Annoyed that my sister named her baby after my father

Come on. That's harsh. And she's pregnant. Cut her some slack.

It's not as bad as Star Trek: Picard, where someone has an illegitimate son with her dead husband's best friend who'd been in love with her all through her marriage, then named the baby after the dead guy and didn't tell the biodad for a couple of decades that he even had a son.

I'd still use the original name if you love it. I'm guessing the babies won't have the same last name and if it's something like Alexandra/Alexander there are plenty of short forms.

Hmm, no. Would you prefer “bitchy people”?

Feel free to edit my comments in your mind to suit your needs, don’t get upset 💐

But she clearly spent more time with her step dad growing up than her dad.

just pick a different version. Personally I don't get the obsession with using immediate family names, kids deserve their own names but just pick another honorific. Or name one after your Mom!

Doesn't sound like your in each others lives much anyway nor that you like her much so don't worry about her finding it weird

I'm named after my dad's adoptive mum. My cousin (who's parent was her biological child)is three months older and is also named after her. This has never been an issue within the family. No one has ever, to my knowledge, said that my dad had less right to suggest the name for me, even though he was in contact with his biological mother by the time I was born.

Just move on. Your father might not have been her biological father but sounds like he was in every other regard.

This would really annoy and upset me. You’re better than me because I would’ve asked her about it.

It does seem a bit strange that she’s named her child after her step dad if she has a good bio dad. But if she’s a bit weird like that, just distance yourself and get on with your life. You’ll waste a lot of time dealing with family ‘games’ if you let yourself. But trust me, it’s easier to just think fuck ‘em and do what you want to do.

I’d recommend giving your child a name that isn’t anyone else’s in your family. She’s a brand new little person who can have a name of her own.

Possibly a better excuse than the alternatives?

It all depends on if she knew you were going to use that name?
If she did - YANBU
If she didn't - YABU

Do you not speak to her much?

Jesus, the amount of people on here blaming her "hormones."

Women are allowed to be annoyed about stuff when they're pregnant.... even if you wouldn't be annoyed at it, it's like going back to the dark ages blaming it on hormones.

OP, I also think this may be your hormones. I say as someone who is raging with them whenever pregnant.

Just choose a name you love as opposed to having a family name, it's getting too complicated.

Your sister and dad are obviously close and I would like you to consider what a wonderful gift that has been for you, to live with what appears to be a very loving blended family.

There sounds lots of positives here and kindly, you're looking for negatives.

I think your father likely meant one hell of a lot to her given he raised her from the age of 2. Step parenting can be harder than parenting and she obviously wanted to show her appreciation for all he did for her. If I'm honest, I am sure he was incredibly touched. On the other hand, I don't think he is likely to be pleased with how rude you've turned out. You seem to be the exact opposite of him and I'm entirely certain he will love her child just as much as yours. Unbelievable.

Your (half) sister clearly sees your dad as an important figure in her life. Not surprising when she known him since he was 2 and her picking his name is testament to what a great man he is. I suspect that he sees this child as his grandchild too.

If there isn't another variant then I would use the name as a middle name. The royals seem to all have Elizabeth or Charles as middle names as the respect element is important.

If you have a boy in future then you could use the exact name?

I named my first child after my mum's step dad because he was a lovely man (luckily his biological grandchildren weren't fussed). I also named dc1 after my biological maternal grandfather, dh's favourite maternal uncle and his paternal grandfather.

It's a classic name which was apparently pretty common in both our families, my gran managed to marry 2 of them after all but in actual truth I decided if I had a boy I was calling him this based on one of my favourite historical characters when I was 7 or so.

Are you sure it's just your dad which influenced her name choice?

OKAY

SHE MIGHT JUST LIKE THE NAME

😀Dear God I can see that you fit in with those adolescents on Reddit. How old are you? Go ahead. She won't give a f* as it appears she's a grown up

Sexist, much?

Yeah I think she’s an ass. Maybe she just liked the name and didn’t really think about it though - did she actually say it was in honour of your dad??

because if, for example, I liked the name Josephine and knew someone called Joseph I really wouldn’t think of those as being particularly related names. In which case she wasn’t trying to lay any claim. If she was doing it in honour of your dad specifically though I think she should have checked with you BECAUSE you were both pregnant at the same time so she knew you would be hunting for names.

did you tell her you might use it??

i really liked a name which was my friend’s mother’s name. I didn’t use it because I thought she might like to use it for her (potential future) child and she had lost her mum young so it felt like it might “ruin” it for her if a close friend used it. In the end she didn’t mind. But it’s just thoughtful to consider, I think. And if you want to use it bad enough just ask.

also doesn’t her bio dad feel a bit put out??

Because she loves him, clearly.

I don’t know why everyone on MN seems to have morphed into to immature smart arses for this thread. Big brave pack of bitches today.

Did she know you planned to do it?

I understand being annoyed. My brother named his son after our deceased brother and I didn’t like it. I didn’t even want to use the name, I just didn’t like him to do it. But I never said a word.

Either way you can’t say anything.