Using a name family don't like

It's one of those names I secretly judge parents for because they either don't know or don't care that they have given their child a name that will make it impossible for them to travel to the nearest non English speaking foreign country without being ridiculed.

😦🫣😒😂😂😂 < French reaction to calling a child Beau. It’s a name you’d maybe give a dog.

Isabeau is a proper name, although old-fashioned.

The only response to a parent telling you their baby's name is awww gorgeous!
If you ask what they think before it's born, expect to be given an opinion.

I know a 13yo female Beau.

This is why you must never discuss names before the baby is here! I can't believe people have the gall to express negative opinions on names that people are considering. I think it's appallingly rude!

I'd probably ask what their reasons were. There's a difference in a name not being a name someone would personally choose and them having reasons they don't like it.

But I also think I wouldn't share a baby names unless I was open to people's opinions.

It's a bit of a hostage to fortune. Like calling a girl Grace.

Ultimately it’s 100% your choice. But I’d certainly be asking why, in case there’s some unfortunate aspect of it I’d overlooked - dodgy nickname possibilities, loads of babies with the same name etc. But, if their objection is ‘I just don’t like it’ then I’d be ignoring them for sure!

how inappropriate! Their parents will be judged! It's so obviously a male name, the male version of Belle.

I know a male Beau and it suits him.

It's so obviously a male name!! Belle is the female equivalent.

Someone I know called their kid ‘Bart’ (surname thankfully not Simpson)
I just smiled,congratulated them on the arrival of a healthy baby and raised a brow once they’d gone

my brother and sil called one of theirs jakson-spelt like that
i did the same as I did with poor Bart and mentioned to my partner that it was horrible but not my baby,not my choice

i named one of mine a unusual choice (not wacky,just a bit unusual) and the amount of comments I got about how horrid his name was unreal-they all got told to wind their necks in and not to be so rude (I may have said ‘fuck off,not your baby,not your choice)

one of my mothers friends told me I should have called him her favourite name instead-I told her I hated all her grandchildrens names but wasn’t as rude as to tell her (until now) and that if she loved it so much,why didn’t she call her own son that name?

hes grown up,loves his name and that’s all that matters

It's not their choice but tbh I agree with them.

My DM told me the names we chose for our twins were too regal and who did we think we are 😂 We used them anyway. They just become their names, within a few weeks everyone is used to the name and no one really bothers. Choose the name you want.

We had a male relative called Beau. He was a proper man's man. It suited him perfectly

We never discussed names with anyone, just announced the name.
One of ours had a negative reaction from family but we ignored them. It's never been a problem and thankfully they quickly got over it so the child has never known they didn't like the name. :)

Love the name I wanted it as it has meaning for me but dh wasn't keen as we have a surname that starts with B so he felt it was overkill. Saying that our son has quite a cute name think olly, teddy etc . When we were throwing names around we mention to mil and fil his name and they said it was too babyish. We went with it anyway and i laughed so hard when bil and dil had a dd a few years later and called her a very cute babyish name that made our sons name seem positively manly in comparison.

My brother and SIL named their son the shortened version of a name, like Danny rather than Daniel and our dad refused to call him it, calling him DJ instead because his middle name was John. After a couple of months he came around. Silly old fart.

We didn’t tell MIL what we were going to call our son. She found out when we introduced them. She looked a bit surprised, and then started calling him a different name 🥴 She called a meeting when he was a couple of weeks old, and asked if that was really the name we were going to give him. She was not happy.

for a while she introduced him as the similar but different name; and now she’s given up and doesn’t mention it… it’s okay. I love his name, and she’s always been a pain in the arse.

I just wouldn’t give her a heads up over names we were considering. Block out what she thinks; she had her turn and it’s you (and your child) that have to live with the name.

I wasn’t going to discuss name choices before the baby arrived, but DH brought the topic up a week or so before when we were having dinner with his parents. When he mentioned the name we did end up using, MIL really wasn’t keen at all.

She’s never said a word about it since we had DD and said that was her name, but I do wish we’d just never discussed it as I do always have that slight wonder if she still hates it.

I really disliked two of my niece’s names when they were announced, would never have said so, and obviously now they couldn’t be anything else and really suit them. I think just go with your choice.

Once the baby is here and named on the birth certificate, they will probably drop the subject. Because the name isn't official yet, they feel they can change your mind.

I don't talk about names with my family because I know they're going to hate them and try to put me off the name.

Also - OP - stop telling people your name choices! Just announce it when the baby is here -

If you want to test the water do it on here

I think it’s still more common for boys - it comes from Beau Brummell and Beau whatsit in the foreign legion. It was a nn not a full name originally, but it is the masculine form.

It’s not that unusual

it’s not there business

If it’s making you anxious give him a conventional middle name - but don’t give in, you will always regret it

The only Beaus I know are girls.

As long as the reason they don’t like
isn’t there isn’t any kind of trauma associated with it then naming your baby is your choice. If this is their reaction, I’d stop discussing names with them at all.

Beau is a nice boy's name. It is well known enough not to be odd at all. If you both like it go with it.

My mother-in-law didn't like one name we were thinking about SO she named her new kitten that! ha ha
Never discussed the names again until we had actually named the children.