Using a name family don't like

Ugh, I made the mistake of telling family our thoughts on names for DS1. My sister told me he'd get bullied if I named him Zachary 😂

Go with a name you love. And don't tell people beforehand! It's much harder for someone to say they hate a name when there's a cute baby right there called that name!

Different members of family made comments about all of our suggested names, we were young with the first two so just changed the names to something more suitable. I don't actually like either of their names but they are 10 and 9 now so suit them.

6 year gap between youngest and eldest so when it came to naming him, DH suggested a name and I fell in love. Multiple people suggested different but I was set on that. Our only regret is his middle name was going to be something more unusual but we weren't brave enough.

I don't know any boy Beau but I know a girl. We thought it was weird they chose it for a girl because we thought it was a boys name.

That's ridiculous behaviour

My sister's inlaws absolutely HATED their chosen name. It's a perfectly "normal" name. They went ahead with it and the inlaws shut up about it once they met the baby.

Don't tell anyone the baby's name until it's born

It's up to you and your dp what you call your child. I didn't tell my family my ds' name until he was registered and it was too late to argue.

But I'd think carefully about the meaning of a name, and about the initials. No need to line your child up for teasing. My ds has one traditional name and one less so. If he really doesn't like his first name he can always switch to his second one.

This is the reason I won’t discuss names with anyone other than my husband. People, especially families, have some weird entitlement to be as rude as they want about names. Don’t let anyone put you off a name you love.

I didn’t use Finley because all my family hated it. I still don’t get why TBH, it seems like a nice, unassuming name to me but they were all united in hating it 🤷‍♀️.

For the reasons others have pointed out, it makes you look a bit stupid. Fine, if you don’t mind that. But its unfair on the child.

Lovely name!
My mum hated my daughters name (Tabitha) and tried to rally round the family getting support for me to change it. She even called my husband at home when I was in hospital and he said no, it's our choice and we love it.

Beaudy?
Not Bodhi?

OP, your mistake was to tip your hand to your family ahead of the arrival of the baby.

When you announce names you are mulling over before the baby arrives, a lot of people interpret it as you submitting your names to them for approval.

Beau is lovely imo, for a boy.

This is even worse. Beaux is plural.

Beau is now a more common girls name but it is the male version of Belle. It suits girls but they are French names so wonder what the French opinion of the name is?

I wouldnt land my son with a name that means handsome. I take it you are not actually French?

Beauregard - boy
Isabeau - girl

Nickname for both is Beau pronounced "Bo" rhymes with go.

Everyone hated one of our kids' names, before he was born. My in-laws are pretty blunt people and they spent quite a while trying to convince us away from it. We are pretty blunt and stubborn ourselves and used it anyway. They all got over it. He's 12 now, it suits him and it's no big deal at all.

I don't think pil or my own dm liked my ds name when we first picked it. My mother admits now that the name suits him down to the ground and she can't imagine him being called anything else.

I knew my DM disliked DD2’s name by her reaction when I suggested it (before she was born), but she kept her mouth shut. A couple of other close relatives openly hated it, said there was no way I could use it (it’s not a common name, but not completely out there or made up or anything). They said they’d just call her something else, and kept coming up with alternatives. I just didn’t engage and used it anyway. Now she’s here no one has said a word. DM admits she wasn’t keen but now couldn’t see her as anything else and she has grown to love it. The others have never commented either way but adore her and do use her name so it’s never been a problem. I have no regrets.

MIL really put SIL off using a name she loved as she had such a strong reaction to it. A few years later MIL then tried to convince me to use it because she now apparently loved it! SIL was pretty miffed, and it made me determined not to allow others to influence our choice. Thankfully she loved both DD’s names anyway.

I’d use the name you want to. Also, I know you aren’t after opinions, but I love Beau.

It's a fairly common name. I have a baby under 1 and iv met multiple babies called beau/ beaudy, all boys

Google says it's gender-neutral but it also says it comes from the French. And unless you'd call a boy 'Pretty' (Belle) why would you call a girl 'Handsome'? As for Beaux, blimey. "Here's my child Handsomes". Just why?

I know a female Beaux as well, wonder if it's the same one. Surname begins with O. I don't know why you'd deliberately gives your child the initials 'BO'. I remember when it was announced and everyone just sort of stared.

I know a male Bo and a female Beaux. Yes, really.

Actually I know 4 male beaus (age 12-16).

@PennyDeadful

French grammar:

Beau = male
Belle = female

(I know that you know that @MrsTerryPratchett!)

@MrsTerryPratchett according to google it's "gender-neutral" - It's not a name I'd personally use but the girls I know do suit it.

It's male though.