Nicknames - unpopular opinion?

My children have 3 syllable names. Both are names that have obvious nicknames (think Elizabeth or Catherine or Abigail or Benjamin or Samuel).
I would guess that 95+% of people with my dc1s name use a nn. She doesn't (now a young adult). I think 2 people have tried it in her life and she just corrected them. She uses her full name and, although it's not an uncommon name, the fact that she uses the full name makes it seem less popular.
Dc2 again goes by the full name everywhere (school etc) except for one activity where the name gets shouted a lot and it has naturally been shortened for ease.
I think you have a lot more control (or your children do more realistically) over what people call you than people on mn think.

Agree with PP, you can lovingly select Christopher or Benjamin but in school they will swiftly become Chris or Ben, so you need to be comfortable with that, or introduce the idea of Kit or Benji if that’s what you prefer. I found that once they are 16/18 the more formal longer name comes back into play as they move through college and university. In my case … an abbreviation of their surname became their nickname! Kids are creative and playful, you have to give them that!

I find it strange when people want to call the child the shortened version of the name, but then insist on putting the longer version on the birth certificate. Just name it the short version that you like !

My daughter has a short name that we partly chose so it couldn’t be shortened. Her friends at school still gave her a nickname, so you’re probably best going for something that you like the common shortening of.

As a person with no shortening to my name I can say I hate it. That's why my dd has a long name with lots of options. I think it's awful for my boss, family and closest friends to all call me the same.

It's so weird, especially when they decide which nicknames they hate befor the child is even born. As if you can dictate that!

My parents both have names that are commonly shortened to nicknames, think Elizabeth and Alexander (not their real names) and therefore gave me and my sister names with no logical shortening, mine is only three letters! Guess what… my dad still gave me a nickname 😆 it’s longer than my actual name!

Honestly, regardless of what you want or decide your child will ultimately choose. When at school their friends will naturally shorten their name, yes and you may even decide to yourself in time, like my dad 😀

It’s a MN thing ime, I don’t know anyone irl who is obsessed with nicknames like I see on MN, no one calls me by a nickname either so not not everyone gets called by a nickname only seen this on MN

I agree OP. I don't think a lot of people actually understand what a nickname is. It's a name that evolves naturally for whatever reason and may not even have an obvious connection to the given name. For example someone may be called Smiley because they smile a lot but their given name is Jennifer.

What most of the handwringing on here is to think about an diminutive for a particular name. I don't really understand if you want your child to be called Ellie why not just name them that instead of Elsie, Eloise, Eleanor etc etc.

I don't have any DC so I hope this is an unbiased opinion.

It would seem to me to be common sense to consider the nicknames that might evolve from your chosen name.

When your DC are very young you can influence what others call them but once they are at school it will be out of your hands.

When your DC are adults they'll be able to choose how they introduce themselves, although sometimes in the workplace people get a nickname foisted on them whether they like it or not.

Personally, I think it's good to have the option of your full name or a nickname. Childhood is a relatively small proportion of one's overall life, so give your DC the choice.