Calling baby masculine form of my own name?

Nigella is a beautiful flower

Would seem abit conceited to me

Yes, I think it’s quite ridiculous, about 25 Richard Kings* all running about the place. Half of them use the name Richard King in their own life but are known by their middle name in family, the other half just use their middle names. It’s still mad- R. Michael King, R. Simon King, etc- just giving it as a middle name would solve a lot of the palaver!

if I had been a boy, I’d have been given the masculine form of my mum’s name.

As it was, my paternal grandmother threw a fit that I wasn’t given her name (I have 4 older cousins, two girls).

If you’re worried about it sounding odd to people, Henry would make a
perfectly good middle name with most first names. And it’s a nice story to share about his middle name.

all the eldest sons have the same first name so since it’s passed down via the male name, and so is the surname, they all have exactly the same name

How confusing that must be Seems like some people forget the purpose of a name - to identify someone!

My brother has the masculine version of our mum's name. In actual fact he was named after an uncle on my dad's side, who'd died the year before he was born. I don't remember it being mentioned.

Look at Nigella Lawson and Dani Dyer, both having feminine versions of their dads names, though Nigella looks made up !

100% normal in Spain and other countries.

In fact, I am considered odd for not doing it.

Other countries do not change their maiden name and think this is odd.

You should do exactly as you wish, it is very narrow minded to think otherwise.

My family do this, except to extremes, all the eldest sons have the same first name so since it’s passed down via the male name, and so is the surname, they all have exactly the same name. They mostly go by middle names but I always think it’s been taken a bit too far.

If it’s a special thing in just your line though- absolutely. If anyone does ask just say it’s a family name/tradition, because after all it is!

Plenty of children back in the day had their parents exact names and I don’t think that was seen as narcissism

It was certainly seen as unoriginal!

Fine - I would just assume it was a family name

That says more about them than the mum though.

Personally OP I would do it, if you really want say "Henry - it's a family name" to anyone you think might judge you but tbh id just ignore them naming your child is very personal.

I wouldn’t, personally.

I remember going to a baby group a long time ago, and meeting a woman called. Anna whose baby was Annabel. People said to her “Oh, that’s…sweet.”

When she left, everyone was like “She really named her baby after herself. Wow. Gosh.”

Not bitching, as a pp said, but it was certainly commented on, and not really in a positive way.

Henry is lovely, as is Henrietta. Go for it. Don’t be out off by other PPs. Plenty of children back in the day had their parents exact names and I don’t think that was seen as narcissism… my auntie (oldest child) had her mum’s name, my uncle (the middle child) had their dads name and then my mum as the youngest had a different name 😆 but very similar sounding to sister and mum so they had quite a confusing household I’d imagine x

I find it odd and narcissistic too.

I wouldn't necessarily 'talk behind your back' but I would certainly think it to myself.

I know a family where the parents are Paul and Christine and the kids (well they’re adults too now) are Paula and Christopher.

MotherOfCatBoy · Yesterday 18:19
I have a similar combination and did exactly that (for different reasons) and no one batted an eyelid. Do what’s right for you

@MotherOfCatBoy but do you honestly think that people tell you out loud if they think you have made a weird decision? Of course they don’t. For every 100 people who think you made the wrong choice only 1 will tell you that, and they will do it very obliquely.

I know someone that did this, in this case the DD was given the feminine version of Dad’s name and my first thought was that it was narcissistic. Obviously wouldn’t say anything to them, but honestly that was my initial reaction!

@Kanaloa brilliant and spot on! 😂

OP if you want to use the name then use it. The posters who are shocked and horrified by the idea of naming a child after a relative really need to find something a bit more controversial to get their knickers in a twist about

Like… who? Who would talk about this behind someone’s back?

‘Oh, do you know Stephanie? Yeah, Stephanie from finance… well she’s named her new baby Steven, apparently her grandpa’s name, a family name. Yeah, that’s the gossip sorted for this weekend! Juicy.’

I’ve got way better things to say behind people’s back. If that was my mate’s gossip I’d think she was dull.

Although when I was at primary school I knew two brothers with the same first name! Which I thought was a bit crazy. But I think a mum Henrietta and son Henry or Stephanie/Steven or Michelle/Michael is fine.

I don’t see why not. Men do it all the time.

Imagine the name being yelled around the house, up and down the stairs etc.

Will there be any confusion as to who is being summoned?

I’d assume it was a family name
men name kids after themselves all the time
go for it I think

I disagree that "men do it all the fucking time and no one calls them narcissists". Weird AF whichever way round it is. My brother has my dad's name as his middle name and I even find that odd tbh (my dad is the least narcissistic person you could meet so I don't understand why they did it, but I'm too polite to ask 😂).

I stand corrected. @Sarahcoggles and @Reugny .

Op apparently some pathetic people will talk behind your back.

I guess you have to decide if you give a shit about the opinion of adults who literally bitch about a child's name behind their parent's back like kids in the school yard