Husbands insane boys names! Help!

I love your dh’s list. Sorry. Especially Lysander. My ds has a Roman emperor name (an unusual one); it suits him and he loves it. I also have a nephew called Gaius (but spelt the Dutch way) and no one bats an eyelid. Close friends have sons called Atticus, Otto, Athelstan, Magnus and Oberon. None of them get bullied. They all just seem like normal names once you’ve got to know the actual child, because it’s just their identity.

I also like Duncan and Ignatius; I hope you can talk your Dh into one of those.

How about Augustus (nn Gus) or Antonius?

Lysander is a fabulous name, but the one we knew tended to be abbreviated to 'Lice' by his friends! That wouldn't be an issue with a middle name though - Reuben Lysander is gorgeous.

I really like Duncan & was it not what David Bowie's son chose to call himself after he was fed up with Zowie Bowie - surely cooler than that you cannot get

I do like Hector and not sure the verb would have occurred to me at all.

I also like Francis .

But good luck with coming to a decision between you 💐

Roman
Rocco
Saxon
Hadley
Tudor
Fletcher
Herbie
Sebastian
Frazer
Luca
Sirius
Troy
Hendrix
Hugo
Bucky

I couldn't go with Gaius just because of an (extremely smarmy, creepy) character in a science-fiction show. But I do love Latin names, particularly for boys. Lucas and Marcus are my faves, but Rufus is good too, particularly if there's that red-haired gene dancing around in your family's DNA!

Titus as a middle name makes the name sound like an infection.

Duncantitus...

I prefer your husband's names to yours. Hector and Lysander are lovely.

My son is called Gabriel.Gabe for short still love his name 11 years later and so does he.

I think my favourites from his list are Aurelian and Lysander, although they both sound a bit upper-class to me. Hector reminds me too much of the verb to hector, meaning to pester someone, and I think Gaius and Uriel would be too inviting to schoolboy humour. However, Gaius is related to the name Caius or Kai - do you like Kai? And I just did a search on the angel Uriel, trying to remember if he was the "fallen" angel - he wasn't, but I see it can also be spelt Auriel. That would get around the urine jokes and it's quite close to Aurelian, without sounding quite so much like a Roman aristocrat. Titus and Tiberias are not quite my thing but not awful.

I love Duncan, I hope you get to use it. Duncan Hector actually works quite well as I feel like Hector has some kind of Scottish association, although it's of Greek origin. I think I like Reuben best with Lysander as a middle name.

Is your husband ok? 'Titus' and 'Gaius' in particular are horrendous names. He will just be bullied and will be very unhappy.

Just give him a normal name. He will thank you for it.

Or Tolomeo the modern Italian interpretation

Claudius Ptolemy - I know a teenage Ptolemy no one has blinked at that name. It's interesting

David (cause of the Goliath story)?

Duncan Ignatius.

I'm going for a 'possible bully' vibe.

Aurelian - sounds like the area around a nipple and this will pop up (no pun intended) in biology or sex ed at some point.

Hector - as has already been said - another name for pestering

Titus - sounds like typhus, a disease caught from lice

Lysander - OK unless he does A Midsomer night's dream for GCSE

Tiberius - I can't actually think of anything an 8 year old would think of to bully, maybe this one is a winner.

Gaius - Some wag will call him Gay - us or Gay-as and yes I know it isn't pronounced that way

Uriel - Nope, too close to urine.

Ethel for short, though Red is a good name

Barney
Rufus
Bruno

Hector, Lysander and Duncan are all perfectly fine

Caius rather than Gaius also fine

Reuben is being done to death

Maybe

Dashiell
Kester
Gawain
Lorne
Cassian
Augustus
Josiah
Ignatius
Darius
Lucian
Fabian
Julius
Corin
Blaise
Barnabas
Abraham
Gideon
Moses
Silas
Idris
Saul

Congratulations anyway - gather your shortlists and decide when he arrives

Reuben Ignatius
or
Reuben Aloysius

"All men would love a crazy name" means "I wish I was cool and had a cool name but I am not so I will try and make people think I am cool by naming my son something crazy"

Your baby is a person in his own right and your husband needs reminding of the fact that just because he likes something, he shouldnt assume that his son will feel the same way.

Frankly he sounds like a teenager naming his new dog.....

Love Titus went to Uni with a guy named that , he was cool funny & caring.
Reuben is beautiful but becoming quite popular.
Lysander is great.
Duncan is so so nice .

Why does he keep going on about Titus when you’ve said you hate it? You should really be telling him ‘look, Titus is off the table. It’s not even an option, I’m not willing to consider it.’

Is he planning on trying to just bully you into a horrible name you dislike?

Exactly! Inferno is just a third of Dante’s Divine Comedy (with Purgatorio and Paradisio).

I love Ignatius nn Iggy