Ruined child's life with the name?

Our school use the Lexia programme.
No link to the lovely name

It's not a bad name. It's not a medical term. I think you need some help (kindly meant) for anxiety. Don't change her name. That's bonkers!

I just googled Alexia and the first meaning that comes up is 'a given name'.

When I was suffering from anxiety i obsessed over my child's name until he was about 4. I lost confidence in the choice I'd made. I know how this feels.

I don't think this thread is helping you. Pushing nicknames onto children who love their name is nuts. You are going to give her an issue over it. It's a lovely name. No one can see the weak links you are making. I think you might have anxiety issues over protecting your child from being teased. Sorry if I'm over stepping but take a step back and look at this situation. She's now 8 and will be able to tell you if she hates her name and wants to be called something else.

AlwaysLatte · Today 20:31 I would change her name by deed poll to Alexis and gradually call her either that or a diminutive: Lexi or Alex, and eventually the name Alexia will be removed from any sort of use.
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Hey kid, i know you love your name, the name that YOU will have to live with forever, but i've decided i hate it so i'm forcing you to change it, and i'm going to insist school etc never use your old name again. No, i don't care that you like it, it isn't about YOU.

Any sense and she'll turn 18 and change it back.

I do feel like I would want to change it but DD loves her name and doesn’t want any NN or other name. She is not aware of negative connotations but she may find out one day.

That's your answer. You would only need to worry if your daughter hated it.

Alexia in the medical sense is not anywhere near as common as dyslexia. It's really really rare for someone to lose the ability to read. As a previous poster said, words like alexia, aphasia and ataxia are all formed in the same way to show absence or inability. It's not the sort of word that would be used at school.

All names have got connotations. I've got a friend who knows someone called Adolf - he's not from Europe. There is a Barcelona footballer called Alexia Putellas. She is the Messi/Ronaldo of women's football. You could use her as a positive example of someone with that name.

Does she get Lexi ? That seems to be the norm for Alexas ?

Alexia is a beautiful name!

Have you done any online checklists for anxiety and depression? That's a good starting point for something to bring the GP.

Don't worry about feeling like an imposter. People with perfect lives get depression and anxiety all the time, it's not necessarily related to your circumstances, it can be hormonal or imbalance in brain chemicals etc.

I'm a nursing student and I've never heard of it! It's a lovely name. And she loves it which is what matters!

OP. Haven't RTFT. But. I hate my given name, I really don't like it. An actual source of shame. Too late now to change it; to a certain extent any time after about a few months is always too late to change. If your DD LIKES her name - which is a fine name, there is literally nothing wrong with Alexia and I've known a couple - then let her enjoy it and let her like it! At this point - again, also because she LIKES it - the choice isn't yours anymore. So come to terms.

You are making something out of absolutely nothing. It’s a nice name. It is not a medical term that people have heard of, even those working in the health care sector or in the field of dyslexia are unaware of it. If you Google any name and dissect it enough there will be negative connotations. You need to drop it now. You’ll make your daughter paranoid when there is no need. There was a lady on here yesterday unable to get her GP to see her child with scarlet fever, I wouldn’t want to be you when having the conversation with the doctor’s receptionist.

You need to stay off the baby names thread OP. Your daughter loves her name, that's good enough. You really do need to see someone like your GP because this level of obsessive thinking isn't healthy

I think it's a lovely name. Have never heard of the LD. I also like Alexa, FWIW. In the nicest possible way OP, the problem is that you are worrying about nothing and need to take care that you don't pass this on to your DD.

It’s like a feminine form of Alexander (the Great) which is an excellent name. I think you did very well. It’s kind of a grand name. Names are important to me too.

It’s a beautiful name. It doesn’t remind me of those two terms you mentioned, at all. There’s a way to distort any name. You can also give her a sweet nickname that you both love and call her both, to relieve your anxiety.

I didn't even make the connection between Alexia and dyslexia until you said it and I have 2 dyslexic dc so it's a word I hear often. I assumed you were referring to the Alexa issue which it's different enough to not be the end of the world

Really? She's 8, you'd change her name, legally, against her wishes and force the new name on her despite clear indication she likes her name?

Wow.

It’s a lovely name. People don’t make connections about names in real life the way they do when they see them written down on mumsnet. I worked for a guy called Mike Jackson for a good six months before I realised that his full name must be Michael Jackson

I have never heard of it in medical context.
I really don’t think this is ‘a thing’ in and for itself. It feels like a hook that your anxiety can hang on, a way for you to express it. Though, I am sure it feels very real. I say that with no judgement. It’s something I have done many times.
Is there anyone professional you can explore this with?

You’re totally over-focussing on this, OP! I can’t believe your anxiety is solely coming from your DD’s name. There must be more to it.

Alexia is fine as a name. People hearing it will group it with similar names like Alexis, Alexa, Alexandra, Alex, Alexandria. They won’t think about the medical condition. Most importantly, it’s your DD’s name - it’s who she is and she likes it.

Get support for your anxiety; stop trying to impose a NN on your DD; and say or imply nothing bad to her about the name. You’re obsessing over it and it’s completely unnecessary and detrimental to your DD.

I am 42 and my name is Alexia. My life is not ruined 😂 No one has ever said anything negative and if they did, I’d just think they were a twat.

Get therapy for your obsession before you damage your daughter’s confident personality.

loads of nicknames available if she ever is bothered by it

Lexi
Lex
Alex
Ali
Zia (I know it means aunt in Italian)

I wouldn’t think anything at all if I heard that name

Oh my goodness, you really need to get over this. Your daughter’s name is fine and she likes it. There are much bigger problems in the world. Move on.

It’s a beautiful name.
strong and feminine

I think you might need to see a therapist op for your anxiety.
You can't change an 8 year old's name.
She likes it.
It's a lovely name.
Step away from social media.
You need to get over it & move on