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Please tell my sister this is a horrible idea

213 replies

Siilka · 17/09/2022 12:43

So, my sister told us last night her names ideas, and she was asking which we prefer. They decided that her husband and her would mix their names to create a new name.

So if it is a girl

Jamifer or Jeniams

A boy :

Jems
Jamer

We all told us it was horrible. But she insist on saying "stranger will find that cute". What do you think

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DuchessOfSausage · 28/09/2022 17:10

Thanks @Siilka .
Poor kid.
That's a bit different!

Siilka · 28/09/2022 16:55

Pronounced Jam-uh-sen

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Siilka · 28/09/2022 16:54

I asked my sis, and she told me that she doesn't mind me sharing it, because I quote " we are in love with the name".

Jamesenn

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InsertPunHere · 28/09/2022 16:44

I once knew a Ralary. Her parents were RALph and mARY.

Stupid, stupid idea

Mummyoflittledragon · 28/09/2022 16:42

Do please tell us?

DuchessOfSausage · 28/09/2022 16:36

Congratulations on becoming an aunt.
What's the baby called?

Siilka · 28/09/2022 16:29

Update: The baby is born and no, it wasn't a joke. It isn't as bad as Jamifer, but it is still bad.

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Thestagshead · 23/09/2022 14:59

Actually I don’t mind Jems for a boy. The rest are ludicrous .

Johnnysgirl · 23/09/2022 14:56

Jamefer Hmm. People will think she has a speech defect.

KirstenBlest · 23/09/2022 13:57

Jennis or Jamefer

FayCarew · 22/09/2022 22:08

How about Jayjen, if it hadn't already been suggested, or Jem.

Bootsandcat · 21/09/2022 13:35

Lol she must be pulling your leg!!

babyjellyfish · 21/09/2022 13:34

I don't believe this can be real.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 20/09/2022 18:07

I wonder how people like this feel when they go to register the name or tell people outside their circle? Their insulated idea of it being great and unique must surely start to break away.

I wonder what registrars must think, when faced with parents who've chosen ridiculous names, but not ones that are objectively offensive that they can thus refuse to allow. Am I right in thinking that it would be the same registrars who meet and assist adults who decide to change their names officially? If so, I bet they get some babies and make a mental note to look out for them returning on their own in 18 years' time.

It is the parents' decision, but it must be heartbreaking when they come back down to earth again, hear the reactions of people outside their immediate family/circle (who don't go out of their way to mask their true thoughts) and slowly come to realise just what they've set their child up for, for life.

I know it's a MN cliche, but I honestly think that, if you're considering giving your child a very out-there name, it's a great idea to start introducing yourself as that to new people you meet for a few weeks, and see what reactions you get - or even just strike up conversations with strangers and mention your sister/brother (who may or may not exist) and pretend that their name is the one you want to saddle your baby with, as that might elicit a more honest response.

I used to know a woman who changed her own name from a very normal one to a 'nature name' - e.g. 'Caroline Peters' changed to 'Harvest Moonshadow'. She was known as being eccentric (in a lovely way) and was more than equipped to deal with the responses she got; but that was her own choice for herself as an adult. If you truly want to embrace the world of wacky names in your life, give them to the person you see in the mirror, not some innocent person who has only just entered the world and has no choice in the matter.

Lmorgann · 20/09/2022 11:21

Ok Sister. That's a horrible idea!

Doe's she really hate her kid that much.

LightHousePanda · 19/09/2022 21:43

Is the nickname for Jamifer Jammy?

It's really silly. You say she's serious and I hope you haven't pushed her further into sticking with these silly choices. Sometimes people can be stubborn like that.

I wonder how people like this feel when they go to register the name or tell people outside their circle? Their insulated idea of it being great and unique must surely start to break away.

Dreamingcats · 18/09/2022 15:35

I know someone whose parents did this to name her. Tbf, I just assumed it was a name I hadn't heard before until they told me the story in our late teens. The difference is that it sounds like a totally plausible name, unlike Jeniams.

I actually really like Jem for a boy. Jems when pronounced I'd assume was James in an odd accent.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 18/09/2022 13:04

They could always just give the child the mum's name (if a girl) or the dad's name (if a boy) - possibly with Jr or II tacked on the end (as there's usually a boundaries/not- treating-the-child-as-an-individual issue when parents do that) - and then the other parent's name as a middle name.

Richard Gere's middle name is Tiffany, James Corden's is Kimberley and Billie Piper's is Paul, so there is a precedent.

Daft idea imo, but nowhere near as crazy as their current plan.

youarntaguest · 18/09/2022 12:03

Jenna or James would be a nicer alternative !

LuftBalloons · 18/09/2022 11:44

They decided that her husband and her would mix their names to create a new name.

Narcissism squared!

Marcipex · 18/09/2022 11:37

Ghastly, but perhaps she’s teasing you.

Jamifer? Urg.Jammy for short?

Jems? When Gemma is so popular? Poor boy.

Hawkins001 · 18/09/2022 11:37

I guess each to.their own.
I quite like Lionel or Jasmine

Penguinsaregreat · 18/09/2022 11:29

No. They are setting the child up for a lifetime of hell.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 18/09/2022 10:53

You can get baby name books with 50,000 names to choose from. You can even just call your baby Aaron if you don't want to read any more of it than necessary. Why would you be unable to think any further than the two names that you as parents happen to have?

My DS went through a stage where all his teddies had the same name as him - e.g. Ollie the Bear, Ollie the Bunny, Ollie the Panda etc. (not his actual name) - but he was no more than 2, egocentric as most toddlers are, and hadn't yet discovered the vast wealth of names to choose from out there. As they're about to have a baby together, I'm making the assumption that they are both considerably older than 2?

blahblahblah2000 · 18/09/2022 10:11

Fucking LOL those names are hideous

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