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Are you telling your families the name ahead of the birth...?

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vickyy · 15/02/2008 16:43

My dh's and my family are driving us nuts asking us about names, and giving us their (very strong) opinions on any name we say we're thinking about. I am getting really fed up with it.

We haven't been able to decide on a name yet, but I am worried that when we do choose one, if we tell them ahead of the birth they may put pressure on us to change it if they don't like it.

What are others doing? And are your famililes as difficult as ours... (in our case, it's made more complicated by us being a mixed race couple, so trying to find a "compromise" name - how I hate that idea...)

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OliviaMumsnet · 15/02/2008 16:49

God no! Much harder for them to be opinionated when you say, it's a girl and we've called her xxxx.
That is my plan and I'm sticking to it.
Though I have been using decoys like collision and coming up with amusing porn-star sounding suggestions to keep them on their toes!

collision · 15/02/2008 16:46

My family are using 'decoy' names to keep the family quiet.

So, if you like the name George for a boy, you say you are thinking of Lewis or Bradley.

If you like the name Ruby for a girl, you say you are thinking of Jasmine or Aleisha.

This way everyone can have an opinion, you dont give a toss what they think and you can name your baby George or Ruby and everyone is happy.

Do not, I repeat, DO NOT tell anyone the real names you are thinking about.

We have lots of names flying around atm as all 3 of my SILs are pregnant and due in March!!

LadyOfWaffle · 15/02/2008 16:45

I have told them some potential names, but, it's hard to pick a definate one before you see the baby anyway I found. I doubt anyone could put me off a name I really liked though TBH.

belgo · 15/02/2008 16:44

don't tell them the name you are thinking of. Tell them another name, that you know you won't choose.It's none of their business until the birth