One week old baby- husband won't discuss a name.

I really wouldn’t spell Nancy Nansi - I know they do in Wales but anywhere else it just looks illiterate

Nancy, Orla and Megan are all fine

The first two are fashionable now, Megan was more of a 90s name, but it was never popular enough to sound dated now, so ignore those comments.

I would just accept Angela. Name is decent and he truly wants it and I would just let it. Pick a middle you like.

Give him a shortlist of 3-6 names you like
Ask him which one he dislikes the least
Go and register her as that w Angela as a middle name
Tell him afterwards in a matter of fact way

Then you might want to move to the main business of considering your marriage, because he sounds like a twat.

He doesn't help with his own child properly and he's winding you up on purpose a week after you've given birth? I'd never stay with someone like this, name her yourself and get rid of him,this isn't normal behaviour for a new father. So many people on here having babies with wankers, I don't get it. Congratulations on your daughter, I hope you give her a beautiful name and go off together just the two of you and be happy.

Megan is Welsh, and Nansi is a Welsh spelling of an English name (apparently with Hebrew origins). So neither will reflect your Scottish and Irish ancestry.

Angela is a perfectly nice name, just not to your taste, so there's no need to be rude about it. At the end of the day it's just your preference vs his - neither is right or wrong.

Some good bits of advice here, ditch all current favourite, including Angela, and start again. But suggest Angela as a middle name option.

Did he agree with your DS’s name?

I would insist that both need to agree on a first name and use Angela as a middle name.

Angela over Nanci any day

I quite like Angela, due to a positive association, and pretty sure it will be making a comeback at some point along with other 40s/ 50s names, so you would be ahead of the curve.

Megan peaked 20 years ago and already feels dated. Nancy is nice, and I think goes ok with Angela as a middle name.

I agree though the problems appear to lie in thr relationship and the name is a symptom,

Orla will always have an unfortunate autocorrect so would avoid that one!

I put my foot down with this. My ex wanted to call my pfb Warr ! FFS. He wouldn't discuss it so I registered ds myself. There are some decisions you just have to take.

Angela + Nancy = Annie.

Just a thought?

Ok. You both write down 3 names. You each get to remove one of the other person’s names. The others go in a hat and you pick one out each and that’s the middle and first names.

Will he really not discuss it? Could you actively make him by writing down a list of 5 or 6 names, including Angela and the names you like plus a couple of more neutral ones that might be options, then give them each a score out of 5. If he refuses, try to jolly him along by saying “I’m guessing you’d give Angela 5 points”. Then, if he doesn’t engage, start guessing aloud what points he’d give the other names. Hopefully he’ll then comment eg “No, I hate Megan. It’s the worst of the lot, even worse then Nansi” etc.

Not ideal but at least you then a) have offered him a definite chance to make his opinions known, and b) hopefully have some inkling about which names he dislikes most, so you can bear that in mind if you choose to register a name without him.

How about some variation on Angela as a compromise? Angel, Angelica, etc, or an A name.

Megan is Welsh 🤔
i actually think Angela is fine but use it as a middle name and that’s you making a compromise, you choose the first.

But so far he’s not been a parent to the child, he’s fucked off back to work after 3 days, barely lifted a finger for nappies or feeds, and used the child as a tool to wind OP up while refusing to have a conversation about something as important as what they call their child.

And they will both be parents to the child and use its name for the rest of their lives

Are you sure he didn't register her without you knowing?

There's such a double standard on MN sometimes, because the comments if he had done it would be completely different.

Yes, because she carried the baby for 9 months, gave birth and is the one caring for her. It's not remotely the same thing.

Nansi Angela or Megan Angela are both nice.

Nanci oral and Megan are all lovely names. Angela is horrendous Stick to your guns

This kind of attitude baffles me.

As they're married, OPs husband could also sneak off and register the baby, if he so chose. Maybe he already has and she's called "Angela" officially already 🤷🏼‍♀️

There's such a double standard on MN sometimes, because the comments if he had done it would be completely different.

OP - you're going to have to sit down with him again and compromise. Agree to use as a middle and accept that you'll just have to find a different first name that it goes with better. It really isn't the worst name in the world.

You need to stop this by giving her a name and registering it. He’s behaving like this because there is a vacuum.

if he’s not going to discuss it… well, you tried. If one of you is going to be disappointed, it is not going to be the one of you that carried her for nine months.

Pick a name, quickly, do not compromise, and go and register without him. Tell everyone. Then the name thing is over (but you are still stuck with him).

The name problem is just a symptom of deeper issues here I fear.

He has checked out of parenting, checked out of partnering you, and stopped communication dead.

You have a lot going on, but somehow or other you need to get to the bottom of it. What he is doing is not acceptable.
Keeps saying hello little Angela to the baby to wind me up.
This is awful. The baby is his own real, live child, and he is using her to get under your skin, and apparently that is the only involvement he has with her.

This man really dislikes you, OP, or really dislikes being a father of three. Either way, there are huge problems in the relationship.

Wrt names - start again. Ditch all your favourites and ditch Angela.
If he won't budge, go and register her yourself, and if he kicks up about it, you can safely assume he provoked the fight for reasons of his own.