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Boyfriend thinks my top 3 names are silly, are there any similar?

119 replies

SarahTTCx · 10/10/2022 11:58

So I have a top 3 for boys and a top 3 for girls but I can't get my boyfriend on board with any of them!

Boys are Hayes, Archer and Abel.

Girls are Amelie, Nora and Jovie.

He hates them all and refuses to flex. When we named our first child it took forever to come to an agreement on his name, so I just know its going to be a struggle all over again! Any help is appreciated.

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ncforyetanotherone · 10/10/2022 21:46

Cole?

Kawaii50 · 10/10/2022 21:34

I like Archer, Amelie and Nora!

Mumofgirls2017 · 10/10/2022 21:26

How about

Asher
Quinn
Wilder
Axel
Eli
Fletcher
Gray
Blaise
Griffin

Cora
Elodie
Nova
Josie
Romy
Flora
Cara
Coralie
Rosalie
Audrey
Maeve

IJemimaDigging · 10/10/2022 20:15

Macaulay

Laurel

justasking111 · 10/10/2022 20:02

For Archer try Hunter

Girls I always wanted Georgina..... Can shorten to George or Gina

AutumnalCosyness · 10/10/2022 19:58

Byron
Bodhi
Woody
Marley
Harrington
Easton

JesusMaryAndJosephAndTheWeeDon · 10/10/2022 18:58

Print off a list of the top 100 names for each sex (maybe omit the top ten or so if you want to avoid anything too common).

Take a copy each and without conferring go through it and cross off any absolute no go names, circle names you really like and underline ones that you don't love but could live with leave the rest unmarked.

See if you have circled any the same, if so you have a shortlist or even have chosen a name.

If not see if any that either of you circled were underlined by the other, or if you underlined any the same.

If you are still struggling try the same with the top 100 from a different decade or from another country and hopefully it will prompt some discussion.

AutumnalCosyness · 10/10/2022 18:56

MammyS · 10/10/2022 18:55

@AutumnalCosyness really like Lachlan! Thats going on the list to suggest!

Me too! DH wouldn't have it 🤣

MammyS · 10/10/2022 18:55

@AutumnalCosyness really like Lachlan! Thats going on the list to suggest!

AutumnalCosyness · 10/10/2022 18:53

How about Sullivan and....

Orson
Arlo
Dexter
Marlow
Orion
Orlando
Leander
Albie
Jago
Lachlan
Barnaby

Sullivan and....

Ruby
Lucia
Ophelia
Erin
Goldie
Grace
Ava
Isabella
Violet
Emmeline
Pearl

lara894 · 10/10/2022 18:48

Sorry op but not a fan of any of your boy names.

Love your girl choices though x

AutumnalCosyness · 10/10/2022 18:47

Why don't you give Hayes as another middle name op?

Ariela · 10/10/2022 18:45

How about Conrad rather than Connor? A little more unusual.

Pleasebeafleabite · 10/10/2022 18:43

I know that all names come around eventually but, seriously, Nora?

I can see Mrs Slocombe coming out with “Flaming Nora”

Or it’s the name of Gladys‘s cousin in Miss Marple who is in service in the next village

Bloody Nora. Fancy being lumbered with that for the rest of your life

ShesThunderstorms · 10/10/2022 18:41

Oh I LOVE Jovie!

uncomfortablydumb53 · 10/10/2022 18:39

All your girl names are nice
Instead of Archer, how about Asher
Eli.. or Elias?

MammyS · 10/10/2022 18:34

@MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel Sullivan is my ds's first name haha, not our surname!

I do really love Hayes as a first name rather than middle name but I may have to compromise seeing as my partner doesnt really like it!

JaffaCake70 · 10/10/2022 18:34

Abel, Amelie and Nora are all lovely ❤

Crikeyalmighty · 10/10/2022 18:30

Cameron is nice!! Also how about Elliott- ? Also a surname

853ax · 10/10/2022 18:27

I really like Nora.
Will be very hard to pick a name that you don't know anyone with. So if you like a name but avoiding as know of a few people with same name wouldn't let that put you off.
Jack a top name for years, my boys class year has 60 odd kids two to three with same 'unusual' names but only one Jack.
Such a variety of names these days.

Devo1818 · 10/10/2022 18:20

You can get an app where you Swipe left or right on each name and so does your partner and it let's you know your matches.

NameChange30 · 10/10/2022 18:14

SatinHeart · 10/10/2022 12:34

Agree with pp you each need to come up with a top 10 list. It shouldn't just be you doing all the work and him sitting there dismissing all your suggestions. We bought a name book and each went through it separately from start to finish. Then compared our lists.

And this

NameChange30 · 10/10/2022 18:13

TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination · 10/10/2022 12:10

It's not your job to come up with other names, than the ones you like! If he doesn't like them he needs to come up with names & you get to say yes or no.

how did you resolve it last time? What is your DC's name?

it's not outing unless you've just picked random letters!

This

FeedMeSantiago · 10/10/2022 18:08

I agree with PP that he doesn't get to dismiss your ideas and not come with any suggestions of his own, bar John as a middle name and Olivia as a girls name.

FeedMeSantiago · 10/10/2022 18:07

Asher
Asa
Idris
Magnus

Asher has a similar feel to Archer but it's a biblical name so might appeal to DH?

Josie and Jodie as alternatives to Jovie?
Aveline as an alternative to Amelie?

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