I will cherish forever.

Stop discussing names and compliment her on her choice for her son.
Keep your names close,do not share your ideas, and use the Granny's name if it is still your fave.
Your sister will be busy with her little boy.

Stop discussing names with her. If you have a girl, use the name you want to use.

don't bother arguing. Use the name when your baby is born if it is a girl. Stay away from the drama. You can't call dibs on a name.

My sister called her first son after my dad. If I had had a second son, I would have done the same.

Bollocks. Loads of children are named in honour of a family member, whether dead or still living.

My DD1 is named after my maternal grandmother, who had died at the age of 91 just as I found myself pregnant with DD.

It is still DD's name and is great on her.

Use the name if you have a girl. Ignore her protests and just don't engage.

Nobody gets to reserve a name for a baby which may never be born. That is just ridiculous.

Don’t use it. Children should have their own names not the names of dead relatives. Use it as a middle name if you absolutely must.

Use it.

But don’t feed the drama, just announce it when your child is born.

Use the names you want to use, ignore her

Don't engage but if you have a girl do use it. It's a lovely way to honour your granny. Obviously you may have a son anyway but just ignore her tbh

Whichever baby is first gets the name.

Like others say I wouldn't engage. Maybe you'll have a son too. Try not to bring it up and don't make any promises to her. Try not to let it cloud your judgment. Use it if you truly want to but not to piss her off.

You could throw it back. Actually I should be mad that you want to use my baby girl name when you know how close I was with Granny. I can't believe you want to take that option away from me when she meant so much to me. It's just a nice name to you so why can't you just accept I have the same right to chose any name I like. I won't veto your choices and you can't veto mine.

Or on the other hand it's probably best to just ignore her. Don't engage particularly as you don't even know if you would use the name. If you do use it and she has a hissy fit she'll just look silly.

So your sister wants to reserve a girls name for baby girl who may never come into existence?