Husband or mine names part 2

I watched Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey recently and this thread made me think of that.

OP, do you have friends and family outside the relationship?

I'd go with Harper Rose out of the ones you've put forward. Alba makes me think of tvs and stereos

How did your Mum react?

OP with every post you write, the more worried I get about you. I know you started this thread to talk about names, but if you need support with other aspects of your relationship, I'm sure you'd find huge support on here.

And yes, as everyone else says, his names are vile and laughable. Do not give in to him. Do not let him take the baby out of your sight. And putting your maiden name as a second middle name is a good idea!

That doesn't sound good, to be honest.

You're married to a man who knew you as a very young child and basically waited until you were only just overage - but still legally a child - to start a relationship with you. He's had violent physical fights with your father and caused an awful lot of trouble for your family. And now he's bullying you over your daughter's name and treating you like some sort of brood mare, planning to keep getting you pregnant until you eventually provide him with a son, who would no doubt be obviously favoured over your daughters.

Quite honestly, he sounds awful.

Register your daughter alone, with a sensible name that you like, and ideally your maiden name in there for good measure. And think very carefully about whether things are actually "good" in your relationship, and it is setting a good example to your daughter of what a healthy marriage should look like.

Imagine your little baby in six years' time, meeting a 32 year old man. Then imagine her in a sexual relationship with that same man before she's even old enough to have done A-levels. I'm not surprised your dad hit the roof.

Oh OP it really does sound as if you were groomed 17 and a 43 year old - imagine what you would think

And now he is not listening to you at all and just wants his own way with the name and having a son

I agree, much bigger issues here than the baby's name.

Although her baby still deserves not to be saddled with a terrible name.

Please don't saddle your daughter with Levi-Lily. I love the name Margot. Or Alba or Lily are lovely too. I also like Lyra?

Me and DH went for a compromise name. My first choice was Sylvie, his Laura, and we settled on Ava. I accepted he really didn't like Sylvie, and he accepted I didn't like Laura. Tell him no and to give up on Levi-Lily.

OP you could be a victim of grooming. Has he been your only boyfriend? When did you start dating? What does your dad think of his “friend” preying on his Dd? Actually, I noticed the words “WAS a friend of my dad’s.” I think you have more issues than coming up with a name for your Dd. Would you be happy for your friend to date your Dd?

Definitely a power imbalance in this relationship.

It’s awful! Really awful and I like unusual names. I really dislike hyphenated names though. Alba is much nicer.

congratulations on your baby!

Margot is lovely. I much prefer it to Lily.
Your husband sounds like a sexist prick, and creepy to boot. Please make sure you get your surname in there.

The only Levi's I know are boys. Levi-Lily sounds pretty naf - she'll shorten it to Lily as soon as she can

You're a lot younger than him but clearly much more sensible than he is!

My first thoughts on seeing Levi-Lily was Levi and Milly - you know, like Levi Bellfield who murdered several women and girls, including Milly Dowler. Then I saw the word 'evil' in the middle of the name.

I bet your 'D'H wouldn't name a son Jessamine-Robert, or Sophie-John or Isabella-David.

Margot, Alba, Lily and Rose are all better than Levi-Lily.

If he likes L names there are loads of nice girls names to choose from - Lyra, Leila, Layla, Lucy, Lara, Lena, Laura, Lauren, Laurel, Lorna, Louisa/e, Libby, Lucinda, Lowri, Lucille, Lucia etc.

OP, is everything alright in your relationship? What does your dad think about his mate being with his daughter? Your husband doesn't seem to treat you well.

Why does he like hyphenated names? Would he say the whole name every time or just Levi? Does he like names from initials a AJ, MJ etc?

has he considered changing his name by deed poll to Levi?

OP, if you took your husband's name when you got married, have you considered adding your maiden name in as a second middle name?

I don't want to piss on your bonfire, but your husband doesn't sound very nice, and if your marriage doesn't last and you want to change your name back one day, you might be glad of having your surname in there too.

God no.

Alba is nice.

Lily on its own is nice.

Levi is a boys name.

ANYTHING hyphenated is absolutely terrible. I'd instantly judge.

Also, he sounds like a sexist prick. Sorry.

Who does he think he is, Henry VIII?

This. Be very careful, OP.

If you're married either one of you can register the birth without the other's input, so if there's a risk of that happening, make damn sure it's you that does it and not him.