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Annoyed that my sister named her baby after my father

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Maxinemumof2 · 28/04/2023 17:02

Hello everyone. I have already posted on reddit and people were in majority saying that I was an assh*le. So I thought my not ask mothers/future mothers or fathers what they think rather than a bunch of adolescents.

I am pregnant, due July the 14 with a little girl that I was planning on naming him after my father. My sister was also pregnant and gave birth on the 4th of April to a gorgeous girl she named after my father ( Think Daniel/Danielle , Alexander/Alexandra). I am happy for her but I am so annoyed.

He is not her father, but mine. Our mum met my dad when my sister was 2 , they got married and had me 8 years later.
She has a father, he didn't abandon her. She is in good terms with her and our mother and even goes play golf with my father.

So why name your baby after my father? It is his first grandchild. I wanted it to be special for him.

Should I say something or just move on?

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ApolloandDaphne · 28/04/2023 17:09

Did she know your naming plan?

FatGirlSwim · 28/04/2023 17:09

I’m on the fence here. Did she know you were planning on using the name?

I can see why you’re upset but also think that if you say anything it’s just going to spoil what should be a nice thing for your dad and cause ill feeling all round. It’s also not very nice to say to your sister that he isn’t her dad - she may see him as her dad, and he may see her as a daughter. They must be close for her to have wanted to do this. Maybe she wanted to honour the relationship and his status as grandparent given that they’re not biologically related.

It doesn’t make your baby any less special.

RuthTopp · 28/04/2023 17:08

You are being unreasonable here , if she has lived with a man in a family unit since aged 2 , he is her father. Ok so she has a biological father who is also her father agreed, but if we are splitting hairs , you came along 8 years later , so for a long time she was their only child , I would like to think him loves you equally.
You will need another name , maybe put your ( frankly a little shocking opinion ) down to hormones.

Original poster
Maxinemumof2 · 28/04/2023 17:08

I am not planning on changing her name. I just want to ask her so bad why?

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ohhio80 · 28/04/2023 17:08

There’s no point saying anything now, what will that achieve?

I think you should move on. Find another way to honour him.

Also, if he was in her life from age two, and she’s named her baby after him, she must think of him as her father. Why would you take that from her?

Or is there something else going on - like, did she know you were going to use the name and used it first so you couldn’t?

ditalini · 28/04/2023 17:07

Move on. It's unpleasant to say that your child is his first grandchild (even if biologically correct) when your sister clearly considers him to be a grandfather figure in her child's life.

Use your father's name or a version of it as a middle name. One of my sons and one of my sibling's sons has our father's name as a middle name. The world didn't end.

Corkcobain · 28/04/2023 17:07

I agree with Reddit. Get a grip

Overthebow · 28/04/2023 17:07

So he’s been in her life since she was 2, bringing her up with her mum? I would definitely count her baby as his grandchild. Why wouldn’t she name her after him if she wants?

PauseTheRain · 28/04/2023 17:06

Did she know you wanted to name your baby after your dad?

35965a · 28/04/2023 17:06

Technically she hasn’t named her baby after your father, she has used the feminine version. Anyway, he’s been in her life a long time and obviously has a good relationship with him. I agree with Reddit

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Maxinemumof2 · 28/04/2023 17:06

Sorry for the mistake, I don't know why I wrote "him" I meant "her".

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Hogi · 28/04/2023 17:05

No one owns a name.

You'll just have to move on or name the baby the same/ similar or use a middle name to honour your father.

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Tookeffort81 · 28/04/2023 17:04

I am with Reddit

Whichnumbers · 28/04/2023 17:04

Move on