If you knew / met someone who had just had a baby would you tell them you didn't like it's name ?

its incredibly rude to say you dont like a name chosen.....once the baby is here and named you are talking about a person not just a concept of a name

my grandma is called martha (she is almost 90) and i always loved it, saldy i now know 2 small marthas and had a boy...back to the drawing board for me for next time)

That's a beautiful name.

Never ever ever ever say anything but "What a lovely name!" Even if it's an abominable name! I called my son an Old Testament name and had loads of sarcastic comments from some in my family saying all sorts of rude things, they just didn't like it but SHUT UP! It's so rude!

I've hated some of our friends' kids' names but you just don't say it do you? It's a total punch to the stomach of the new parent isn't it?

No never, how rude. I dont think it is an old name. Just asked dh and he said he really likes it. Congrats btw and please ignore them

The people who have commented are very rude imo! Martha is a lovely name (when i was going through an identity crisis as a teen i wanted to change my name to Martha, and no i am not 90!).

I would never comment(But i do like the name Martha)...its very rude of them, ignore them and enjoy her!!

Martha was my favourite name had DS been a girl. I love it.

And I'd never pass comment on other people's choice of names.

N ot read the full thread. But I would absolutely not comment on a childs name once it was called that. I think you should say to people that you think it is quite rude actually to comment on DDs name.

If you chose it, it's cos you liked it. Ignore the people or tell them that you think it is rude to comment on her name... I like Martha as it happens - not that it is ANY of my business by the way!

I have a new little niece called Martha, I think it is a lovely name! Last year I had another little niece and I really didn't like her name (very modern name) but there is no way I would have said because I'm not rude and thoughtless! The name is growing on me because my neice is lovely but it is still not a name that I would choose myself.

Ah, but my name was shortened by family to Susie and I really like it. My full name is for friends and for strangers alike, Susie is how I am known by my family. And a complete mispronounciaton (so much so that is a different name entirely) is used by people who can't be bothered to listen and my MIL.

Nylon hair that wouldn't burn properly? What on earth were you doing to your dolls, Flight?!

I hate some names but would never say so. I think that Martha is lovely.

Martha is a lovely name. The only Martha I know is a very talented novelist (and also v. pretty).

It's one thing to have a quick eye-roll to yourself about someone's choice of name, quite another to not have enough social awareness to keep it to yourself. I'm ashamed (or not) to admit that I've done this (the eye roll) with both SIL's dcs upon first hearing what she'd called them, but I'd never be so rude as to actually say it to her face. And actually, after that initial WTF?? I've come to appreciate both names on the children. They're still not names I'd choose but they are simply her children now and thus likeable and loveable.

Next time someone says something, tell them to go and get fucked

My name was shortened to Susie, it is awful, I always thought I was named after one of those yuk plastic dolls they used to sell in the 70s. The ones with really big heads and nylon hair that wouldn't burn properly.
Eww.

Yeah that would make me think several things and none of them very good. They have less French than an 8 yr old would be one of them.

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My boyfriend's friends names their daughter Beau, which I think is ridiculous because it's a masculine word meaning "handsome" when used to describe a person, right?

I wouldn't tell them though! It would be very rude and unecessary.

Susie is another name that would make me pause and think ooooh if I heard it now.

At least some of those Sophies should be called Susie or Sylvie I think!

(not knocking the name Sophie btw, it is very pretty).

I've got used to the American boards now, but they still think of Eleanor and Alice as being in the same category as say Edith or Mabel. Not mainstream yet. Coming back, but not popular yet. Alice and Eleanor seem current to me.

I cannot imagine EVER telling someone that I did not like the name they chose for their baby...

All comments are off-side once a baby is named.

I am sorry that you are being subjected to this kind of abuse.

FWIW: I can remember when people used to make negative comments about Emily and Jessica being names for 'old women' and before long both of those names soared to the top of the baby names' lists in North America as well as in the UK. Theses things tend to go in cycles BUT the bottom line is that she is your daughter and you have given her a beautiful, traditional, biblical name. Try to brush it off.

Oh we do get the "what did you say" and the "is it a nick name" I do know of an 18mo called Sylvia and i think its lovely .Susans and Suzys seem to have dissappeared as well

Floaty, I love middle-aged chic. Belinda, Vivien, Sylvia, Lois, Nancy, Margot...

I love the name Guy. It's short but strong, classic but not boring, unusual but not what did you say?

People can be intensly rude can't they! I made the mistake of discussing names with dh's v.posh grandma. When I told her I liked flower names for girls (Lily, Rose etc) she snapped at me that "we don't have servant names in this family." Apparently that also includes Molly, and Millie but not for some reason Sally! I was then given a list of acceptable names. She was a laugh that lady!

You have great taste and its a lovely "evergreen" name.

I wasnt keen on nephews choice of name for his daughter but I would never have told him that. At the end of the day its your choice. Martha is a lovely names for a little girl.

Uhh, that would be lovely name, not lovely time. Wonder what I was thinking about when typing.