DD hates her name and surname

Let her change it. She doesn't even have to change it to something similar.

If it’s, as a pp suggested, like Maya Smith...

The OP said it was very like that.

Is it unusual & she'd rather have something like "everyone else".

I've got a name that is "of it's time" & "dated".

Although it seemed unusual to me as I have only ever known 2 others with the same name & I felt that I "stood out".

That was what I hated the most!

Bodyform?

It's not a guessing game though.

The OP asked whether anyone else had gone through the same, not "give your opinions of this name which I'm not going to tell you".

We all hate our surname in this house. My husband was adopted & never got on with his adoptive mum - and so the name means nothing. It’s a boring name too - so l usually still just use my maiden one - my daughter is going to get rid of it soon also. Life is too short to be lumbered with anything that pisses you off!

It doesn't matter what the name is. The girl hates it. It could be the most beautiful name ever but she still hates it.

I think it does matter - as that really informs the response! If it’s, as a pp suggested, like Maya Smith, it’s a
perfectly useable name and you’d question whether it was something you’d let a teenager decide. (I was in that boat; never particularly liked my name, but it’s classic/inoffensive and not worth the hassle of changing. And I’m glad I didn’t change to some of the “cool” things I’d have picked at 15!). So it’s a perfectly reasonable response to say “look, it’s not causing you any problems, wait and see how you feel when you’re 18”.

If, however, it’s Ariel/Flash/Fairy (wildly thinking of other products!) and she’s known as “washing up” at school (kids can be cruel) then you can see why she may hate it so much and how it could be a real problem. So you’d advise the OP to think about a solution to that problem rather than just dismiss it as a “teen thing”.

These fucking guessing games are tedious

It’s also funny that some people are adamant that you can’t hate your name.

try going to school when your drug addled parents called you Starlight. (Especially in the 80s & 80s if you have siblings with Gary/Laura/Jennifer/Paul type names)

Trust me. You absolutely can hate your name.

Did you type this in 1984?
“ Hooray Henry” 😳

That's ridiculous. A child can still hate a name that's on some stupid list. It won't solve the problem the OP has.

Is it Sheba? I worked with a woman called Sheba once and was quite surprised as I’d only ever heard it as a dogs name.

Tgis is why we need the French system. Sadly, they no longer restrict the names to a pre-determined list, but their equivalent of a Registrar can refuse to allow stupid/airy-fairy/arty-farty/parentsthinkitiscuteorclever names.

I'd let her pick a middle name for herself so she can use that.

It doesn't matter what the name is. The girl hates it. It could be the most beautiful name ever but she still hates it.

One of mine says her name is boring. She doesn't like the spelling, which is the traditional spelling and wants to change it to a made up spelling that sounds the same. She doesn't like her middle name which was my Nans.
The other says she wants to change hers as it's now more often used as a middle name and so is bland.

I had a reason to choose both their names and like them so I feel a bit sad they don't but as someone who hates their own name I can't make too much fuss about it.

I've said They can both do what they want when they are 18 but until then they are stuck with them.

I was named after my uncles dog because my parents couldn't agree on anything. It's definitely a "dogs" name. I've always hated it and as soon as I could I started using my nice normal biblical middle name. Has she got a middle name she could use?

This is such bull when you won't say the actual name

It’s so bizarre that people are so adamant a child who has clearly hated her name since primary age will grow out of it.

Surely she can create a first name that’s similar, either by shortening, lengthening or rearranging letters.

Surname is tricky but only necessary on legal documents. She could double-barrel either her first or last name for everyday use.

When I was 8 I insisted on changing my name. I was called by a short version of my middle name. I insisted on being called by my full first name. I remember being really upset by the whole thing. There was nothing wrong with either name. I think its a phase Nd she will grow out of it. Maybe she'd like to choose a nickname to be called by that's unofficial.

Tell her that.

My initials were VD until I married, that was my nickname through school so you really can’t get much worse than that.? I beg parents to think about initials when choosing a name.
it was listed on memos as an abbreviation and has just generally been awful.

Funny you should say Sarah as that’s the sort of name I wanted for myself. Something softer than the harsh sounding name I have. I didn’t want anything fancy or more original just something that felt more like me. My mum though made it all about herself and her ‘hurt’ feelings rather than how I felt, especially as I had told her my entire childhood how much I didn’t like it and it wasn’t ‘me’.

Not far off but don’t type the actual name. Morwenna would be worse. I would have to change that!