Comments about names that you just don’t get

Because they don't judge a name the same way you do? Jaiden in oft cited on here as chavvy. The only Jaiden I know is the child of an educated MC father and an smart and articulate American Mother. You'd judge the child, other people wouldn't.

Unsure if you mean common like the riff raff Persephone isn't allowed to play with or common as in very popular.

Which is a shame cos Brunhilde is a much nicer name

Yes anyone with a different approach to picking a name from you is clearly immature and ridiculous 🙄

We didn't pick Nosh not because we thought our baby was more special than any other Noah to anyone but us, but because we'd both had the "pick a shortening, be known by your initial" thing and just wanted to reduce the likelihood as Noah was literally top ten across the whorl Western hemisphere at the time. Typically we know none, and Xavier isn't so rare that he'll never meet one but we picked a different name we liked as much and it definitely suits him

Primaries plural

And my children’s primary didn’t.

@SirChenjins , primary school near me had 4 Olivias in a class.

No , that’s patently not what I said. However, given that it’s also highly unlikely you’ll find several Olivia’s in one class (work the probability of that out from the total number of female births divided by number of girls called Olivia).

It really doesn’t matter though - as I have already said several times, don’t obsess about the current popularity of a name (which can change on a sixpence - Ruby anyone?) and give your child a name you love.

Of course you are more likely to have several Olivias in the class.

But you’re also less likely to notice or care about all the other Olivias you come across. You would be aware that it’s a popular name.

Bartlby’s parents, on the other hand, will really notice it when they come across another Bartlby at rugby.

There is no way to prevent it, even if you made up a name someone else might hear it and use it, but you are far more likely to be one of two Olivias than one of 2 Brunhildes in a class.

One thing is that, before you have a child and name it X, you don’t really notice all the Xs you come across. Afterwards, you start noticing them everywhere.

You might never have been aware of the Endas or Bunhildas or Aramintas out there. But take your Enda to the park enough and you’ll come across another one. And notice it, only because you now have an Enda.

There is no way to prevent your child being Brunhilda W because you cannot possibly know that Brunhilda S is also starting reception at your school. Most classes in the country won’t have one. But your class has 2.

@SirChenjins , if I followed your logic, if I named DD Olivia, she'd be just as likely to be the only one with that first name as if I'd called her Brunhilde or something.

And likewise - but it’s just our respective opinions rather than based on anything factual

Because only insecure nouveau-riche think a name ‘cements your place in society’.

@SirChenjins , I don't think you are right on this one.

No, it really doesn't - see @Juicelooseabootthehoose post that explains it.

Here's a little in return

How can people knowingly pick chavvy or common names and just be ok with cementing your child's place in society like that?

People on here who attempt to get super judgmental on cultural or historical name threads 'ie irish' and then embarrass themselves by trying to correct an actually irish, welsh, greek person etc.

I suffer from this! In my defense, she really wasn't very nice & every time I hear the name i am reminded of her.

I have a sibling with what was an unusual name in the 1970s and 1980s. That became one of the most common baby names 20 years later.

My sister had a name that no one could spell or pronounce and she got sick of it. The best bit was that people didn't know if it was a male or female name. Her title was Dr. So everyone presumed she was a bloke.

There was one other girl with the same first name as me, and we had the same surname initial, so we were (the equivalent of) Anna James and Anna Johnson. I was not pleased. Also she was a horrible little cow.

But it wouldn't stop me if there was a commonly-used name that I absolutely adored. I think some people get funny about top-100 names because they are thinking of their child as adorable-unique-magical-precious, and when introduced to another Angelica they are suddenly not "their special unique Angelica" after all because there are (shudder) two.

Time for them to grow up a bit lol, I guarantee there's going to be several other similar-looking kids with the same ponytails, same dinosaur bag, same lunchbox and same fascination with Peppa Pig as your little unique snowflake. Like someone else said, only one Amy is going home to your place each afternoon 🙂

There should be a balthazar in every group, it's an amazing name that I wimped out of using so went with the much more standard Castiel instead

Giving your child an unusual name is absolutely no guarantee that it will remain unusual

Nobody is suggesting that

But it certainly massively reduces the likelihood of there being many others with the same name.

I work with so many people with my name, I’ve done a whole shift before and we all had the same name. That was strange.

Of course it’s fine if you don’t like it, but just as you shouldn’t use the high court judge test when naming your child ‘just in case’, don’t be prevented from giving your child a name you love just in case they end up in a class with another child with the same surname and being known as Jane G and possibly not liking it (or in the case of my friend’s child, unusual name from another culture G)

That names like Peter,Micheal and John are so beautiful and underused